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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 23–38
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My details

Last online
Mar 10
5′ 3″ (1.60m)
Body type
Mostly vegetarian
Judaism, and somewhat serious about it
Cancer, and it’s fun to think about
Working on masters program
Art / Music / Writing
Strictly monogamous
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently)
My self-summary
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I'm an introspective, thoughtful guy who is sometimes shy and hesitant, but really loves getting to know people. I'm funnier than I realise; I make people laugh without meaning to all the time and I love when that happens. I can get very animated and excited if you stumble across a topic that I'm passionate about; otherwise, I have to be drawn out a little bit. Either way, I'm a great listener as well as fun to be around.

I'm looking for someone who is both creative and down to earth, who has passion for her work and is dedicated to doing what it takes to make the life she wants. She is responsible and serious without having lost the ability to have fun. She's extroverted and energetic, but quiet and thoughtful when she needs to be. She sees quirkiness as amusing and interesting and loves diversity, and of course she's open to romance with a transgender guy.
What I’m doing with my life
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A better question is: what am I NOT doing?

Right now, my main focus is school. I am working on my Masters in mental health counseling with an emphasis on substance abuse counseling. My plan is to get my Masters and my CASAC and get a job in a clinic while working on my PhD in clinical psych. I'm also doing psychological research into issues surrounding transgender people and reproduction.

If that wasn't enough, I'm working full time as a ghostwriter, mainly writing web copy and marketing copy for various businesses, and writing self-help blogs and blogs about asexuality on an irregular basis. I'm also marketing my ebook online.

I try to live my life by Harvey Milk's directive to “give 'em hope” and by the Jewish notion of tikkun olam—repairing the world. I'm an advocate for the transgender and Aspergers communities; I write and speak about communicating, acceptance and making connections to try to help people feel less alone. I'm hoping to lower the suicide rate, especially in the transgender community, where it's an abysmal 40 percent.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
listening to and encouraging my friends.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I have a bright smile. I also have been told I have very nice eyes.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Belva Plain's Evergreen saga, Harry Potter, Hollow Earth.
Movies: Dead Poets Society (though I also love comedies, especially goofy/zany stuff like Airplane)
TV: Torchwood. I like Doctor Who too but Torchwood is so much darker and engaging for me. I do watch American TV too--I never miss Law and Order: SVU and during the summer I enjoy Perception and Major Crimes. I also like family shows like The Fosters and Parenthood.
Food: I love Chinese and Indian food though I can't eat a lot of the things on Chinese menus anymore. I'm pre-diabetic so I'm on a sugar-free diet. Anyway, when I really like something I've eaten at a restaurant, I look online to see if it's possible for me to make it myself.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
The ability to be grateful, good friends, my knowledge that the Universe has my back, hope for the future, my notebook and pen and my creative mind.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
the future. I try to stay in the present but I'm also very excited about where life is gonna take me and who I'm gonna meet along the way.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
at my sister's helping watch my nieces and nephew. It's the highlight of my week!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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In case I didn't make it clear enough, I'm transgender.

Also, not only have I watched Days of Our Lives since I was eight years old---yes, I watch a soap opera daily!--but I'm a Daniel Jonas fan.
You should message me if
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the things I've said struck enough of a chord with you that you'd like to get to know me further. I'm looking for friends as well as the person I want to spend the rest of my life with, so feel free to shoot me a message even if you don't like me "that way."