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26 New York, NY Androgynous


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I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 19–49
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Aug 30
Homoflexible, Sapiosexual, Queer
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Agnosticism, and somewhat serious about it
Aries, and it’s fun to think about
Art / Music / Writing
Open relationship
Mostly non-monogamous
Might want kids
Likes dogs
English (Fluently)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I dunno... I'm kind of at a weird point in my life.

I had a tarot reading a couple months ago that really struck me: I won't get into the whole thing, but the first card pulled was the reverse Knight of Pentacles, and I haven't been able to get the image out of my head. My life up to now has been about seeking to know myself and understanding the full range of my emotions and capabilities, desires; I hope to continue that process until I die, but at the moment, I'm really focused on trying to build good habits, figuring out how to take small progressive actions consistently. That's my new and exciting challenge right now.

I think of myself as being pretty darn whimsical, but also generally rather grounded. I'm really into magical realism. I'll take whatever idea is helpful for me at the time, but I am also committed to relating to the world around me.

I tend to prefer spectrum to binaries and broad connections to in depth focus, though I probably approach my most technical processes from the other direction (I'll read a lyric out loud 50 times in a row). I tend to think of things on a grey-scale; I'm not a black or white kind of guy, at all.

...I love semicolons.

I'm polyamorous ( and while I find polyamory to be beautiful and fulfilling, it is also quite challenging. I'm currently putting the bulk of my romantic energy in this amazing guy: adversecamber. And trying to redefine my relationship with the other most important guy in my life (PennPaul who is also amazing). Did I mention this was difficult? Loving people is hard work sometimes...

If you believe deep down that the only valid romantic relationships are those between two monogamous life partners, please spare us both a little heart ache and don't get romantically involved with me. I'm definitely not available for that.

I've adopted the term homoflexible to describe my attraction deally thing, which OKCupid has finally made available as an option (whoopee!!). Strangely enough, since I started thinking more about my attraction towards women, I've lost my gay super powers and have a much harder time approaching them sexually. But I'm a little shy at first in general.

I can be quite reserved at times, but then at other times (or with certain people) I'm totally disarmed, and then sometimes I'm a quirky Puck. Some times I use other words. Sometimes you feel like a nut... I tend to approach friendships with a great deal of honesty and openness, but I'm not always very forward. I think this is morphing somewhat as I adapt to life in NYC.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm an artist. I work in music and narrative.

I'm also learning to tend bar.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I'm a good actor and singer. I think I'm a pretty good writer. I work well with shapes and colors. And processes, I'm really good at picking up new crafting skills and doing them like I'm a pro (I pwn expertvillage)...

I think I make a pretty good cocktail. Working on building my range and style...

Ya... oh, I'm a good dancer! I love to dance. Do you?
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!

My face?

That, or my clothes.

Maybe my hair. I don't really know.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
An Actor Prepares-Stanislavsky (so much more than acting instruction), Giovanni's Room-Baldwin, Anything by-Wilde or Albee (The Goat is AWESOME), Harry Potter is my childhood, Ragtime-Doctorow, Oh, The Places You'll Go!-Seuss and The Little Prince-Antoine de Saint-Exupéry pretty much shaped the base of my personality, Tennessee Williams' later absurdist plays, The Art of Happiness-His Holiness the Dalai Lama and Cutler.

Listens to:
Hot Chip!!!! (I reeeeaaally like Hot Chip) Iron and Wine, The Dirty Projectors, Regina Spektor, Feist, TV on the Radio, Ken Ishi, Rihanna (has brainwashed me), Little Dragon, Janelle Monae, The Books, Aphex Twin, The Police, The Beach Boys, Otis Redding, Queens of the Stone Age, Bob Dylan, Animal Collective of course, Beats Antique, Rage Against the Machine, Death Cab and The Postal Service (ya, I said it), Lauryn Hill
and the musical list:
Hello Again-Michael John LaChuisa (I groan in admiration), The Last Five Years-JRB, Caroline, Or Change-Kushner and Tesori, ,Parade-JRB, On the Town-Bernstein and Comden & Green or anything Bernstein has anything to do with. I'm also strting to like Weill quite a bit, I like Street Scene. Spring Awakening-Sheik, Ragtime-Flaherty and Ahrens
I think you get the point.

I'm generally eating mostly for nutrients or mostly for comfort. So like, sauteed kale, and then Ben and Jerry's Core flavor ice cream.
I love French pastries; CROISSANTS!
salmon, duck, dried fruit, wine, and Belgian beer
Tennessee Sour Mash

I'm really on the front end of my movie exploration, but I love Me and You and Everyone We Know and I really love Chaplin. Anything by Chaplin. OMG The Circus. Kinda digging Keaton too. I thought College was hilarious. Life of Pi is a favorite, John Cameron Mitchel (though what I really love him for is the cast recording of Hello Again. Brilliant!) , Also:
Punch Drunk Love, East of Eden, My Beautiful Laundrette, Her is just like, the prettiest, Twelve Years a Slave is a new favorite, Trainspotting, Giant, Blancanieves and Who Are You Polly Magoo? has been invading my dreams so I guess it must have made an impact. And, I think Bridesmaids is my favorite comedic talkie.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I wouldn't wanna do without:

A piano
A pen.
Some sort of notation system (seriously, I have no short term memory).
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The anxiety of identifying with oppressed groups, and the stigma that goes with any expression of knowledge of being oppressed. And like, how to balance my political ideas with my humanist values.
What the people walking by are thinking about or where they're coming from/going to, who they're coming from/going to. What those people are wearing and why that might be.
How to be happy.
Why I can't get myself to talk to that interesting looking person over there.
How to get that person to come talk to me.
How to prioritize.
The human soul, its possible existence, whether or not it's possible to prove scientifically...

and sex.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Gosh, there's nothing typical about a Friday night...

I dunno. Depends.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I don't hide much. If you want to know something, ask me.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
If you feel like it, I'm super harmless, really.

If you're the techno-glam-soul producer collaborator of my dreams...

If you find my self summary more charming and quirky than awkward and obtuse.

If you consider yourself to be a pragmatist.

I'm definitely welcoming new friends, so please don't be afraid to say hello if you think we'd get along well.