Some day I'll get around to actually filling out this profile properly -- though I realize that by saying so, that sentence will probably stay there forever. Anyway, briefly for now: I grew up in Europe, lived in several countries on both sides of the Atlantic, and I tremendously like living in the Bay Area. I have a collection of very geeky grad degrees and I do triathlon (in between injuries) and all that. I'm sure I'll write more soon. Meanwhile here are some important points that might narrow things down fairly quickly..:
I am open to friendships as well as (edit: no longer) a romantic relationship, and I do want to start a family; however, I do not subscribe to the institution of marriage. More in general, I'm a free thinker: I like to make up my mind based on my own thoughts and preferences and reasoning, rather than be dictated by convention and dogma. That does not mean however that I will automatically do the opposite; otherwise the herd would still be telling me what to do.
Favourite motto: "Both"! If there is more than one good option, why restrict ourselves to only one? Not everything has to be a winner take all competition. As a result I don't like all the "do you prefer A or B" questions. I might like neither, or I might like both, and in the latter case there's no reason to prefer one over the other.
I believe that relationships ought to be based on adding happiness to each other's lives, rather than what appears to be society's mainstream model of defining relationships in terms of restrictions. I derive happiness from my partner's happiness, not from denying it. I think that jealousy and possessiveness are not expressions of love but expressions of insecurity.
I also believe that people should do what makes them happy as long as it doesn't make anyone else unhappy. One should be open-minded to realize that others may have other preferences, and there's no need to impose those on each other. For instance I'm strongly in favour of marriage equality and legalization of marijuana even though I decidedly want to stay away from them myself.
If you're of the same mind as me then you probably have a fairly good idea what kind of relationship I have in mind. It's important to note that for me it's not because I want to "have my cake and eat it too" (which by the way is a phenomenally ridiculous saying... what's the point of having cake if you can't eat it?). I have genuine compersion -- and if you know what that word means we'll definitely hit it off!