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abimedesoiseaux

29 Portland, OR Man

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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 25–32
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Today – 12:01pm
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Often
Drugs
Religion
Atheism, but not too serious about it
Sign
Gemini, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Other
Income
$30,000–$40,000
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Mostly monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Pets
Has cats
Speaks
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
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I have a lot on my plate right now. I tend to throw myself into whatever I'm interested in and really get my hands dirty. This is great because my life is full of many wonderful things. This is terrible because I'm exhausted all the time, under a constant time crunch, and am always but a stone's throw away from losing my mind. I consider myself a feminist and an advocate for responsible masculinity.

Right now this means full time work, full time grad school, and various involving pastimes that I care about because they bring a lot of meaning into my life (or is it the other way around, maybe?).

I find myself in kind of an interesting spot. Right now I am interested in developing some deep and personal connections. Though I am strapped for time and energy, I feel that I am more available for closer relationships. My approach to dating has changed recently, and I am feeling ready for the next chapter.

A lot of people say this, but I really value honesty, sincerity, and respect of boundaries. I don't think a meaningful relationship of any kind is even possible without those things. Having an honest, sincere, and completely real conversation will make my day, every time.

***Re-answering all of my questions! It's going to take a little bit to build this back up.***
What I’m doing with my life
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I am juggling multiple gigs, and I'm not totally sure which one I prefer to identify with.

I'm a graduate student in technical writing. It's going very well. I am just starting a new job that fits somewhere between IT and customer relations. I'm very excited in many ways. I'm a community organizer, mostly for geeky stuff. It's been very rewarding, and I've met a lot of great people. I also teach music, but that's a smaller part of my life these days. I am still very musically oriented, though.

One more thing! I've spent much of the last few years doing social work. This has greatly affected my world view. Especially the domestic violence intervention work I was doing a while back. That one sticks with me.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I try to be observant, both by being aware of my surroundings, and by paying attention. Also, twisting ideas around in my brain. People say I'm good at these anyway!
The first things people usually notice about me
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I've been told I have nice teeth?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Gene Wolfe, Sun Cycle saga (the Book of the New Sun, the Book of the Long sun and the Book of the Short Sun). Ursula K LeGuin's, The Left Hand of Darkness. Charles Yu, How to Live Safely in a Science Fictional Universe. Iain Banks, Culture series (currently reading, kind of).

Confession: I actually don't watch a lot of movies. Excuse: I had a vision condition for a long while that made movies hard. But. Kubrick. Gaspar Noe. Pretty much anything with big thoughts or big feelings.

Carnivale. True Detective. Twin Peaks. Battlestar Galactica (the new series). Caprica. Game of Thrones. Mad Men. The Wire. Breaking Bad. The Killing. It's Always Sunny in Philadelphia. Orange is the New Black. Ghost in the Shell: Stand Alone Complex (I don't watch a lot of anime, but woah).

Messiaen. Shostakovich. Mahler. Part. Pink Floyd. Peter Gabriel. Sigur Ros.

Sushi. Indian. Thai. Food carts. Anything but mayonnaise.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Putting things in my brain.
My community.
My cat, Harold.
A water bottle.
Getting out of town as often as possible.
Delicious craft beer.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Am I really too damn sensitive?
Is that even a thing?
Do I really have a choice about how badly something bothers me?
Where did the feeling go?
Would I really give up pretty much anything to go to space?
Why didn't I make that happen, then?
Why don't I go to bed sooner?
Who will check out some caves with me?
Why don't they understand how they are contributing to problematic social dynamics?
Those times when somebody nods along with feminist thought/social consciousness thing/and so on, but then is harshly critical of any action in service of those values.
And, seriously?
And, if being an ally is this tough at times, being the real deal must be even more tough.
Probably by a lot.
Am I really going to use this degree?
It is all just a guessing game?
Golly, the culture behind widespread cannibalism is interesting.
How many people are going to thing that's weird?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I almost always have friends over. We almost open some top shelf bottles of beer/liquor, while watching movies (the worse they are the better) or doing geeky things (usually story games).

Also, talking the night away.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I sing to my cat. Badly (awesomely).
You should message me if
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I am most interested in having substantial conversations. I'm not into idle chat. I mean, I'd prefer to have a robust conversation. A lot of attractions happens during conversations for me.

I'm not looking for somebody to share every aspect of my life with, though strong overlap would be great. I would have a lot of fun with somebody who likes to try lots of different beers, or who likes to get out of the city and into nature. I get along very well with geeky people.

I am looking for a deep and meaningful connection. I am looking for somebody to be kinda weird with, sometimes. I am looking for somebody to be light and free with. I am looking for somebody to be strong for, and to be weak with.

Maybe I'm no fun, but I like first dates to be fairly casual, and to plan more exciting second dates. I sure hope that doesn't make me weird or boring! I just really need a good honest conversation, and perhaps too much activity impedes that a little bit? I dunno, what do you think?

I think I'm learning that it will just take a couple of dates/meets to know if a thing is going anywhere. That's how it seems lately, anyway.

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