I'm an improviser; I do improv theater and I improvise my way through life! I like talking, listening, storytelling, snuggling, flirting, and making up silly songs that don't quite rhyme. I'm attracted to strong, intelligent, assertive women who speak up. Being creative as a writer, artist, singer, dancer, or actor is a definite plus too, as is being spontaneous and open to new experiences and ideas!

I'm poly. I probably have been in spirit most of my life, but I haven't really been poly in practice till recently. I have a lover who I've been with for a year. She's married and bisexual and has several other lovers in addition to her husband and me and we all know each other and get along just fine. I'd like to have one or two other lovers--fascinating, open-minded, down-to-earth women--for fun, sharing, caring, intimacy, sex, adventure, excitement, affection, silliness, laughter, considerateness, comfort, and listening and being listened to. I've been married and I've been in two other long-term monogamous relationships and I'm not interested in doing that again. Long-term is fine; being exclusively with one other person, or having her be exclusively with me, isn't. Age isn't important. My recent lovers have ranged from 36 to 57. I'm open to older and younger women as well.

I'm also a bit into BDSM, not for pain or humiliation but for playfulness, excitement, arousal, and passion. I've been into that, in a way, for much of my life too, but not that much in practice till recently. So I'm still doing a lot of exploring. And the BDSM part is not something I must have with everyone; only with someone who wants it too, or who wants to try it, and only to the extent that it's fun for both of us.

I'm on a very tight budget, so I'm not available for doing things that cost much. Much as I'd like to go to theater, concerts, and performances of all sorts, I do very little of that. And travel just isn't one of my priorities. I've done a lot in the past and don't feel a need to do more. Traveling to visit my kids and grandkids, who live more than 2,000 miles away, is all I can manage financially right now.

I've been known to be a workshop junkie, especially workshops in writing, theater, dance, and music. I've lived at Esalen and taken tons of workshops there. I'm very interested in sex and I've been to HAI workshops, Morehouse courses and mark groups, polyamory events, and other such sex positive activities. I would never have dreamed, fifteen years ago, that I'd do all those things. Fifteen years ago I hadn't heard of any of those things!

What I want most is to feel free to be exactly who I am without pretense or apology or trying to pass as something I'm not. I don't like to conform to standard expectations or to fit into other people's "boxes." I want to be seen and heard as who I am, without pretense. I'm not like many other people, so I don't want people to make assumptions about me based on a few aspects of my profile. So don't assume. Ask me!

I'm down-to-earth. I like to tell it as it is and hear it as it is. I'm looking for intelligent, sensuous, sometimes silly women who are straight communicators, willing to tell it like it is, without getting caught up in worrying about whether they'll hurt my feelings. If we become friends, the only way you'll hurt my feelings is by not being honest with me.

Writing fiction, poetry, plays, and songs for children and adults. Going to writing workshops, critiquing other people’s writing, coaching writers, dreaming of having a book published, and even occasionally submitting something to a publisher. Delighting in discovering and expanding my sensual side.

Writing, editing, public speaking, performing, teaching, sharing, talking, listening, being sensitive and sensual, being intimate, laughing, and being just plain silly! Also games like Charades, Dictionary (aka Balderdash), Taboo, Scrabble, Trivial Pursuit.

My beard, my smile, my sense of humor, my tendency to make bad puns (is there such a thing as a good pun?) and my quiet zaniness!

BOOKS: The Snow Goose, Oliver Wiswell, East of Eden, To Kill a Mockingbird, This Perfect Day, The Hobbit, The Well at the World's End, The Eye of the Needle, Lightning, Twilight Eyes, The Daughter of Time, Kristin Lavransdatter, Time and Again, Gone to Soldiers, detective novels and suspense thrillers by Lee Childs, Ridley Pearson, and Michael Connelly, everything by Piers Anthony, everything by Nevil Shute.
POETRY: Evangeline, The Congo, and just about everything by Lewis Carroll, C.J. Dennis, Dorianne Laux, Hafiz, and Kimberly Mahler.
CHILDREN'S BOOKS AND POEMS: Where the Wild Things Are, Owl Moon, The Cat in the Hat, The Lorax, The Chronicles of Narnia, Bridge to Terabithia, Bat 6, Tangerine, Then Again Maybe I Won't, Good-Bye Glamour Girl, Out of the Dust, Trash, Very Far Away From Anywhere Else, everything by A. A. Milne.
MOVIES: Pinnochio, Casablanca, King of Hearts, Shane, Flesh + Blood, The Gods Must Be Crazy, The Pink Panther, Silver Streak.
PLAYS: Cyrano de Bergerac, Brigadoon, Dark of the Moon, Noises Off, The Yeomen of the Guard, everything by William Inge.
MUSIC: Baroque, Slavic, folk, country, blues, Harry Chapin, Dan Fogelberg,
RADIO: Prairie Home Companion, My Word.
TV: Don't watch it. When I did watch it, my favorite series was Picket Fences and my favorite mini-series were A Year in the Life, East of Eden, and A Town Like Alice.
FOOD: Guacamole, mussels, chocolate layer cake, eggs. And, of course, chopped liver, egg creams, and chicken soup with kreplach. (What do you expect--I grew up Jewish in New York City!)

Pick six of these: love, intimacy, humor, dreams, sex, performing, teaching, books, music.

Writing, theater, sex, connection, communication, teaching.

There's no such thing in my life as a typical Friday night, or any other night for that matter!

Early in my life I was very conventional. I was very left-brained. I was a physical scientist with a Ph.D. I wanted a career in research, a stable income, a wife, a family, a conventional home. I never imagined I'd ever be a nomadic gypsy drifter; that I'd sing, dance, and act on the stage; that I'd live communally; that I'd take sex workshops; or that I'd share a house with a woman I wasn't married to. Now those things seem conventional and I'm waiting to see what will come next!

At least a few of the following are true:

- You're an unusual woman looking for an unusual man who will discover who you are and accept you as you are, and who will want to be similarly discovered and accepted by you.
- You want to be understood and cherished by an older man who you can play with, be intimate with, and have fun and sex and affection and laughter with, who will be one of your several or many lovers, regularly or occasionally, rather than a potential prospect for marriage or for a monogamous relationship.
- You want to experiment in a safe, playful way with polyamory or BDSM.
- You love kissing, fondling, hugging, stroking, and other forms of intimate, pleasurable, sensual touch, liberally mixed with silliness and giggles!
- You want to be listened to and heard. You want to be free to tell the truth, just as you see it. You want to hear the truth, just as I see it.
- You don't smoke.
- You clearly understand that I'm old (73), short (5'7"), and on a tight budget. That I'm poly. That I'm looking for friendship, love, affection, caring, and intimacy; physical touch, kissing, stroking, fondling, and cuddling; fun, playfulness, excitement, passion, and sex. That I have one such relationship now and I'd like a few more, either short-term or long-term, regular or occasional, but that I'm not available for an exclusive, monogamous relationship. You understand all that and (i) you don't mind, or (ii) it appeals to you and perhaps matches what you want for yourself, or (iii) I simply sound like someone you'd like to get to know.
- Finally, in a bit of a twist, you like xylu's profile but find yourself wishing he was older and shorter! Or you like rebsdad's profile but find yourself wishing he was younger and taller! I'm the guy in between those two! I was tempted to plagiarize from both their profiles, but that wouldn't be honorable! So take a look at them, and assume that a lot of what they say about themselves applies to me too! In fact, my guess is that if any one of us appeals to you, the other two probably will too. From their profiles, I think I'd like those two guys. I'd love to hear from a woman who has been out with both of them as well as with me and can tell me how much alike or different the three of us actually are!