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abracadabra9020

38 Cambridge, MA Woman

Woman

I’m looking for

  • Men who like women
  • Ages 36–43
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Online now!
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 4″ (1.63m)
Body Type
Athletic
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Other, but not too serious about it
Sign
Libra, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Technology
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Pets
Likes dogs
Speaks
English (Fluently), French (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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About me: I do things with quiet gusto- I've always got something that I'm way into. The biggies over the years have been dancing, various sports & physical activities, music, taking pictures, and family tree sleuthing. I also love: travelling (favorites have been India, Iceland, and Italy) and spending time outside. That said, I also have a very strong domestic/cozy, quiet, indoors, early-to-bed, family-member-calling, old-fashioned side that plays a big part in my life too.

What I'm looking for: someone who is both nerdy and physical (like me) who loves simple pleasures, and isn't too cool for puns. Someone with a good healthy drive who is authentic, self-directed, sensual, and warm. He's balanced, he's playful, he's had great relationships before, and any personality similarities with Dale Cooper (Twin Peaks) are a plus :)

The harder part: emotional guts are key. I go for someone who's relatively open/brave with himself and able to share. In my best relationships we could diffuse things as they came up: be open with what we think/feel and with what triggers us, get in each other's shoes, and understand it together- you get the idea. Not in a touchy-feely-24/7 way, just honest and direct- it feels awesome to me. I want that again, so I'm looking for someone who's up for that sort of thing, patient, knows himself reasonably well (and still learning), and is comfortable being open with what he finds.

In terms of seriousness, I'm ready. I've had wonderful relationships and learned a lot, and now I'm looking for the fella who may be my husband. I'm not interested in rushing anything along (it'll be the most important decision of my life), but just for context that's where my mindset is. (Not looking to just 'have a good time' or date casually if it's not an especially promising match).

PS: If you're gracious enough to email and say hello, tell me your favorite desserts- it appeals to my sweet tooth and also tells me you're a profile-reader :)
What I’m doing with my life
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My background was philosophy/academia, then software testing, and for the past few years I've been managing a development team. I'm currenty taking a night class to explore Bioinformatics- such neat stuff. Software tends to bring up 'does this even MATTER' moments, so I've gravitated toward companies doing meaningful work. In the grand scheme of things, I think the role that'll be the most important in my life will be wife & mother.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
communication, compromise, flag football, whack-a-mole, and baking cookies. Planning too, but that's not usually considered sexy profile fodder. Dancing is historically my favorite- all types, from having fun at the cantab lounge to partner dancing like swing or salsa- but in recent years it's been eclipsed by working out
The first things people usually notice about me
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No clue about the first things, but I've been told I have an approachable/comfy vibe
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Some musical favorites: bjork, radiohead, M.I.A., robyn, prince, pixies, metric, jill scott, sam cooke, otis redding, and lots more. I've also been pretty heavy into swing and salsa dancing through the years, so that's in there too.

Favorite TV shows: 30 Rock, Twin Peaks, Arrested Development, So You Think You Can Dance, Daily Show/Colbert Report. I also see a lot of PBS NewsHour & House Hunters, and I'll willingly admit that I watched Jersey Shore (yes I have no shame)- there's enjoyable stuff all over the spectrum.

Books: my reading list can be pretty schizophrenic, but the non-fiction stuff I gravitate toward usually involves biology/evolution/health, and the fiction I like best has well-developed characters/dialogue/mood.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
my friends & family (I really hit the jackpot there, and I'm thankful every day)
music & dancing
time to myself
working out
hugs & kisses & that kinda thing
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
My family, my next delicious 'splurge' meal, making fun weekends with a little of everything...

Not a *lot* of time, but the okc 'Personality' tab has some unexpected results for me compared with the average chick- I'm friendly but can definitely be a little shy with new people, and I get fired up about things but don't think of myself as 'ambitious'
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
basking in it. I keep friday night flexible so I can make a gametime decision: usually between swing dancing or relaxing/cooking at home. Though now that November Project* has turned me into an even-earlier bird, friday night dancing is becoming more and more rare

*http://november-project.com/
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I've got 21 sweet little eggs frozen safely away :) I want to have a family one day, so last year I jumped through a few hoops and gave myself the gift of breathing room and piece of mind.
You should message me if
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the stuff above resonates with you. Happy, long-term relationships are familiar territory, and you're someone who's comfortable in his own skin. You're also probably geniune, warm, and playful, and I'm very much looking forward to meeting you :)

Note: in an effort to fit the online dating stuff into my life gracefully, I give it a limited amount of time each week. That means I can't reply to every message, but I truly wish everyone the best of luck out here in the trenches- may we all find our best partner and be done with these sites forever!