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32 F Brooklyn, NY

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5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Strictly other
Graduated from masters program
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Mostly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids

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My self-summary
"And now I want to tell you about my late Uncle Alex. He was my father’s kid brother, a childless graduate of Harvard who was an honest life insurance salesman in Indianapolis. He was well-read and wise. And his principal complaint about other human beings was that they so seldom noticed it when they were happy. So when we were drinking lemonade under an apple tree in the summer, say, and talking lazily about this and that, almost buzzing like honeybees, Uncle Alex would suddenly interrupt the agreeable blather to exclaim, “If this isn’t nice, I don’t know what is.”

So I do the same now, and so do my kids and grandkids. And I urge you to please notice when you are happy, and exclaim or murmur or think at some point, 'If this isn’t nice, I don’t know what is.'"
Kurt Vonnegut

Not a manic-pixie-dream-girl, but people often make that mistake.


(I check OkC sporadically. I have been on hiatus (again!), and giving it another gander.)
What I’m doing with my life
exploring new ways of living my values. devoting more time to play. making a living by creating alternatives. hoping to leave this world a little kinder than I found it. striving toward being and becoming, and away from doing and defining.

living for summer. radical, anti-oppressive social workin' it every which way.
I’m really good at
Being emphatic. Getting people to talk. Identifying how things are problematic. Having fun in bed (and out of it). Reading entire books in an afternoon. Being passionate about soo many things. Creating life plans. Laughing a lot. Tenderness. Fierceness. Making people feel at home. Taking risks. Eating brunch.

I'm not good at:
Casual conversation. Finding shoes that fit me properly. Math. Being fake. Responding in a consistently timely way to emails/phone calls. Heteronormativity. Eating dinner.
The first things people usually notice about me
Big eyes, big cheeks, big personality.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Things I like:
On a serious Octavia Butler and Brene Brown kick for 2014
Buddhism (Pema Chodron is my girl)
bell hooks
Audre Lorde
Young adult dystopian novels
Magical realism
Memoirs, especially graphic novel format
Carl Jung & Joseph Campbell
Jean Genet
The Wire
Music of the folk, sad bastard, 90s feminist punk, and bootie shakin varieties.
The MadTV "nice white lady" sketch
Amy Poehler, Tina Fey, Mindy Kaling
Vonnegut, he knows what's up with life
Word games, generally, strategy games, sometimes
Cuisines of all kinds, but especially gluten-free. Mainly so I don't break out in hives.
The six things I could never do without
my family (both birth and chosen)
a library card (or 4, as the case may be)
meaningful conversations
touch/physical affection
a cobbler (I wear the shit out of some high heeled boots)
(parenthetical statements)

(I get kinda sad when people list their gadgets here. Really? That's what you can't live without? #firstworldproblems)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Alternatives. To capitalism, traditional relationship and family structures, housing, everything!

Intentions vs. impact.

Racism and privilege.

How to make seeds transform into plants.

How to become besties with bell hooks.

What interests I would pursue if I had endless time (singing, urban planning, acupuncture and herbalism, history of social movements...)
On a typical Friday night I am
Cooking, drinking, plotting the revolution with friends, going to bed early so I'm rested for roller derby in the morning.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm down with the idea of meeting some one I might seriously like. SHOCKING, I KNOW! Along that line, I'm more interested in meeting a nice lady these days than a fella.

Also, I am excellent at rock climbing through streams/waterfalls.
I’m looking for
  • Guys and girls who like bi girls
  • Ages 27–37
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
you're ridiculously smart with a big ol' heart, full of belly laughs, and have an insatiable appetite for life.

bonus points for dimples and a love of the beach.