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abdab1

40 M New York, NY

I’m looking for

  • Women who like men
  • Ages 31–42
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Today – 1:54am
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 3″ (1.91m)
Body Type
Fit
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Atheism
Sign
Virgo, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Technology
Income
$150,000–$250,000
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Pets
Has dogs
Speaks
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly), Japanese (Poorly), C++ (Fluently)

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My self-summary
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When I graduated from college I decided to forego the benefit of my degrees and spent two years working as a metropolitan paramedic. I couldn't have made my father more distraught if I'd robbed a bank and confessed to it on CNN. Other than making a good story, this hopefully illustrates the point that I'm largely incapable of following a path unless I have a good reason to do so. At the time I found nothing compelling in either computer science or biochemistry, so I figured I'd try something completely different and see where it took me. The circuitous path I've followed, due to a few similar tangents over the years, has led me to a life in which I'm happy and successful, and confident that everything I do is for the right (for me) reason. I also picked up some relatively uncommon, but useful, skills over the years. Time well spent, in retrospect.

I look for the same regard for logic and knowledge and understanding in those I'm close with. I also appreciate people who are willing and able to learn new habits, and discard old habits, based on new information or greater understanding or changing circumstances. If you can appreciate (and perhaps best me at?) my particular brand of alternately dry, obscure, and ridiculous humor, that's just icing on the cake.

Overall, I'm more Fry than Laurie, more Hobbes than Calvin (in all possible senses), more Chapman than Cleese, more Alton than Emeril, more Stiglitz than Smith, and (much) more Obama than (not sure what name to put here, but it probably doesn't really matter). I have a knee that sets off airport metal detectors, I unabashedly dig through trash bins to rescue recyclables, and I'm vaguely disturbed by sentences in the passive voice.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I have been, at various times in my life, a paramedic, a ski instructor, a neophyte, a mentor, a competitive ballroom dancer, a competitive cyclist, a competitive axeman, a musician, a nomad, a mountaineer, a convalescent, a victim of child abuse, an expatriate, a best man, a valedictorian, an academic disappointment, a deeply valued employee, and a corporate liability.

I've built a career in technology, somehow becoming the person who gets called to fix the unfixable, after the empty promises come to light and the financially or emotionally invested come to realize the reality and depth of hole they're standing in. I'd prefer to be involved in the process sooner, when prevention provides much better value than reformation, so I've tried to involve myself to that end as much as possible. I can honestly describe the progress as slow.

I hope someday to be an established member of my local community, a member of a functional family, a devoted father, an educator, a regular theater-goer, a NYCBallet season ticket holder, a validly-described oenophile, a pianist, a competitive paddle-boarder, and a fire engine.

That last may be somewhat left over from a while ago.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Solving problems by taking a step back and looking at them in a different way. Knowing what's recyclable and what's not. Retaining valueless knowledge. Keeping a beat. Holding a (standing) track stand on a freewheeled bike. Finding grammatical and spelling errors. Setting long term goals and working toward them one day at a time.

I'm really not good at:

Holding a seated track stand; I'm good for maybe one time out of three. Standard ballroom dance posture; I still tense up my shoulders too much. Remembering the ideas I had in the shower. Expressing my ideas in writing, without several revisions. Remembering people's names without writing them down. Cryptic crosswords. Being patient. Abstract math.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I have strong opinions about things I care about, and will argue for them with my dying breath. At the same time, I generally refuse to express any opinion about things I know little about.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I enjoy most anything that surprises me, teaches me something, or gives me a new perspective on something I thought I understood.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
A good pen.
My dog.
WiFi.
Some form of puzzle.
Earl Grey tea.
A good, sharp kitchen knife.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How different people think and learn differently, and how to express the same information in ways that they can all understand. How much older I am now than my father was when I was born. Mortgage rates.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Having a drink with friends, at the symphony (I will miss MTT) or ballet (I know ballet is less cool than opera these days, but I prefer it), or staying in and catching up on any number of things. I don't generally stay out terribly late any more; I find I feel overall better and happier when I get up early than when I stay out late. I'm not a morning person, so I have a hard time doing both.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm not fond of first dates, nor this site. I can't wait to be done with it, but I can come up with any number of things to do rather than sit and try to sound engaging in an email to someone I don't know in any real way.

I can be very bad about procrastination, depending on my mood.

I generally try to be pleasant with everyone I meet or interact with, but you potentially wouldn't like me when I'm a pedestrian. I tend to walk fast, consistently, and in a straight line. For people blundering about with their faces in a text message, or who eschew subway/elevator etiquette, I don't feel obliged to leap out of the way. Collisions happen. There are rules; this isn't 'Nam.

I'm considering taking a week off work just to investigate exactly what time of which day is best to quickly get through the Trader Joe's line (starting hypothesis: there is no good time).
You should message me if
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You're psychic, and know that we'd make a good couple. Or, if you're not, and would like to find out.