What I'm looking for: someone who is both nerdy and physical (like me) who loves simple pleasures, and isn't too cool for puns. Someone with a good healthy drive who is authentic, self-directed, sensual, and warm. He's balanced, he's playful, he's had great relationships before, and any personality similarities with Dale Cooper (Twin Peaks) are a plus :)
The harder part: emotional guts are key. I go for someone who's open/brave with himself and able to share. In my best relationships we could diffuse things as they came up: be open with what we think/feel and with what triggers us, get in each other's shoes, and understand it together- you get the idea. Not in a touchy-feely-24/7 way, just honest and direct- it feels awesome to me. I want that again, so I'm looking for someone who's up for that sort of thing, patient, knows himself reasonably well (and still learning), and is comfortable being open with what he finds.
In terms of seriousness, I'm ready. I've had wonderful relationships and learned a lot, and now I'm looking for the fella who may be my husband. I'm not interested in rushing anything along (it'll be the most important decision of my life), but just for context that's where my mindset is. (Not looking to just 'have a good time' or date casually if it's not an especially promising match).
PS: If you're gracious enough to email and say hello, tell me your favorite desserts- it appeals to my sweet tooth and also tells me you're a profile-reader :)