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abraxis13

42 / F / straight / Available

Barcelona, Spain

The Skinny

Last Online
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Ethnicity
White
Height
6' 2" (1.88m).
Body Type
Thin
Looking For
New friends, Long-term dating, Activity partners, Long-distance penpals
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Sometimes
Religion
Other and laughing about it
Sign
Libra and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from college/university
Job
Education / Academia
Income
Rather not say
Kids
Has 1 child
Pets
Likes dogs and Owns cats
Languages
English (Fluently), German (Fluently), Spanish (Okay), French (Poorly)

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I am reliable, easy-going, and committed.

My Self-Summary

It took me quite some time to describe myself in three words (- what was it like for you?), and I would like to explain a little what those three words mean to me and what they tell about me:
If I promise you something or if I tell you I'll do something (for you), you can count on it 80 percent. Of course, 100 percent would sound much nicer but I'm honest, too, so there you go.
I like making plans, in everyday life and even more so for big things to happen (for example, I had a birth plan written out on 8 pages for the birth of my son in March this year...). Quite often plans have to be changed/ adjusted and, I have to admit, that can result difficult for me. Other than that, I'm as easy-going as can be. Be my guest sometime or go on a holiday with me and you'll see. Nothing of "no, no, we can't go there because I don't like this or that". I'm not like that. I like trying out new things. I appreciate others making suggestions of what to do and where to go as well as I enjoy making suggestions myself. And what is more, I love living the days with nothing planned but just going with the flow.
I live in a polyamorous relationship and I consider myself very committed with my partner(s). For the time being there is only one but my partner has another woman in his life. There is a chance that she might start seeing someone else... As for me, I haven't met this other person yet who might become a second partner for me but I feel he's somewhere out there. I met him in a dream and, obviously, this might just be a dream but there it is and I'm ready to be surprised by what (or better whom) life brings along for me.
Now, if this last paragraph gives you the shivers, you better not read on and you better not contact me. If you find it interesting and, better still, it matches with how you (want to) live than this could be a reason to contact me.

What I’m doing with my life

Right now, I have the privilege to say I'm a dedicated mother and I have a partner (who has another son) to share it with. We both spend a lot of time with our wonderful son(s) watching him/ them grow and if you do have kids, you'll understand the importance of this.
Before I became mother, I was a teacher for 9 years and it's likely that I'll dedicate myself to that profession again in the future. I like my job but I have also had other jobs in my life and, to me, my profession never reached a very high score of importance in my life. It's important to me that I like what I do in my everyday life but, quite honestly, it could be a lot of things.

I’m really good at

... a lot of things ;-)
teaching, reading out loud, languages, cooking, eating with pleasure, enjoying life, being an optimist, listening, dancing, driving a car, mixing with people, sewing (which I discovered only recently and I am not terribly good at it but I'm inventive), remembering phone numbers, dates/ where you left your purse, glasses etc., hence: observing (which can also become quite a strain)

The first things people usually notice about me

Oh well, it's my height

My favorite books, movies, music, and food

Who's afraid of Virginia Woolf? (book and film, starring Elizabeth Taylor and Richard Burton); Poisonwood Bible (B. Kingsolver); Children of Violence series (D. Lessing); The Deptford Trilogy; Das Versprechen (F. Dürrenmatt); Women who run with the Wolves (Pinkóla Estés); Como agua para chocolate
Blade Runner; (almost) anything by Tarantino; Zeit der Wölfe; Das Leben der Anderen; Out of Africa; Snatch; The man who climbed a hill and came down a mountain; Star Trek: First Contact
Techno, House; Jazz; Brit Pop; Classic
Homemade food - I love eating and I'd eat almost anything

The six things I could never do without

Food; The smile of my son; Music (and singing along with - possibly - nobody listening); Books; an extra-long duvet; a toothbrush (or any natural device to replace it)

I spend a lot of time thinking about

Life, myself, my son, my relationship and the people involved, happiness

On a typical Friday night I am

... at home, possibly with friends, the members of my family project. Very occasionally I'm going out partying. I had my party nights, I do not terribly miss them. I'm sure I'll have them again some day (soon) but not as a typical venture.

The most private thing I’m willing to admit here

I'd love to enlarge my family...

You should message me if

... you're interested in my way of living/ loving.