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a_neat_aesthete

25 New York, NY Man

Man

I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 19–49
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Nov 17
Orientation
Bisexual
Ethnicity
Height
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Fit
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Sometimes
Religion
Agnosticism, and somewhat serious about it
Sign
Aries, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Job
Art / Music / Writing
Income
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
Offspring
Pets
Speaks
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I wear a lot of hats...

I have a lot of interests; I'm very horizontal, it generally takes a while for people to really get a sense of who I am or what I want in life.

A friend of mine recently told a lover that I "(am) many things. But if (I'm) one thing, (I'm) com-pli-ca-ted." When I heard this I shrugged a retort, "I'm not complicated, I'm sophisticated..." But really, I knew he was right.... I tend to prefer spectrum to binaries and broad connections to in depth focus, though I probably approach my most technical processes from the opposing position. I tend to think of things on a grey-scale; I'm not a black or white kind of guy, at all.

...I love semicolons.

I'm polyamorous (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Polyamory) and while I find polyamory to be a beautiful and fulfilling challenge, it is also just that: a challenge. I'm currently in the process of redefining a couple of the most intimate relationships in my life (PennPaul, adversecamber). Did I mention this was difficult? Loving people is such hard work...

If you believe deep down that the only valid romantic relationships are those between two monogamous life partners, please spare us both a little heart ache and don't get romantically involved with me.

I've adopted the term homoflexible to describe my attraction deally thing. Somehow, OKC hasn't thought to make that an option yet. Strangely enough, since I started thinking more about my attraction towards women, I've lost my gay super powers and have a much harder time approaching them sexually. But I'm a little shy at first in general.

I can be quite reserved at times, but then at other times (or with certain people) I'm totally disarmed, and then sometimes I'm a quirky Puck. Some times I use other words. Sometimes you feel like a nut... I tend to approach friendships with a great deal of honesty and openness, but I'm not always very forward. I think this is morphing a bit as I adapt to life in NYC.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm an artist. I work in music and narrative.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I'm a good actor and singer. I think I'm a pretty good writer. I work well with shapes and colors. And processes, I'm really good at picking up new crafting skills and doing them like I'm a pro (I pwn expertvillage)...

Ya... oh, I'm a good dancer! I love to dance. Do you?
I NEED A BOOGIE BUDDY SO BAD!
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
uh...

My face?

That, or my clothes.

Maybe my hair. I don't really know.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Reads:
An Actor Prepares-Stanislavsky (so much more than acting instruction), Giovanni's Room-Baldwin, Anything by-Wilde or Albee (The Goat is AWESOME), Harry Potter is my childhood, Ragtime-Doctorow, Oh, The Places You'll Go!-Seuss and The Little Prince-Antoine de Saint-Exupéry pretty much shaped the base of my personality, Tennessee Williams' later absurdist plays, The Art of Happiness-His Holiness the Dalai Lama and Cutler.

Listens to:
Hot Chip!!!! (I reeeeaaally like Hot Chip) Iron and Wine, The Dirty Projectors, Regina Spektor, Feist, TV on the Radio, Ken Ishi, Rihanna (has brainwashed me), Little Dragon, Janelle Monae, The Books, Aphex Twin, The Police, The Beach Boys, Otis Redding, Queens of the Stone Age, Bob Dylan, Animal Collective of course, Beats Antique, Rage Against the Machine, Death Cab and The Postal Service (ya, I said it), Lauryn Hill
and the musical list:
Hello Again-Michael John LaChuisa (I groan in admiration), The Last Five Years-JRB, Caroline, Or Change-Kushner and Tesori, ,Parade-JRB, On the Town-Bernstein and Comden & Green or anything Bernstein has anything to do with. I'm also strting to like Weill quite a bit, I like Street Scene. Spring Awakening-Sheik, Ragtime-Flaherty and Ahrens
I think you get the point.

Eats:
I'm generally eating mostly for nutrients or mostly for comfort. So like, sauteed kale, and then Ben and Jerry's Core flavor ice cream.
I love French pastries; CROISSANTS!
salmon, duck, dried fruit, wine, and Belgian beer
Tennessee Sour Mash

I'm really on the front end of my movie exploration, but I love Me and You and Everyone We Know and I really love Chaplin. Anything by Chaplin. OMG The Circus. Kinda digging Keaton too. I thought College was hilarious. Life of Pi is a favorite, John Cameron Mitchel (though what I really love him for is the cast recording of Hello Again. Brilliant!) , Also:
Punch Drunk Love, East of Eden, My Beautiful Laundrette, Her is just like, the prettiest, Twelve Years a Slave is a new favorite, Trainspotting, Giant, Blancanieves and Who Are You Polly Magoo? has been invading my dreams so I guess it must have made an impact. And, I think Bridesmaids is my favorite comedic talkie.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I wouldn't wanna do without:

A piano
A pen.
Time.
Some sort of notation system (seriously, I have no short term memory).
Tea.
Wiki!
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Psychology.
Dance.
Music.
Art.
Theater.
Clothes.
What the people walking by are thinking about or where they're coming from/going to, who they're coming from/going to. What those people are wearing and why that might be.
How to be happy.
Why I can't get myself to talk to that interesting looking person over there.
How to get that person to come talk to me.
Settings.
Seduction.
How to prioritize.
Ethics.Relationships.
The human soul, its possible existence, whether or not it's possible to prove scientifically...

and sex.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Gosh, there's nothing typical about a Friday night...

I dunno. Depends.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I don't hide much. If you want to know something, ask me.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
If you feel like it, I'm super harmless, really.

If you're the techno-glam-soul producer collaborator of my dreams...

If you find my self summary more charming and quirky than awkward and obtuse.

If you consider yourself to be a pragmatist.

I'm definitely welcoming new friends, so please don't be afraid to say hello if you think we'd get along well.