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abimedesoiseaux

29 M Portland, OR

I’m looking for

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  • Ages 20–32
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Online now!
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Often
Drugs
Religion
Atheism, but not too serious about it
Sign
Gemini, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Education
Income
$20,000–$30,000
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Mostly monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Pets
Has cats
Speaks
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
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I am currently juggling multiple gigs. My (newly acquired) day job is a combination of environmental and social work (I'm very excited about it), and by night I am a professional musician/music educator and community event organizer. In the fall I will also be returning to school in the fall to pursue a second Masters in technical writing. I also like to let my curiosity run wild and explore imagination and creativity through various activities and hobbies.

I enjoy things (books, movies, activities, etc.) that bring new perspective and awareness, things which help me enjoy and understand the world in new ways.

Right now I am looking to meet people outside my regular communities. I'm not sure I'd say that I'm looking for a relationship per se, but I'd certainly be happy to find one.

***Looks like it's about time to re-write some of these and re-answer some questions. That will happen gradually, maybe. But , yeah, some of this just doesn't seem accurate anymore, and I'm a little annoyed with my last-year-self. Hmm***
What I’m doing with my life
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My main gig right now is an environmental-social work combo. It's undoubtedly the best job I've ever had, and I'm pretty crazy about it right now. May it's just because it's new to me, but honestly I think it's pretty cool.

On the side I'm also an educator in the music industry. While this is very rewarding, and working with students is a true joy, I am hoping to transition away from a performing lifestyle. Whoever said "You don't pick music, music picks you" was right. Who knew it would be tough to quit the music business.

Maybe it's odd, maybe it's not, but as I transition away from music I have found myself doing social work. In addition to my current job I have also spent some time working at a domestic abuse intervention program. That was a very interesting and challenging job, and you can't do it without inviting a ton of personal introspection. Very valuable work for everyone involved, I'd say.

I have founded, coordinated and and organized many community events over the last three years. Mostly geeky stuff. Seeing these efforts welcomed by the Portland community, and seeing these events flourish, has been truly exciting.

Finally, as mentioned above, in the fall I begin work on my second Masters in technical writing. I haven't yet figured out how I'm going to keep my marbles while doing that much stuff (spoiler: already lost), but I think I'll be able to manage. I doubt that it will be busier than music school, and for better or worse, I survived that.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I have a strong attention to detail and I like to dig deep when I get interested in something. In that sense I am quite very thorough and engaged. I have a very analytical streak sometimes, and I just have to conceptually dismantle things to see how they work.

I have been told that I am a good leader and coordinator, but I personally don't really get to see it from that side. So I guess I'll take their word for it!

I do think that I am very good at being creative on the spot. Well, pretty good.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I usually smile like I'm up to no good (which is only sometimes true). I apparently can't help but sling out "witty" one liners. I've been told I have nice teeth.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Gene Wolfe's Sun Cycle saga (the Book of the New Sun, the Book of the Long sun and the Book of the Short Sun) blew my mind when I first read them. Ursula K LeGuin's the Left Hand of Darkness is probably the single best novel I've ever read. When I was younger I enjoyed reading the works of Carlos Cantaneda. I'm not really sure what to say about it now. I'm in the midst of Iain Banks Culture series. So good!

I actually don't watch a lot of movies. Though it feels like a stock answer, I usually enjoy Kubrick's stuff. A Clockwork Orange, 2001 A Space Odyssey, Sparticus; all great. I recently watched Into the Void and really liked it.

I just discovered Carnivale and the Kingdom (a.k.a. Riget I & II), and I am loving them. Otherwise, True Detective, Twin Peaks, Battlestar Galactica (the new series), Caprica, Game of Thrones, Mad Men, The Wire, Breaking Bad, and Ghost in the Shell: Stand Alone Complex. Each of those has sucked me in.

My consumption of music is probably not what you'd expect. I don't like listening to prerecorded music when I can avoid it; give me a live recording, or a live performance any day. To fully enjoy a piece of music I need to dismantle it and really understand it in as much detail as possible. So, I tend to listen to one or two artists at a time, listening to all of their works, and listen to it many times. Recently I have been listening to Olivier Messiaen (all of it), Shostakovich (string quartets), Sigur Ros (still new to me), Roger Waters (solo work and Pink Floyd).

There isn't much food I don't enjoy. Sushi, Indian, and Thai are usually my favorites. Mayonnaise is pretty much the grossest though. I get shivers just thinking about it.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. The opportunity to keep learning. I like to follow my curiosity in various directions, just for the journey.

2. My community. I have found such a large circle of friends in the last year, both close and casual. It has been amazing!

3. Craft beer. Especially the Belgian and Scandinavian varieties. The darker and the more complex the better. There is nothing quite like it!

4. My cat Harold. I've had him since he was bite sized. I have had him through some hard times. Someday, not too soon I hope, I will miss him very much.

5. The outdoors. I cannot stay cooped up in exclusively urban environments for too long. Speaking of, I need to get out of this city for at least a weekend. Help would be much appreciated!

6. A water bottle. I hate feeling dehydrated, and I've developed a habit of being well hydrated. It makes a huge difference! Now I feel naked without a water bottle.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The dynamic relationship between the individual and their society, and more specifically how the identity of both it mutually constructed. I just began looking into whatever literature exists on early human and pre-human culture.

I know that sounds a little, uh, odd. I enjoy educating myself, and voluntarily throw myself into various detours of study. In the last year I have read up on Jungian psychology, the writing systems of the ancient Mayans (not related to the 2012 craze; I just find it to be a fascinating piece of history) and the scientific plausibility (or lack thereof) of time travel. Identity construction issues are my current kick, I guess.

I also spend a fair bit of time thinking about my closer relationships. Maybe I'm too curious about how we relate to each other up close. But I think that information is good, and the more we have, the more honest we can be with each other. And the more honest we can be, the better the health of the relationship.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Spending the evening with my friends, enjoying and sharing the best beer I can find, discussing life, and/or possibly playing a story game. There is a good chance we are getting just a little carried away with one or all of those.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I sing to my cat. Badly.
You should message me if
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I like to talk, and I'm pretty much willing to talk to anybody. I enjoy having long conversations that require me to use all my brain parts. So message me if you want something a little more than idle chat. The thing I really want to do right now is make some deep connections- somebody to have fun with, somebody to be strong for, somebody to be weak with.

Frankly I'd be thrilled to have somebody go have a beer and go to beer festivals with, or to get out of the city with, or both (best option). I'm not looking for somebody to share every aspect of my life with, so it's not we need to have identical interest or something.

Also, maybe I'm lame, but I like first dates to be casual, and to plan more exciting second dates. I hope that doesn't make me weird or boring!

So, yeah, probably I want to hear from you!