Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I am not pretty. I am not someone that draws stares from
across the room. However, I have often have been called attractive
after I crossed the room and began a conversation. Additionally, if
I can judged by the company that I keep, it may mean something that
I have typically dated women who most would call pretty. I guess I
am that guy.
I am not relentlessly optimistic. I don't bound out of bed in the
morning and list the wonderful things that I intend to do that day.
I do have times when the glass is half empty. I have read Kafka,
enjoyed movies with unhappy endings and, on occasion, spent a fair
amount of time in the German Expressionism gallery of museums. That
said, I have often, to my surprise, been described by friends as
energetic, encouraging and warm [go figure].
I am no longer trim or fit. This is may be the hardest thing to
admit and, honestly, it surprises me sometimes - I still picture
myself as I was in my 30's. When my life settles a bit, I hope to
spend some time in the pool/gym and then delete this paragraph [I
I tend to overthink things [or so I have been told]. That is not to
say I am not spontaneous; many of the best parts on my life have
been unplanned and/or spur of the moment. But I do settle in for a
bit of extended exegetical analysis from time to time - and I enjoy
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I am in between things at the moment.
I have worked in restaurants for more than two decades, including a
stint as GM of a Michelin-starred restaurant in SF [I have the gray
hairs to prove it]. I have been told that this should make me a
trophy boyfriend for a devout foodie [tongue firmly planted in
cheek at this point].
As present, I am out of restaurants, going to school and
considering a career switch.
Oh, and I am parenting a pair of 9 year old boys [50/50 custody].
Frankly, that seems like more than a full time job in itself at
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
...making it up as I go along.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
"My comfort is that old age, that ill layer-up of beauty, can
do no more spoil upon my face. Thou hast me, if thou hast me, at
the worst, and thou shalt wear me, if thou wear me, better and
-Henry of Monmouth, "Henry V", William Shakespeare
I has always loved this line. While it doesn't necessarily apply to
me (I have never been called ugly, at least not to my knowledge), I
like the idea that anyone who gets to know me will find that they
like me more and more as time passes.
Bonus points for anyone for whom the Kenneth Branagh production of
this play is their favorite. To this day, when I stumble onto the
movie while flipping through channels, I stop what I am doing and
watch the remainder of the movie.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
... why recently I am more interested in chatting with women who
have high scores on both "Match" and "Enemy". It is almost like
"Y'all got issues" is an aphrodisiac.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
... spending time with my kids.
When I don't have the boys, Fridays include getting out of the
house for some cultural event [this should be read with faux stiff
upper lip] or settling in for some low
Oh, and dinner. Ideally, at a place that knows the value of butter
or lard, isn't afraid of salt and doesn't take itself more
seriously than the food it offers.
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