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_sjb_

39 / M / Straight / Single

Palo Alto, California

His Details

Last Online
May 19
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 6″ (1.68m).
Body Type
Athletic
Diet
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Religion
Other and laughing about it
Sign
Scorpio and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from college/university
Job
Sales / Marketing / Biz Dev
Income
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids
Pets
Has dogs
Speaks
English (Fluently), Spanish (Fluently)

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My self-summary
I travel, I work hard, I play with enthusiasm. I enjoy the outdoors and the ocean- I can't go very long without being submerged in water.

I like learning. I love to solve problems. I enjoy well-crafted sentences. When people say something witty, and it takes me a few minutes to catch it... I love that.

I'm a great friend, an attentive lover, and a loyal companion. I anticipate my next relationship to build in that order, more or less.

I know enough about myself to know that I'm comfortable with who I am, and that I don't know everything about myself.

I've spent about half of my life living outside of the USA. I feel fortunate to have the advantages that we have here, but I am easily lured away by new places, foods, ideas, sights and sounds. I have no idea where I might live next... the list of 'good ideas' is much longer than the list of 'no way' locations. I seriously doubt that I'll stay on the Peninsula forever.

I am much more likely to wake up at 5am to go do something than to stay up till 5am. I'd rather watch a spectacular sunrise with a cup of coffee, or drink wine with a few friends over a long dinner, than stay out all night partying.

I'm talkative, patient, open, curious, friendly, supportive, and generally enthusiastic. I've been told that I'm too trusting for my own good.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm enjoying sunsets, laughing whenever possible, working hard because I like it, not just for the money, and taking time to appreciate the things around me. I'm taking care of myself. I'm laughing, a lot, because life is a little ridiculous.

Stuff I like to do? swim, garden, eat good food, stroll farmer's markets, kiss slowly, discuss un-answerable questions, tinker with my car, anything beach-y, massage, read, travel, say 'yes' to stuff that makes me mildly uncomfortable, watch clouds or stars, hot tub, yoga, walk, camp, sex, whistle, surf, mountain bike (more to follow).
I’m really good at
Fixing things- mechanical or otherwise.
Supporting my friends- I feel that if you aren't available when your friends need you, you should reconsider calling yourself a friend.
Dogs. I love 'em, they love me. If money were no object, sometimes I think I'd be a dog trainer. But only sometimes.
Making "there's nothing in the fridge" into "What a nice meal"
The first things people usually notice about me
my eyes are very blue, especially when I'm happy to see someone... and that I talk (a lot).
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I like to read. I'll pick up almost anything, but tend to like funny books (Carl Hiaason is a favorite) or detective (Raymond Chandler). I'm also a fan of Tony Horwitz and other non-fiction or travel writers.
On my bedside table right now:
Travels with Charlie (Steinbeck); Prosperity Without Growth (Tim Jackson); The Success Principles (Jack Canfield); Aquaponic Gardening (Bernstein); Natural Capitalism (Hawkin, Lovins & Lovings); Let My People Go Surfing (Yves Chouinard).

I don't own a TV, but I do enjoy chilling on a friend's couch watching once in a while. Shows I've liked: Arrested Development, Weeds (early seasons), Party Down. I loved Cheers, as a kid.

Movies: comedy, mostly. I do enjoy a good action movie (James Bond/Mission Impossible/etc) but the violence gets less 'fun' to me as time goes on. There's enough violence on the news.

Music: I don't know where to start. The first tape I bought was Men At Work (I now forget which one), I still like them, mostly. In high school I got hooked on The Beatles. I still love their music, much more now. I also listen to complete crap on pop radio, without reservation: I don't know who they are, but I have songs that I like more than others. I'm annoyed by dub step, but it gets played enough at places I enjoy (like my climbing gym) that I now recognize "songs" and confess that some of them aren't so bad. Mostly I play music that involves not very many people playing instruments that don't require electricity. Rock, folk, classical, etc. I'll attend nearly any live music event to which I'm invited.

Food: I have eclectic taste. I eat low on the food chain when possible, but will happily eat whatever is served to me.
I cook, both frequently and well. I bake bread sometimes. Street food, purchased on location in far away places: YUM. Totally worth the occasional GI disaster. I like food trucks, even if they are getting a little pretentious. I'll pick an unknown hole in the wall over a chain restaurant 10 times out of 10.

bourbon, old vine zin, craft beer. sometimes a martini. maybe a gin and tonic, but only on a hot day. In the tropics: rum.

I eat chocolate (only dark) every day. My nearly-100 year old grandmother told me to. How can I argue with her?
The six things I could never do without
fresh air, new ideas, familial support, a good hug, delicious food, a view of the sunrise/sunset
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Where I'm traveling next, or where I'm traveling now. Cars. Work. My dog. The importance of accepting what is, and enjoying it, instead of worrying about what isn't.
On a typical Friday night I am
There's not much typical about my Fridays. I'm often en-route to some adventure, or maybe grabbing a drink/food with friends. Possibly at the climbing gym.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I once was married. That ended two years ago. I'm not in a hurry to be married again, but welcome the idea.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 27–40
  • Near me
  • For new friends, short-term dating, activity partners
You should message me if
You would enjoy chatting over a meal or a coffee, or maybe going for a walk somewhere pleasant, preferably outdoors. Or you have an interesting event to which you want to take a complete stranger.