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46 Redwood City, CA Man


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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 28–46
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

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6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body type
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Atheism, and very serious about it
Graduated from Ph.D program
Science / Engineering
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
English (Fluently), Dutch (Fluently), German (Fluently), French (Poorly), Norwegian (Poorly)
My self-summary
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Some day I'll get around to actually filling out this profile properly -- though I realize that by saying so, that sentence will probably stay there forever. [Edit: I have actually edited my profile several times, but that sentence is still there]. Anyway, briefly for now: I grew up in Europe, lived in several countries on both sides of the Atlantic, and I tremendously like living in the Bay Area. I have a collection of very geeky grad degrees and I do triathlons and Tough Mudders and all that. I'm sure I'll write more soon. Meanwhile here are some important points that might narrow things down fairly quickly..:

I am open to friendships as well as a romantic relationship. My goal is to start a family -- from scratch! -- within a stable romantic relationship. If you're not on the latter path then we may still be wonderful friends, while I continue the search for my goal. I do not subscribe to the institution of marriage in terms of tradition, religion, or other symbolism, though I recognize the practical legal need. More in general, I'm a free thinker: I like to make up my mind based on my own thoughts and preferences and reasoning, rather than be dictated by convention and dogma. That does not mean however that I will automatically do the opposite; otherwise the herd would still be telling me what to do.

Favourite motto: "Both"! If there is more than one good option, why restrict ourselves to only one? Not everything has to be a winner take all competition. As a result I don't like all the "do you prefer A or B" questions. If they're both good then there's no reason to prefer one over the other. What's better, A or B? A AND B!

I believe that relationships ought to be based on adding happiness to each other's lives, rather than what appears to be society's mainstream model of defining relationships in terms of restrictions. I derive happiness from my partner's happiness, not from denying it. I think that jealousy and possessiveness are not expressions of love but expressions of insecurity.

I also believe that people should do what makes them happy as long as it doesn't make anyone else unhappy. One should be open-minded to realize that others may have other preferences, and there's no need to impose those on each other.

If you're of the same mind as me then you probably have a fairly good idea what kind of relationship I have in mind. It's important to note that for me it's not because I want to "have my cake and eat it too" (which by the way is a phenomenally ridiculous saying... what's the point of having cake if you can't eat it?). I am genuinely compersive -- and if you know what that word means we'll definitely hit it off!
The first things people usually notice about me
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My odd username. It's not some obscure acronym or puzzle. It's just that kept telling me "that name is already chosen" so I typed in a totally random string.

Oh, and another thing people usually notice about me is my cute butt. (:
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You're a free thinker. You're passionate about learning and adventure. You think that relationships should bring enhancements to each other's lives, not restrictions. You are free from irrational jealousy, possessiveness, and superstition. You believe that nudity is natural and guns are immoral, not the other way around. You think we might need each other only a little bit, but want each other a lot.