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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 35-53
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 11:41am
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
6' 1" (1.85m)
Body Type
Special Diet
Atheism and it’s important
Doesn’t want kids
English (Fluently), French (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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I immerse myself in music and enjoy designing, making and modifying clothes. I invent recipes on the spot, build furniture, art bicycles, and generally take joy in beautiful creations, whether others' or my own.

Tendencies towards geekiness and radicalism cause me to not blend fully into most normative social constructs. I clean up nice when necessary, but I try to limit those affairs. In particular, I challenge gender norms in dress, activity and appellation.

I'd like to meet intriguing people, especially if there is mutual attraction and interest in polymathematic collaboration.

I'd like to meet potential lovers, conversationalists, activists, musicians and other collaborators.

Could that be you?

Please note that I am non-monogamous and have a refreshing and consenting primary partner, wrytsalot.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
A fierce balance between what I love, what is financially necessary, and what is socially compelling.

For income, I am a professional figure-out-erer.

I am a social activist and have been involved with organizations working on the big picture, while struggling to make a difference in the here and now.

Most of my energy goes into music, everything from street brass bands and spontaneous collaborations to orchestrated recordings, studying Hindustani and Moroccan traditions, tuning pianos and practicing cornet while waiting for MUNI.

I produce a line of martial arts-inspired clothing.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Audacity. Fixing bicycles. Balancing. Counterpoint. Sight-reading. Kissing. Posing fashion questions. Tweaking wordpress.

Also certain crazy mad skills that I've spent much of my adult life honing.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Something I'm wearing or the way I'm wearing it, because I'm cross dressing, doing a gender hmmmm, or riding a bike. It turns out that people really like to comment on suspenders.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Here's what I'm currently reading: Playing the Whore -- Grant; Time Management -- Morgenstern; The Metamorphoses of Kinship -- Godelier; How Revolutionary Were the Bourgeois Revolutions? -- Davidson; Women, Art & Society -- Chadwick; Theories of Surplus Value -- Marx; and This Business of Songwriting -- Blume. Still haven't gotten around to Boswell's Johnson.

I don't follow movies, and movie stars even less. Clue me in to one better than Taxi Driver and I'll be pleased. Black & white films with subtitles are intriguing.

I enjoy really good music of any variety, although my parents ruined Polka for me--other than that, they are absolutely great folks!

I dearly enjoy good food of all kinds. I skew towards tasty and nutritious food, which can include bacon. I try to refrain from being moralistic about food sources.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Fountain pens
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Why are gender norms enforced with such striking rigidity?

How to get from here to there, while enjoying the journey.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Staying in and producing, cooking or enjoying food with friends or lovers, mixed up in some scene.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm ticklish.
You should message me if
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You find it refreshing for a guy to use the name Elaine.

You practice some form of consensual non-monogamy, like open relationships, friends with benefits or polyamory.

You want to collaborate on a meal.

Your zest or charm will induce me to write a song about you.