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41 Cary, NC Man


I’m looking for

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  • Ages 21–35
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

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Last online
Today – 5:07pm
Asian, White
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body type
Capricorn, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from masters program
Likes dogs and dislikes cats

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Contrary to what you might perceive from my pics, I'm actually a very happy man (I think I look ridiculously serious, except for the pic where I'm grinning like a mad man into the camera...the real Q: can you pick out the pic I'm talking about? Your answer will tell me more about you than it tells you about me. Trust me). I will not bite or growl...unless that's something you're into. Rawr. I can also be a tad bit irreverent. :) I suppose I'd say I am a pretty laid back (as in laying on my back looking up at the stars on a summer night), humorous (at least I find life pretty amusing), genuine (yep, I'm 100% me!), and caring person (/me hands you a cookie). I do judge, but I am rarely judgmental. I look for the humor in life, while at the same time being realistic and driven to achieve my dreams and aspirations (which can be really confounding to some people). But if you can't have fun while doing all that, what's the point, really? :)

All that said, I do tend to get along better with people my age or younger--I have no idea why. Well, I have some suspicions, but I've not had the opportunity to really verify those thoughts. I just enjoy open-minded, non-jaded, "the world-is-still-relatively-new-to-me" perspectives, and I enjoy being with someone as they experience new things...thus the attraction to a younger crowd, I suppose. Regardless, I readily admit folks can be young-at-heart (just have to look into the mirror to verify *that* lol), so it's just a general rule of thumb with me.

BTW: I am living proof that a humanities degree (Philosophy) can lead to a rewarding (intellectually, financially, blah blah) life in which you can meet new and interesting people, be happy, and which it actually is difficult to get bored. Which is very good for someone like me who has "shiny object syndrome" (S.O.S. lol). Yea, yea, I have a business admin (yesh, that's an MBA) which I obtained to piss off my hoity toity fellow Philo graduates; more so, tho, because I started a company and rapidly realized that I was sadly ill prepared--like a straight guy who stumbles drunk into a bear bar (and I'm not talking about Yogi Bear here, folks). All that said, back when I was in college, I was hired by my university's IT division to create programs for them that had never been created before (oh it involved craziness including encryption, identity management, cross domain multifactor authentication, all wrapped in a nice extensible architecture accessible via a rather elegant API). They kept using it. For 15 years. In compy program lifespans, that's the equivalent to a 975 year old person. Why do I tell you this? Well, for some reason, my right and left brain not only like to talk to each other--but they frequently prank each other, much to my amusement.

Also: sad to have to actually note this, but I have zero tolerance for manipulative head games designed to harm another. If that's what you're interested in doing, please move along until you mature a bit more. Kthx! <- stated for ironic effect...
What I’m doing with my life
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Living it with very few regrets. I'm a very curious person, so I enjoy being able to satisfy that. But more importantly, I like living on my terms (and not necessarily those of society, other people's preconceived notions, etc.). Appreciating what we take for granted is something I also tend to do. Career-wise, I have a job (emerging technologies strategist--google it if you want a chuckle) I love that pays me entirely too much--which affords me a certain degree of freedom that most people actually lack (even if they're not aware of it). That said, I still chafe that I don't have all of the freedom that I would like to have--and that I think all of us deserve. I have long term goals that I've decided I'd like to pursue at some point...but all in good the meantime, I intend to enjoy myself, help as many others as I can, and do both as often as possible.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Thinking things through clearly, being imaginative and creative. I also seem to motivate people, and I enjoy making people happy. I'm pretty good with technology, am handy with power tools, and can actually grill a pretty good steak. I also have an artistic side that occasionally (k, almost constantly) demands an avenue to express itself. Oh. And I tend to be a very good listener (or at least that's what folks have told me). Love to teach (but, honestly, I spend just as much time learning), and can be a technogeek (again, part of the job, but also a part of me lol).
The first things people usually notice about me
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I now have something to write here as I actually had someone tell me: "you cause the world to sparkle". Further explanation is kinda necessary here: no, I do not slather myself in glitter. I think I'd be somewhat uncomfortable about that, just because I don't think slathering anything on oneself is particularly fun. In most cases. No, what the person meant (after I asked for clarification--I needed to know if I should be offended, bemused, or thankful) is that I have some mad gleam in my eyes that constantly (evidently) sparks. I get a thought and I can't wait to see where the conversation will go--what you'll say, or perhaps more interestingly, not say. I can carry on conversations for hours (days?) and really not care about the rest of the world, because I only care about, at that moment, is you. I have often had people tell me that I get them to talk about themselves more than they otherwise would. I just find people fascinating. Through it all, though, the synapses inside my noggin are exploding like a continuous Fourth of July fireworks display. For some reason, in typing that, I feel dirty, like it's overtly sexual. /me shrugs shoulders.

