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48 Aberdeen, UK Woman


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I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 35-80
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 8:04am
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
5' 9" (1.75m)
Body Type
Average build
Agnosticism and it’s important
Doesn’t have kids
English (Fluently), French (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Inquisitive, curious, tactile. Interested in other people, their lives and experiences. Warm-hearted and kind, but usually up for a bit of banter and a laugh as well.

Looking to get to know interesting people and open to the possibility of a serious relationship developing. Is that still possible here in the world of rapid-fire, low-investment and very brief text messaging?

Still trying to figure out else what to write here. Thought of something as I was falling asleep last night. I wonder what it was....

Hopefully the rest of the sections will give you an idea of me.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Learn, love and laugh. :-)

I live with fibromyalgia, which poses many challenges and makes for a different sort of life. The usual sorts of accomplishments are mostly out of my reach, so instead I choose every day to focus on things like deepening my understanding of the world and everything in it, appreciating its beauty, and learning how to live with peace, gratitude and genuine joy.

It's not the kind of life every one is willing to share. It's what I have to offer.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Teaching in an informal setting, writing, listening closely (and communicating that), helping people learn to value themselves. Using visual arts and music to stimulate curiosity.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Height and accent I think. They're what people tend to comment on. They also tend to assume I'm much younger than I am. That's not an old photo. (oops, it is now. i'm about a stone lighter, have a bit of grey no one else seems to be able to see and people still tend to think me a good 10-13 years younger than i am.)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Cultural magpie, so I'm drawn to books, films and music from around the world. Happy to share, but I don't mind pursuing such interests on my own. Favourites include lush Chinese cinematography and Scandinavian fiction.

Especially love Scotland's dynamic 'trad' music scene. Here's a clip of the kind of music I'm most likely to go hear on my own.

Also enjoy blues, old soul, Motown, Dylan, Cohen, Waits, Chris Smither, JJ Cale, Joan Baez, George Harrison, Allman Bros, Delaney & Bonnie, REM, etc. Oh, and a bit of opera. I tend not to think in terms of "I don't like that" but in terms of "I haven't learned how to listen to that yet".

Out of the loop filmwise, how do you find the good ones amongst all of the current overheated leftovers? Would love to have help in that.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
music, friends, conversation, new interests, time alone, laughter
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
A lot of things. :-)

Current favourites for mental stimulation are history and geography. I think I'm making up for a childhood in an abysmally flat landscape.

Have you figured out yet that I don't take myself seriously? I'm going to look like a right glaikit dafty if I keep with the smiles to clue you in.

My religious/spiritual/prayer/meditative life is very important to me. It's also deeply personal. I'm happy to respect other people's beliefs or lack of. All I ask is the same in return.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
If I'm seeing someone, hopefully with him. Maybe out for some music, dinner or a quiet night in. I know that's clichéd, but good conversation with one person or a small group has always been more my speed than a crowded club.

If I'm on my own, chances are it involves a film, book or music. Most likely music.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Stepping back from being pro-active in this for awhile. I know that on-line dating is demanding, but never measuring up is wearing on me.

Or maybe it's more that on-line dating is becoming even harder. Maybe I'm just having bad luck, but I keep running into profiles that don't give much to go on, brief (and often generic) text messages, and, generally speaking, minimal investment in getting to know each other.

If you'd like to get to know me, don't hide yourself.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You don't talk in 'shoulds'. %-)
Waves hello to all the romance scammers who won't bother to read this. :-)

And to the PUA boy spammers, read my self-summary above and do the maths. If you throw me a strange enough line, I probably will 'waste' your time asking you questions. You have been warned. :-)
Just a friendly note from an experience here. Someone I was getting on with well through e-mail disappeared for nearly a month, then asked if I'd be interested in meeting him. I would have been, definitely if not for that month, and might still be if he had a reasonable explanation. The thing is, I was in hospital (which he knew was upcoming) when he sent the invitation and by the time I'd logged back in he'd deleted his account. I don't have any way to get a hold of him to tell him that of course.

This and a few other things have reminded me of how little we might know about what's going on in the lives of the people we're in contact with over the internet, and how important it is not to read our own emotions into their words and silences.