Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
About me: I do things with quiet gusto- I've always got something
that I'm way into. The biggies over the years have been dancing,
various sports & physical activities, music, taking pictures,
and family tree sleuthing. I also love: travelling (favorites have
been India, Iceland, and Italy) and spending time outside. That
said, I also have a very strong domestic/cozy, quiet, indoors,
early-to-bed, family-member-calling, old-fashioned side that plays
a big part in my life too.
What I'm looking for: someone who is both nerdy and physical (like
me) who loves simple pleasures, and isn't too cool for puns.
Someone with a good healthy drive who is authentic, self-directed,
sensual, and warm. He's balanced, he's playful, he's had great
relationships before, and any personality similarities with Dale
Cooper (Twin Peaks) are a plus :)
The harder part: emotional guts are key. I go for someone who's
open/brave with himself and able to share. In my best relationships
we could diffuse things as they came up: be open with what we
think/feel and with what triggers us, get in each other's shoes,
and understand it together. Not in a touchy-feely-24/7 way, just
honest and direct- it feels awesome to me. I want that again, so
I'm looking for someone who's up for that sort of thing, patient,
knows himself reasonably well (and still learning), and is
comfortable being open with what he finds.
In terms of seriousness, I'm ready. I've had wonderful
relationships and learned a lot, and now I'm looking for the fella
who may be my husband. I'm not interested in rushing anything along
(it'll be the most important decision of my life), but just for
context that's where my mindset is. (Not looking to just 'have a
good time' or date casually if it's not an especially promising
PS: If you're gracious enough to email and say hello, tell me your
favorite desserts- it appeals to my sweet tooth and also tells me
you're a profile-reader :)
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
My first life was philosophy/academia, then software: testing for a
while, then management for the past 8ish years (first for QA then
for dev teams). I've recently added night classes into the mix
(bioinformatics, computer science, and I have a list of what I want
to take next), and coding again. Software has its share of 'does
this even MATTER' moments, so I've gravitated toward companies
doing meaningful work. In the grand scheme of things, I think the
role that'll be the most important in my life will be wife &
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
communication, compromise, flag football, whack-a-mole, and baking
cookies. Planning too, but that's not usually considered sexy
profile fodder. Dancing is historically my favorite- all types,
from having fun at the cantab lounge to partner dancing like swing
or salsa- but in recent years it's been eclipsed by working out.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
No clue about the first things, but I've been told I have an
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Some musical favorites: bjork, radiohead, M.I.A., robyn, prince,
pixies, metric, jill scott, sam cooke, otis redding, and lots more.
I've also been pretty heavy into swing and salsa dancing through
the years, so that's in there too.
Favorite TV shows: 30 Rock, Twin Peaks, Arrested Development, So
You Think You Can Dance, Daily Show/Colbert Report. I also see a
lot of PBS NewsHour & House Hunters, and I'll willingly admit
that I watched Jersey Shore (yes I have no shame)- there's
enjoyable stuff all over the spectrum.
Books: my reading list can be pretty schizophrenic, but the
non-fiction stuff I gravitate toward usually involves
biology/evolution/health, and the fiction I like best has
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
my friends & family (I really hit the jackpot there, and I'm
thankful every day)
music & dancing
time to myself
hugs & kisses & that kinda thing
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
My family, my next delicious 'splurge' meal, making fun weekends
with a little of everything...
Not a _lot_ of time, but the okc 'Personality' tab sometimes
fluctuates in funny directions. Compared with the average chick- a
lot of those are right, but some are more surprising: I get fired
up but don't think of of myself as 'ambitious', and I'm friendly
but can definitely be a little shy with new people
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
basking in it. I keep friday night flexible so I can make a
gametime decision: usually between swing dancing or
relaxing/cooking at home. Though now that November Project* has
turned me into an even-earlier bird, friday night dancing is
becoming more and more rare
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I've got 21 sweet little eggs frozen safely away :) I want to have
a family one day, so I jumped through a few hoops and gave myself
the gift of breathing room and piece of mind.
You should message me if
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the stuff above resonates with you. Happy, long-term relationships
are familiar territory, and you're someone who's comfortable in his
own skin. You're also probably geniune, warm, and playful, and I'm
very much looking forward to meeting you :)
Note: in an effort to fit the online dating stuff into my life
gracefully, I give it a limited amount of time, especially now that
I'm taking night classes. So I can't reply to every message, but I
truly wish everyone the best of luck out here in the trenches- may
we all find our best partner and be done with these sites forever!
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