Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Inquisitive, curious, tactile. Interested in other people, their
lives and experiences. Warm-hearted and kind, but usually up for a
bit of banter and a laugh as well.
Looking to get to know interesting people and open to the
possibility of a serious relationship developing. Is that still
possible here in the world of rapid-fire, low-investment and very
brief text messaging?
Still trying to figure out else what to write here. Thought of
something as I was falling asleep last night. I wonder what it
Hopefully the rest of the sections will give you an idea of me.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Learn, love and laugh. :-)
I live with fibromyalgia, which poses many challenges and makes for
a different sort of life. The usual sorts of accomplishments are
mostly out of my reach, so instead I choose every day to focus on
things like deepening my understanding of the world and everything
in it, appreciating its beauty, and learning how to live with
peace, gratitude and genuine joy.
It's not the kind of life every one is willing to share. It's what
I have to offer.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Teaching in an informal setting, writing, listening closely (and
communicating that), helping people learn to value themselves.
Using visual arts and music to stimulate curiosity.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Height and accent I think. They're what people tend to comment on.
They also tend to assume I'm much younger than I am. That's not an
old photo. (oops, it is now. i'm about a stone lighter, have a bit
of grey no one else seems to be able to see and people still tend
to think me a good 10-13 years younger than i am.)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Cultural magpie, so I'm drawn to books, films and music from around
the world. Happy to share, but I don't mind pursuing such interests
on my own. Favourites include lush Chinese cinematography and
Especially love Scotland's dynamic 'trad' music scene. Here's a
clip of the kind of music I'm most likely to go hear on my own.
Also enjoy blues, old soul, Motown, Dylan, Cohen, Waits, Chris
Smither, JJ Cale, Joan Baez, George Harrison, Allman Bros, Delaney
& Bonnie, REM, etc. Oh, and a bit of opera. I tend not to think
in terms of "I don't like that" but in terms of "I haven't learned
how to listen to that yet".
Out of the loop filmwise, how do you find the good ones amongst all
of the current overheated leftovers? Would love to have help in
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
music, friends, conversation, new interests, time alone, laughter
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
A lot of things. :-)
Current favourites for mental stimulation are history and
geography. I think I'm making up for a childhood in an abysmally
Have you figured out yet that I don't take myself seriously? I'm
going to look like a right glaikit dafty if I keep with the smiles
to clue you in.
My religious/spiritual/prayer/meditative life is very important to
me. It's also deeply personal. I'm happy to respect other people's
beliefs or lack of. All I ask is the same in return.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
If I'm seeing someone, hopefully with him. Maybe out for some
music, dinner or a quiet night in. I know that's clichéd, but good
conversation with one person or a small group has always been more
my speed than a crowded club.
If I'm on my own, chances are it involves a film, book or music.
Most likely music.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Stepping back from being pro-active in this for awhile. I know that
on-line dating is demanding, but never measuring up is wearing on
Or maybe it's more that on-line dating is becoming even harder.
Maybe I'm just having bad luck, but I keep running into profiles
that don't give much to go on, brief (and often generic) text
messages, and, generally speaking, minimal investment in getting to
know each other.
If you'd like to get to know me, don't hide yourself.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You don't talk in 'shoulds'. %-)
Waves hello to all the romance scammers who won't bother to read
And to the PUA boy spammers, read my self-summary above and do the
maths. If you throw me a strange enough line, I probably will
'waste' your time asking you questions. You have been warned.
Just a friendly note from an experience here. Someone I was getting
on with well through e-mail disappeared for nearly a month, then
asked if I'd be interested in meeting him. I would have been,
definitely if not for that month, and might still be if he had a
reasonable explanation. The thing is, I was in hospital (which he
knew was upcoming) when he sent the invitation and by the time I'd
logged back in he'd deleted his account. I don't have any way to
get a hold of him to tell him that of course.
This and a few other things have reminded me of how little we might
know about what's going on in the lives of the people we're in
contact with over the internet, and how important it is not to read
our own emotions into their words and silences.
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