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_elaine_

43 M San Francisco, CA

My Details

Last Online
Today – 5:07pm
Orientation
Bisexual
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body Type
Athletic
Diet
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Sometimes
Religion
Atheism, and somewhat serious about it
Sign
Pisces, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Technology
Income
$80,000–$100,000
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t want kids
Pets
Speaks
English (Fluently), French (Poorly)

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My self-summary
I immerse myself in music and enjoy designing, making and modifying clothes. I invent recipes on the spot, build furniture, art bicycles, and generally take joy in beautiful creations, whether others' or my own.

Tendencies towards geekiness and radicalism cause me to not blend fully into most normative social constructs. I clean up nice when necessary, but I try to limit those affairs. In particular, I challenge gender norms in dress, activity and appellation.

I'd like to meet intriguing people, especially if there is mutual attraction and interest in polymathematic collaboration.

I'd like to meet potential lovers, conversationalists, activists, musicians and other collaborators.

Could that be you?

I would also like to find someone to live with, which will most likely be my primary partner, wrytsalot.
What I’m doing with my life
A fierce balance between what I love, what is financially necessary, and what is socially compelling.

For income, I do technical stuff and am a sort of "professional figure-out-erer".

I am a social activist and have been involved with organizations working on the big picture, while struggling to make a difference in the here and now.

Most of my energy goes into music, everything from spontaneous collaborations to orchestrated recordings, building a studio, tuning pianos and practicing cornet while waiting for MUNI.

I produce a line of martial arts-inspired clothing.
I’m really good at
Audacity. Fixing bicycles. Balancing. Counterpoint. Sight-reading. Kissing. Posing fashion questions. Tweaking wordpress.

Also certain crazy mad skills that I've spent much of my adult life honing.
The first things people usually notice about me
Something I'm wearing or the way I'm wearing it, because I'm cross dressing, doing a gender hmmmm, or riding a bike. It turns out that people really like to comment on suspenders.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I tend to consume an awful lot of books concurrently, so some inevitably fall through the cracks. I recently decided to finish up a whole shelf of them on which I stalled out: Tragedy of the Chinese Revolution by Isaacs, Myths of Male Dominance by Burke-Leacock, Family Properties by Satter, Ways of Seeing by Berger. Still haven't gotten around to Boswell's Johnson.

I don't follow movies, and movie stars even less. Clue me in to one better than Taxi Driver and I'll be pleased. I find black & white films and subtitles to be intriguing.

I enjoy really good music of any variety, although my parents ruined Polka for me--other than that, they are absolutely great folks!

I dearly enjoy good food of all kinds. I skew towards tasty and nutritious food, which can include bacon. I try to refrain from being uppity and moralistic about food sources.
The six things I could never do without
Reeds
Breath
Bicycles
Fountain pens
Spices
Reflection
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Why are gender norms enforced with such striking rigidity?

Is it possible to be both skeptical and optimistic about okc?
On a typical Friday night I am
Staying in and producing, cooking or enjoying food with friends or lovers, mixed up in some scene.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 34–53
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
You find it refreshing for a guy to use the name Elaine.

You practice some form of consensual non-monogamy, like open relationships, friends with benefits or polyamory.

You want to collaborate on a meal.

Your zest or charm will induce me to write a song about you.