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30 • Brooklyn, NY • Woman
I’m looking for
- Ages 30–49
- Near me
- Who are single
- For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex
- Last online
- Online now!
- Asian, White
- Relationship Type
- Mostly non-monogamous
- 5' 5" (1.65m)
- Body Type
- Post grad
- Wants kids
- English, French (Somewhat)
Picking my next tattoo.
I'm a policy advocate around laws on the sex trade, so I get to explore a lot of different areas of thinking and spend time with awesome people. I spend my days in my office getting to really dig into issues of criminalization, HIV, economic justice, and trafficking in persons (not "sex trafficking" - that's a phrase made up by disingenuous advocacy groups who wanted to single out and stigmatize the sex trade and it's really offensive. Please call it all "trafficking in persons." It's a thing with me. Seriously, if you use "sex trafficking" anywhere in your initial message I will not respond.) And I absolutely love my work. It's a privilege to love your job this much. I also watch a lot of Top Chef and read every chance I get.
This sounds so weirdly formal...
Making a crass joke when necessary. OK, mostly when it's unnecessary.
Excel spreadsheets. I'm amazing at Excel spreadsheets.
Falling asleep in moving cars.
Unabashedly eating cereal straight from the box. Food is really good. It doesn't need much. Sometimes not even a spoon.
I also wear incredibly short skirts, so I'm sure that doesn't go un-noticed. Especially considering the ridiculous number of pairs of tights/socks I will wear underneath to stay warm in the winter.
Movies: If I could go back to any pre-career-ish job and make a living, it would be as the video store girl, so this is tough. Pulp Fiction, Zodiac, Frida, Rosemary's Baby, Death Proof, Love Me If You Dare, We Don't Live Here Anymore. I'll watch whatever David Fincher or Quentin Tarentino put in front of me. And I love horror movies. Love. Love. You'll know I like you when I want you to come over and watch a horror movie and get takeout with me.
Food: There is something special about good fish tacos and a delicate jalapeno margarita. My perfect meal. But generally, I eat anything. I'm trying to expand my palette at the moment so you score points if you're a cook as well.
Music: Yo Yo Ma when I sleep. Elvis and Johnny Cash when I shower. Guys with guitars when I work. Isobel Campbell and Mark Lanegan when I want to feel like a femme fatale. Tom Petty's American Girl when I want to be in a great mood. Rack City at the gym. Patsy Cline, Melissa Manchester and Miranda Lambert when I want to karaoke. Dandy Warhols when I want to walk down the street in the city. And everything in between.
Liquid eye liner.
Space and time to work out in some way. I get really anxious when I can't get my energy out.
Curiosity to know more.
The balance of building community identity versus respecting individualized experience.
The balance of providing leadership and guidance with promoting autonomy in capacity building.
The balance of complimenting colors and contrasting patterns when wearing tights, over-the-knee socks, and knee socks.
I've also seen Gigli. Twice.
You're a Daddy at your core.
You're queer. I'm open to all folks across the gender spectrum. That said, I really am only looking to develop more serious relationships with people who are queer-identified. Straight, cis men, please feel free to give me a shout! I'm still opening to hanging out and something casual and fun and NSA, I'm just not looking to seriously date. And if you acknowledge that you read this part in your first message, you'll get a gold star or something. (Basically, if you're cis/straight/male-identified/down I need you to say so or I'll ignore your message.)
Also - I'm very political and I'm really passionate about my job and the subject that I work on. That doesn't mean that I *always* want to engage in answering questions about sex work, the sex trade or trafficking. That's my job, and I do it day in and day out and it can be incredibly draining. Do feel free to ask, but please be respectful if I'm not up for answering informational questions about trafficking at that given moment. Or donate $50 to my organization and I'll muster the energy. I often like to talk about it, I really do - but please respect my limits. And at the very least - ease into the conversation. Even when I'm on panels they start with an introduction.
Oh, and if you have a problem with a picture of the tattoo on my thigh... get off the internet. You don't deserve to be here.
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