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  • Ages 25–32
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

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Last online
Yesterday – 8:33pm
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Atheism, but not too serious about it
Gemini, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from masters program
Mostly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Has cats
English (Fluently)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I am a professional musician turned social worker turned technical writing student and co-director of a non-profit organization for a bunch of geeks. In a lot of ways I grew up to be the kid I always wanted to be, which is pretty great. I am very busy, too busy maybe, because my life is full of so many activities.

But I've been feeling a growing desire for more personal connections lately and I would really like to meet some people that are outside my immediate social circles. Even though I am way overworked, I do feel like I am more available for deeper connections that I used to be.

I am looking for honest and organic relationships. I am more interested in long-term and meaningful relationships, but I am not uninterested in short-term or casual relationships either. The priority for me is that the relationship be authentic and genuine, whether long-term, short-term, or something else.

I'm not looking for somebody to share every aspect of my life with, though strong overlap would be great. I would have a lot of fun with somebody who likes to try lots of different beers, or who likes to get out of the city and into nature. I get along very well with geeky people. But no one of those things are mandatory in my book.

I am looking for somebody to be kinda weird with, sometimes. I am looking for somebody to be light and free with. I am looking for somebody to be strong for, and to be weak with. Doing exciting things is a lot of fun, and I want a good bit of that. But I also want someone to do completely boring things with, because let's face it, sometimes that's what's on the menu. I think that if the boring times can be awesome then we are doing something right.
What I’m doing with my life
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I am juggling multiple gigs, and I'm not totally sure which one I prefer to identify with.

I'm a graduate student in technical writing. It's going very well. I'm a non-profit director/community organizer, mostly for geeky stuff. It's been very rewarding, and I've met a lot of great people. I also teach music, but that's a smaller part of my life these days. I am still very musically oriented, though.

One more thing! I've spent much of the last few years doing social work. This has greatly affected my world view. Especially the domestic violence intervention work I was doing a while back. That one sticks with me. I consider myself a feminist and an advocate for responsible masculinity.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Twisting ideas around in my brain. Being observant. Being sneaky.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I've been told I have nice teeth and a distinctive nose.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Gene Wolfe, Sun Cycle saga (the Book of the New Sun, the Book of the Long sun and the Book of the Short Sun). Ursula K LeGuin's, The Left Hand of Darkness. Charles Yu, How to Live Safely in a Science Fictional Universe. Iain Banks, Culture series (currently reading, kind of).

Confession: I actually don't watch a lot of movies. Excuse: I had a vision condition for a long while that made movies hard. But. Kubrick. Gaspar Noe. Pretty much anything with big thoughts or big feelings. Also, I love terrible movies! The Room. Foodfight. The FP. Titanic: The Animated Adventure.

Carnivale. True Detective. Twin Peaks. Battlestar Galactica (the new series). Caprica. Game of Thrones. Mad Men. The Wire. Breaking Bad. The Killing. It's Always Sunny in Philadelphia. Orange is the New Black. Ghost in the Shell: Stand Alone Complex (I don't watch a lot of anime, but woah).

Post rock, prog rock, orchestral, and experimental, apparently. Messiaen. Shostakovich. Mahler. Part. Pink Floyd. Peter Gabriel. Sigur Ros. Godspeed You! Black Emperor.

Sushi. Indian. Thai. Food carts. Anything but mayonnaise.

Imperial stouts. Barleywines. Imperial IPAs. Belgian tripels and quads. Highland scotch. Anejo tequila. Mezcal. Water.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Putting things in my brain.
My community.
My dumb cat.
A water bottle.
Delicious dark beer and scotch.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Am I really too damn sensitive?
Is that even a thing?
Do I really have a choice about how badly something bothers me?
Where did the feeling go?
Would I really give up pretty much anything to go to space?
Why didn't I make that happen, then?
Why don't I go to bed sooner?
Who will check out some caves with me?
Why don't they understand how they are contributing to problematic social dynamics?
Those times when somebody nods along with feminist thought/social consciousness thing/and so on, but then is harshly critical of any action in service of those values.
And, seriously?
And, if being an ally is this tough at times, being the real deal must be even more tough.
Probably by a lot.
Am I really going to use this degree?
It is all just a guessing game?
Golly, the culture behind widespread cannibalism is interesting.
How many people are going to think that's weird?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I almost always have friends over, and we almost always open some top shelf bottles of beer/liquor, while watching movies (the worse they are the better) or doing geeky things (usually story games).

Also, talking the night away.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I sing to my cat. Badly (awesomely).
You should message me if
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I am most interested in having substantial conversations. I'm not into idle chat. I mean, I'd prefer to have a robust conversation. A lot of attractions begin and grow during conversations for me.

Maybe I'm no fun, but I like first dates to be fairly casual, and to plan more exciting second dates. I sure hope that doesn't make me weird or boring! I just really need a good honest conversation, and perhaps too much activity impedes that a little bit? I dunno, what do you think?