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30 Portland, OR Cis Man

Cis Man

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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 25–32
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 5:22pm
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Atheism, but not too serious about it
Gemini, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from masters program
Mostly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Has cats
English (Fluently)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I am a professional musician turned social worker turned technical writing student and co-director of a non-profit organization for a bunch of geeks. In a lot of ways I grew up to be the kid I always wanted to be, which is pretty great. I am very busy, too busy maybe, because my life is full of so many activities.

I 'm looking for honest and organic relationships. I'm most interested in long-term and meaningful relationships, but I'm not uninterested in short-term or casual relationships either. I'm not looking for somebody to share every aspect of my life with, though strong overlap would be great.

Doing exciting things is a lot of fun, and I want a good bit of that. But I also want someone to do completely boring things with, because sometimes that's what's on the menu. I think that if the boring times can be awesome then we're doing something right.

("More Sloppy" OkC? What's up with that!?)
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm a graduate student in technical writing. It's going very well. I'm a non-profit director/community organizer, mostly for geeky stuff. It's been very rewarding, and I've met a lot of great people. I also teach music, but that's a smaller part of my life these days. I am still very musically oriented, though.

One more thing! I've spent much of the last few years doing social work. This has greatly affected my world view. Especially the domestic violence intervention work I was doing a while back. That one sticks with me. I consider myself a feminist and an advocate for responsible masculinity.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Twisting ideas around in my brain. Being observant. Being sneaky.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I've been told I have nice teeth and a distinctive nose.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Gene Wolfe, Sun Cycle saga (the Book of the New Sun, the Book of the Long sun and the Book of the Short Sun). Ursula K LeGuin, The Left Hand of Darkness. Charles Yu, How to Live Safely in a Science Fictional Universe. Iain Banks, Culture series (currently reading, kind of). An erratic assortment of non-fiction that is difficult to summarize.

Confession: I actually don't watch a lot of movies. Excuse: I had a vision condition for a long while that made movies hard. But. Kubrick. Gaspar Noe. Pretty much anything with big thoughts or big feelings. Also, I love terrible movies! The Room. Foodfight. The FP. Titanic: The Animated Adventure.

Carnivale. True Detective. Twin Peaks. Battlestar Galactica (the new series). Caprica. Game of Thrones. Mad Men. The Wire. Breaking Bad. The Killing. It's Always Sunny in Philadelphia. Orange is the New Black. Ghost in the Shell: Stand Alone Complex (I don't watch a lot of anime, but woah).

Post rock, prog rock, orchestral, and experimental, apparently. Messiaen. Shostakovich. Mahler. Part. Pink Floyd. Peter Gabriel. Sigur Ros. Godspeed You! Black Emperor.

Sushi. Indian. Thai. Food carts. Anything but mayonnaise.

Imperial stouts. Barleywines. Imperial IPAs. Belgian tripels and quads. Highland scotch. Anejo tequila. Mezcal. Water.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Putting things in my brain.
My community.
My dumb cat.
A water bottle.
Delicious dark beer and scotch.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Am I really too damn sensitive?
Is that even a thing?
Do I really have a choice about how badly something bothers me?
Where did the feeling go?
Would I really give up pretty much anything to go to space?
Why didn't I make that happen, then?
Why don't I go to bed sooner?
Who will check out some caves with me?
Why don't they understand how they are contributing to problematic social dynamics?
Those times when somebody nods along with feminist thought/social consciousness thing/and so on, but then is harshly critical of any action in service of those values.
And, seriously?
And, if being an ally is this tough at times, being the real deal must be even more tough.
Probably by a lot.
Am I really going to use this degree?
It is all just a guessing game?
Golly, the culture behind widespread cannibalism is interesting.
How many people are going to think that's weird?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I almost always have friends over, and we almost always open some top shelf bottles of beer/liquor, while watching movies (the worse they are the better) or playing some sort of game.

Also, talking the night away.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I sing to my cat. Badly (awesomely).
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You want to do something that involves a good conversation! I'm pretty much always down for the easy things (drinks, food, etc.), but I would love to explore the city more or take a canoe out on the river, too! I want to explore a cave so badly, you have no idea.