So that was what I was told. And there you go. Evidently I cause the world to sparkle. Gods, how gay. :P
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Love a variety of books, get most into anything that causes the noggin to actually stretch some. Tho I tend to lean more towards fiction, some non-fiction can be more trippy than the imaginative meanderings of the world's leading SciFi authors. That said my favorite SciFi books are the Hyperion Cantos by Dan Simmons. The man packed more imagination in four books than most who've written 20+ book series. Ehm.

Love movies--one of my favorite things to do is to cuddle up on the couch and catch a good movie. Some favorites include Memento and Usual Suspects (since both caused me to sit back and grin at the end). Also Shawshank Redemption, Stardust (again, both caused me to grin, but for different reasons, entirely). Big music aficionado, too...two genres I do NOT get into: country and gangsta rap (alas, they only exceedingly rarely cause me to grin--see a pattern, here?). Mostly listen to Alt/Rock/Punk. Favorite food: Mediterranean. *chomp* -- and big grin. :P
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My friends
Being able to satisfy my, well, insatiable curiosity
The ability to think and act freely
Grapes (yes, grapes)
Good food, better company
My health! (Kinda goes without saying, I suppose. :P)
Grinning. Oooh. That's seven. I broke the rules. *grin*
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Full disclosure: if I honestly filled this out this section would go on and on and on and on. I've been accused of writing short novels (they're called novellas, folks) in the guise of emails, but alas, when my mind gets engaged, it's hard to hit the off switch. Mainly b/c there exists no such switch. Bwahahahahahaa. Ye have been warned. So, instead of a fully, um, thought out thesis of my thoughts, I shall give you the ever so popular 21st century ADD version (er, known in the olden days as a synopsis):

What do I spend a lot of time thinking about?
All manner of things! Hah. There ya go. Vague and broad. Pithy yet open to interpretation. Fill it in as you see fit--then show it to me, b/c I will undoubtedly find it fascinating. I love seeing the world (and myself) through the eyes of another.

Other than that, *thinking* is actually part of my job--I'd be doing it even if they didn't pay me. Shhh. Don't tell them that! As it is, they *do* pay me, so I guess I'm pretty lucky.

Still, it amuses me that I've not really said anything of substance here. If you were wondering *what* I think about, let's see...all manner of things. Hahaha. Not going to fall for that again? Hrmph. K. Fine. Some things I think about include (but is certainly not all inclusive): the human condition; human nature; philosophical conundrums, politics, architecture, music, social engineering, theoretical physics, astrobiology, theories of social justice, my friends and family. Want to get me to start chuckling? Ask me about Libertarians. Oh, the immense amusement to be had in that fertile field...
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Hrm. A number of possibilities: hanging out w/friends (cooking out, watching a game, catching a good movie), out on a date (which can be the best option), sitting back and enjoying a laid back night, maybe hitting a bar with friends, or going out to dinner, movies, theater. Maybe just hanging out at a friend's place. Or--ye gods, how retro--reading a damned good book curled up on the couch or on the myself, thankyouverymuch.

All of which sounds trite and a bit boring to me, upon reading it again. So, what else? What can I say to give you some insight into that which makes me, well, me? Hmmmm. I have been known to go streaking through a downtown section of a small coastal city. Or plodding along a beach which had just been visited by bioluminescent midnight...just to see the evidence of my passing in the form of glowing foot prints in the sand. Or laying on my back watching the Persid meteor shower provide nature's original vision of a fireworks display. Or simply cuddling up and holding someone as I gaze into the dance of the flames from my fireplace. Very hypnotic, that. Especially with some nice music softly wafting in the background.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Er...the only thing I get possessive about in my fridge are grapes. Yes. Grapes. I'm a big fan. Go figure.

There are other things, of course, that I could admit to. There's the unfortunate incident involving the furry woodland creature, M&Ms, a friend frolicking in the woods in his tighty whiteys while his brother beat our food supplies with a stick, and the fact that to get away from the bear we'd have to run *up* hill....but I'm not wiling to admit any responsibility for any of that, nor acknowledge it even happened. At least not here. Where *anyone* could read such scandalous things. :P
You should message me if
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You're interested in an interesting conversation, you're interested in any/all of the following: video games, sky diving, rock climbing, traveling, cooking out, hiking/camping, having deep conversations over pitchers of beer (or, alternatively, cups o'coffee). You've chuckled or at least been slightly amused by reading this profile. If you were NOT at least slightly amused, please don't msg me as we'd just end up staring at each other awkwardly until I was forced to break the tension by balling up the wrapping from my drink's straw and launching said balls at your forehead whilst screaming "BANZAI!" whenever I inevitably scored a direct hit. Between your eyes. Or on the tip of your nose. Or, for bonus points, into your ear. Or something like that. Now see? Imagining *that* caused me to chuckle. It's not too difficult. You should give it a try. :P