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46 • Redwood City, CA • Man
I’m looking for
- Ages 28–46
- Located anywhere
- Who are single
- For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex
- Last online
- Today – 7:47am
- 6′ 0″ (1.83m)
- Body type
- Strictly anything
- Atheism, and very serious about it
- Graduated from Ph.D program
- Science / Engineering
- Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
- English (Fluently), Dutch (Fluently), German (Fluently), French (Poorly), Norwegian (Poorly)
I am open to friendships as well as a romantic relationship. My goal is to start a family -- from scratch! -- within a stable romantic relationship. If you're not on the latter path then we may still be wonderful friends, while I continue the search for my goal. I do not subscribe to the institution of marriage in terms of tradition, religion, or other symbolism, though I recognize the practical legal need. More in general, I'm a free thinker: I like to make up my mind based on my own thoughts and preferences and reasoning, rather than be dictated by convention and dogma. That does not mean however that I will automatically do the opposite; otherwise the herd would still be telling me what to do.
Favourite motto: "Both"! If there is more than one good option, why restrict ourselves to only one? Not everything has to be a winner take all competition. As a result I don't like all the "do you prefer A or B" questions. If they're both good then there's no reason to prefer one over the other. What's better, A or B? A AND B!
I believe that relationships ought to be based on adding happiness to each other's lives, rather than what appears to be society's mainstream model of defining relationships in terms of restrictions. I derive happiness from my partner's happiness, not from denying it. I think that jealousy and possessiveness are not expressions of love but expressions of insecurity.
I also believe that people should do what makes them happy as long as it doesn't make anyone else unhappy. One should be open-minded to realize that others may have other preferences, and there's no need to impose those on each other.
If you're of the same mind as me then you probably have a fairly good idea what kind of relationship I have in mind. It's important to note that for me it's not because I want to "have my cake and eat it too" (which by the way is a phenomenally ridiculous saying... what's the point of having cake if you can't eat it?). I am genuinely compersive -- and if you know what that word means we'll definitely hit it off!
Oh, and another thing people usually notice about me is my cute butt. (:
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