Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I immerse myself in music and enjoy designing, making and modifying
clothes. I invent recipes on the spot, build furniture, art
bicycles, and generally take joy in beautiful creations, whether
others' or my own.
Tendencies towards geekiness and radicalism cause me to not blend
fully into most normative social constructs. I clean up nice when
necessary, but I try to limit those affairs. In particular, I
challenge gender norms in dress, activity and appellation.
I'd like to meet intriguing people, especially if there is mutual
attraction and interest in polymathematic collaboration.
I'd like to meet potential lovers, conversationalists, activists,
musicians and other collaborators.
Could that be you?
Please note that I am non-monogamous and have a refreshing and
consenting primary partner, wrytsalot
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
A fierce balance between what I love, what is financially
necessary, and what is socially compelling.
For income, I am a professional figure-out-erer.
I am a social activist and have been involved with organizations
working on the big picture, while struggling to make a difference
in the here and now.
Most of my energy goes into music, everything from street brass
bands and spontaneous collaborations to orchestrated recordings,
studying Hindustani and Moroccan traditions, tuning pianos and
practicing cornet while waiting for MUNI.
I produce a line of martial arts-inspired clothing.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Audacity. Fixing bicycles. Balancing. Counterpoint. Sight-reading.
Kissing. Posing fashion questions. Tweaking wordpress.
Also certain crazy mad skills that I've spent much of my adult life
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Something I'm wearing or the way I'm wearing it, because I'm cross
dressing, doing a gender hmmmm, or riding a bike. It turns out that
people really like to comment on suspenders.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Here's what I'm currently reading: City of Quartz -- Davis; The
Metamorphoses of Kinship -- Godelier; How Revolutionary Were the
Bourgeois Revolutions? -- Davidson; Women, Art & Society --
Chadwick; Theories of Surplus Value -- Marx; and This Business of
Songwriting -- Blume. Still haven't gotten around to Boswell's
I don't follow movies, and movie stars even less. Clue me in to one
better than Taxi Driver and I'll be pleased. Black & white
films with subtitles are intriguing.
I enjoy really good music of any variety, although my parents
ruined Polka for me--other than that, they are absolutely great
I dearly enjoy good food of all kinds. I skew towards tasty and
nutritious food, which can include bacon. I try to refrain from
being moralistic about food sources.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Why are gender norms enforced with such striking rigidity?
How to get from here to there, while enjoying the journey.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Staying in and producing, cooking or enjoying food with friends or
lovers, mixed up in some scene.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You find it refreshing for a guy to use the name Elaine.
You practice some form of consensual non-monogamy, like open
relationships, friends with benefits or polyamory.
You want to collaborate on a meal.
Your zest or charm will induce me to write a song about you.
Who are you looking for?
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