Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I am a professional musician turned social worker turned technical
writing student and co-director of a non-profit organization for a
bunch of geeks. In a lot of ways I grew up to be the kid I always
wanted to be, which is pretty great. I am very busy, too busy
maybe, because my life is full of so many activities.
But I've been feeling a growing desire for more personal
connections lately and I would really like to meet some people that
are outside my immediate social circles. Even though I am way
overworked, I do feel like I am more available for deeper
connections that I used to be.
I am looking for honest and organic relationships. I am more
interested in long-term and meaningful relationships, but I am not
uninterested in short-term or casual relationships either. The
priority for me is that the relationship be authentic and genuine,
whether long-term, short-term, or something else.
I'm not looking for somebody to share every aspect of my life with,
though strong overlap would be great. I would have a lot of fun
with somebody who likes to try lots of different beers, or who
likes to get out of the city and into nature. I get along very well
with geeky people. But no one of those things are mandatory in my
I am looking for somebody to be kinda weird with, sometimes. I am
looking for somebody to be light and free with. I am looking for
somebody to be strong for, and to be weak with. Doing exciting
things is a lot of fun, and I want a good bit of that. But I also
want someone to do completely boring things with, because let's
face it, sometimes that's what's on the menu. I think that if the
boring times can be awesome then we are doing something right.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I am juggling multiple gigs, and I'm not totally sure which one I
prefer to identify with.
I'm a graduate student in technical writing. It's going very well.
I'm a non-profit director/community organizer, mostly for geeky
stuff. It's been very rewarding, and I've met a lot of great
people. I also teach music, but that's a smaller part of my life
these days. I am still very musically oriented, though.
One more thing! I've spent much of the last few years doing social
work. This has greatly affected my world view. Especially the
domestic violence intervention work I was doing a while back. That
one sticks with me. I consider myself a feminist and an advocate
for responsible masculinity.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Twisting ideas around in my brain. Being observant. Being sneaky.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I've been told I have nice teeth and a distinctive nose.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Gene Wolfe, Sun Cycle saga (the Book of the New Sun, the Book of
the Long sun and the Book of the Short Sun). Ursula K LeGuin's, The
Left Hand of Darkness. Charles Yu, How to Live Safely in a Science
Fictional Universe. Iain Banks, Culture series (currently reading,
Confession: I actually don't watch a lot of movies. Excuse: I had a
vision condition for a long while that made movies hard. But.
Kubrick. Gaspar Noe. Pretty much anything with big thoughts or big
feelings. Also, I love terrible movies! The Room. Foodfight. The
FP. Titanic: The Animated Adventure.
Carnivale. True Detective. Twin Peaks. Battlestar Galactica (the
new series). Caprica. Game of Thrones. Mad Men. The Wire. Breaking
Bad. The Killing. It's Always Sunny in Philadelphia. Orange is the
New Black. Ghost in the Shell: Stand Alone Complex (I don't watch a
lot of anime, but woah).
Post rock, prog rock, orchestral, and experimental, apparently.
Messiaen. Shostakovich. Mahler. Part. Pink Floyd. Peter Gabriel.
Sigur Ros. Godspeed You! Black Emperor.
Sushi. Indian. Thai. Food carts. Anything but mayonnaise.
Imperial stouts. Barleywines. Imperial IPAs. Belgian tripels and
quads. Highland scotch. Anejo tequila. Mezcal. Water.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Putting things in my brain.
My dumb cat.
A water bottle.
Delicious dark beer and scotch.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Am I really too damn sensitive?
Is that even a thing?
Do I really have a choice about how badly something bothers
Where did the feeling go?
Would I really give up pretty much anything to go to space?
Why didn't I make that happen, then?
Why don't I go to bed sooner?
Who will check out some caves with me?
Why don't they understand how they are contributing to problematic
Those times when somebody nods along with feminist thought/social
consciousness thing/and so on, but then is harshly critical of any
action in service of those values.
And, if being an ally is this tough at times, being the real deal
must be even more tough.
Probably by a lot.
Am I really going to use this degree?
It is all just a guessing game?
Golly, the culture behind widespread cannibalism is
How many people are going to think that's weird?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I almost always have friends over, and we almost always open some
top shelf bottles of beer/liquor, while watching movies (the worse
they are the better) or doing geeky things (usually story
Also, talking the night away.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I sing to my cat. Badly (awesomely).
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
I am most interested in having substantial conversations. I'm not
into idle chat. I mean, I'd prefer to have a robust conversation. A
lot of attractions begin and grow during conversations for
Maybe I'm no fun, but I like first dates to be fairly casual, and
to plan more exciting second dates. I sure hope that doesn't make
me weird or boring! I just really need a good honest conversation,
and perhaps too much activity impedes that a little bit? I dunno,
what do you think?
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