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  • Ages 23-50
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My self-summary
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I feel like this section is the hardest to explain, not because I don't know myself, but because I have lived the equivalent of three lives in a relatively short period of time. I am not really big on lists yet I am going to give you one anyway -- hey, maybe you can make a list of all the things you do and don't want in a guy and then compare...

Anyway, here is the list...remember the list is about me NOT about what I am necessarily looking for.

1. competitive -- If we are both walking down the street and you look down and see my shoes are untied and then I look at yours and mention your shoes are untied as well, I will tie my shoes faster without telling you its a race. I am not a poor sport or a sore loser, I just love to compete. The good news is that it makes me good at a lot of things and should say to you that I put in a lot of effort into the things I do. The bad news? If your competitive and a bad sport about loosing, you might hate me.

2. I am passionate -- This may seem along the same lines as competitive but its not. Some people sort of float through life not really caring about anything. This is not me. When I love I really love, When I make love...well, you get the point. I care about what I do with my life, I'm not afraid to have an opinion and if you are lucky enough to be the person I am in love with I will protect you, help you and be there when you need me even when we are fighting, even when its not convenient...Why? Because I am passionate about a few other qualities which I will list later.

3. I am Loyal -- Now, to me, this is a word often thrown around by people yet not often practiced. I practice loyalty. I come from a big Italian family in which loyalty is everything. My closest friends have been friends since before I even knew what loyalty really meant. I am not loyal to everyone though...that would be silly. It would guarantee I have a handicap spot reserved for me on the short bus. I am loyal to the people I love and to my family, whom I mention separately because I am loyal even if I don't love some of them so much.

4. Respect -- Respect is a big issue in my life. If you want to be in my life you must show respect. I am too experienced in life to tolerate its opposite. The good in this is that I will show you respect as least as much as you show me.

5. Family -- If you read anything before this is an obvious trait...yes I know its technically a noun yet it just as well might be used as an adjective to describe me...I am all about family. If you ever meet my family you will know why. I have not brought someone in my life who has not in some way loved my family. Some people I dare say love my family even after they are no longer with me.

6. Always laughing - I find the humor in many things. I am both sarcastic and thick skinned. I may laugh at you but trust me I laugh at myself more. I am prone to playing practical jokes and laugh hard when I am the object of one.

7. I am complicated and deep -- I know, I know, this may scare some of you off but if it does then I have to remind myself that is a good thing. I am a deep thinker and I do this often. I can still love you if you are not (I mean I have a friend, we will leave him nameless, who I could train to piss on a tree every time I rang a bell) but you do have to accept this about me.

I am passionate, witty and at times, really silly.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Trying not to regret any of my choices, actively pursuing my dreams and taking the bad with the good.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I am emotionally intelligent, I have a uncanny ability to read people quickly...

cooking....Its the Italian in me.

making people laugh...

making my point.

I will beat you in the pool, a foot race, a basketball game, naming animals that start with "C" ... I may, on occasion, let you win a fight.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
my eyes and my smile...sometimes my big hands. That I am confident and secure in myself and that I am easy to talk to. I hold more secrets than the CIA.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
My ex wrote to me and said I had to read this book that had a character that reminded her of me so I was reading "50 shades of grey" which was awful (put it down on ch 7) and also a book about a woman with borderline personality disorder. The book before that is a textbook given to the FBI BAU students on criminal profiling.

my taste in music is very wide - from Bach to Tupac. I do love live music, oldies, rock and blues.

For shows - is it just me or is game of thrones the best thing ever?

This is a minuscule amount of what I love in any of these three categories, more important is that you notice I used the word "minuscule..."
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.





Really good sex
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How to teach young men about life through football. I think about my loved ones, about why people behave they way they do.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
In the summer...probably BBQing with family by the pool with some beer. On rainy days, at home with loved ones. After a disaster, trying to help. Some Friday's I am with friends at dinner or maybe a concert at the mountain winery. Maybe during christmas meeting a girl at the Fairmont for a drink and then Christmas in the park. The point is that I am game for many things.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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When I was like 9 years old I was a really fast swimmer. I was at a swim meet one day and was not feeling to well but determined to swim anyway. So my race comes up, the gun fires and I explode off the blocks...what I mean by explode is that as I dove into the water, leaping into the air, my ass exploded green diarrhea which created a green cloud in the pool. I was so focused I did not realize it and thought the people in the pool were not swimming next to me because I was just that fast...that the people yelling my name were cheering me on. I did my flip turn and headed back, stopping only when I reached the middle of the green cloud. Welcome to the most embarrassing moment of my life.
You should message me if
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You made it this far...I am a good man with a well paying job, manners and respect for women and I am pretty decent in bed. Women with cute butts go to the front of the line por favor.