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45 M Brooklyn, NY

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5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Atheism, but not too serious about it
Leo, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from masters program
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Fake Type A.
What I’m doing with my life
====== UPDATE ======
Hi Folks,
I'm now back in NYC. Back from projects for Bjork in London. Back from commissions for TED in Palm Springs and galleries in Dublin and Eindhoven. All crazy stories of late night inspiration, high-speed driving, wonderful new friends, power tool accidents and small fires. And ultimately, creative victories.

I want to apologize for dropping all my OKC conversations. I didn't mean to be rude. Just too busy with projects to keep up.

Anyway, I'm back in Brooklyn! Still very busy making robots and music and sculptures for a new big project. But I'll have some evenings free for long talks, dancing, nerdy lectures, two-wheelin' and hilarious randomness.

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In my spare time (a.k.a procrastinating) I'm trying to start playing piano again, slowly reading all of Don DeLillo's books ( b/c of the beautiful fabric of words), exposing myself to unwholesome quantities of 16th century polyphony ( it's for science, really), and blissfully riding my bike around NYC at night, watching and listening to it all.

That may sound a little tightly wound. But actually I'm pretty relaxed. It just happens that I'm getting a lot of fun opportunities right now and to not take them *all* would feel ungrateful. And I love that this work brings travel, adventures, and creative and intellectual challenges. It took a long time, but I've finally run away to the circus.

That''s the short-term stuff. I don't talk that much about my long-term, trying-to-save-the-world work. That's b/c if it doesn't work out just right I'm likely to be up against pitchforks and torches.
I’m really good at
Slowing down. Being kind. Stepping back for perspective. Keeping my word. The details.
The first things people usually notice about me
I smile a lot. For no apparent reason. And about once a week I'm teary-eyed while I'm working. But I'm not sad! It's just the music on my headphones.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Okay, so I've got this corny hypothesis about how one's taste in music reflects what feels 'real' to a person, making it a good indicator of whether people see the same world. If there's a pattern to what I like, I've never found it. Here's whatever I'm listening to right now (if you've got Spotify)

I haven't had a TV since I was 22. And it's been awesome. It's not about whether the shows are good. It's about the time. And about that balance - how each day is full of infinite possibilities, but we only get a finite number of days.

I'm the same with movies as I am about chocolate. I appreciate the good stuff. But the bad stuff is pretty great, too.

For words, it's not about style or plot. It's that music in the words. Not just the cadence, but the lyrical flow of pictures, feelings, impressions. I've found it in Denis Johnson, Don Delillo, Nabokov, in parts of Thomas Pynchon's Gravity's Rainbow (but not his others). If you can tell me of more like these I will make you a really good frittata. Unless you're vegan. Then I'll make you a drink.
The six things I could never do without
the effortless speed and grace of city biking,
the boundless future,
my laptops and the work on them,
the guardian-angel-like protection of serotonin and testosterone,
beautiful fabrics of words and music,
friends to share it all with.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Which seeds to plant, which to water; there's only so many hours in a day.
How to dress like Sean Connery in the 60's
Whatever problem I'm trying to solve right now.
How to make every step intentional and considered.
"How would I teach a monkey to do this?"
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
My spirit animal is Frankenstein.

And I'm just coming realize that I kind of suck at OKCupcakes. I'm swamped in a perfect storm of great opportunities and, at least on paper, I'm busy every day and night until oh-sometime-soon. But please do say hi. I'll be needing a good reason to dance / laugh / wrestle / karaokelate before I turn into a robot myself.

Also, I was pretty unhealthy in 2011. Nice to be fit and healthy again. :)

If I could do a good Werner Herzog impersonation, I'd be tempted to stay in character for hours at a time. So it's for the best, really.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 34–46
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
If you're naturally kind and emotionally buoyant. If you're not afraid. If you glow in the dark. If you dance with joyful abandon rather than irony.