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38 M San Jose, CA

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My self-summary
I feel like this section is the hardest to explain, not because I don't know myself, but because I have lived the equivalent of three lives in a relatively short period of time. I am not really big on lists yet I am going to give you one anyway -- hey, maybe you can make a list of all the things you do and don't want in a guy and then compare...

Anyway, here is the list...remember the list is about me NOT about what I am necessarily looking for.

1. competitive -- If we are both walking down the street and you look down and see my shoes are untied and then I look at yours and mention your shoes are untied as well, I will tie my shoes faster without telling you its a race. I am not a poor sport or a sore loser, I just love to compete. The good news is that it makes me good at a lot of things and should say to you that I put in a lot of effort into the things I do. The bad news? If your competitive and a bad sport about loosing, you might hate me.

2. I am passionate -- This may seem along the same lines as competitive but its not. Some people sort of float through life not really caring about anything. This is not me. When I love I really love, When I make love...well, you get the point. I care about what I do with my life, I'm not afraid to have an opinion and if you are lucky enough to be the person I am in love with I will protect you, help you and be there when you need me even when we are fighting, even when its not convenient...Why? Because I am passionate about a few other qualities which I will list later.

3. I am Loyal -- Now, to me, this is a word often thrown around by people yet not often practiced. I practice loyalty. I come from a big Italian family in which loyalty is everything. My closest friends have been friends since before I even knew what loyalty really meant. I am not loyal to everyone though...that would be silly. It would guarantee I have a handicap spot reserved for me on the short bus. I am loyal to the people I love and to my family, whom I mention separately because I am loyal even if I don't love some of them so much.

4. Respect -- Respect is a big issue in my life. If you want to be in my life you must show respect. I am too experienced in life to tolerate its opposite. The good in this is that I will show you respect as least as much as you show me.

5. Family -- If you read anything before this is an obvious trait...yes I know its technically a noun yet it just as well might be used as an adjective to describe me...I am all about family. If you ever meet my family you will know why. I have not brought someone in my life who has not in some way loved my family. Some people I dare say love my family even after they are no longer with me.

6. Always laughing - I find the humor in many things. I am both sarcastic and thick skinned. I may laugh at you but trust me I laugh at myself more. I am prone to playing practical jokes and laugh hard when I am the object of one.

7. I am complicated and deep -- I know, I know, this may scare some of you off but if it does then I have to remind myself that is a good thing. I am a deep thinker and I do this often. I can still love you if you are not (I mean I have a friend, we will leave him nameless, who I could train to piss on a tree every time I rang a bell) but you do have to accept this about me.

I am passionate, witty and at times, really silly.
What I’m doing with my life
Trying not to regret any of my choices, actively pursuing my dreams and taking the bad with the good.
I’m really good at
I am emotionally intelligent, I have a uncanny ability to read people quickly...

cooking....Its the Italian in me.

making people laugh...

making my point.

I will beat you in the pool, a foot race, a basketball game, naming animals that start with "C" ... I may, on occasion, let you win a fight.
The first things people usually notice about me
my eyes and my smile...sometimes my big hands. That I am confident and secure in myself and that I am easy to talk to. I hold more secrets than the CIA.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
My ex wrote to me and said I had to read this book that had a character that reminded her of me so I was reading "50 shades of grey" which was awful (put it down on ch 7) and also a book about a woman with borderline personality disorder. The book before that is a textbook given to the FBI BAU students on criminal profiling.

my taste in music is very wide - from Bach to Tupac. I do love live music, oldies, rock and blues.

For shows - is it just me or is game of thrones the best thing ever?

This is a minuscule amount of what I love in any of these three categories, more important is that you notice I used the word "minuscule..."
The six things I could never do without





Really good sex
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How to teach young men about life through football. I think about my loved ones, about why people behave they way they do.
On a typical Friday night I am
In the summer...probably BBQing with family by the pool with some beer. On rainy days, at home with loved ones. After a disaster, trying to help. Some Friday's I am with friends at dinner or maybe a concert at the mountain winery. Maybe during christmas meeting a girl at the Fairmont for a drink and then Christmas in the park. The point is that I am game for many things.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
When I was like 9 years old I was a really fast swimmer. I was at a swim meet one day and was not feeling to well but determined to swim anyway. So my race comes up, the gun fires and I explode off the blocks...what I mean by explode is that as I dove into the water, leaping into the air, my ass exploded green diarrhea which created a green cloud in the pool. I was so focused I did not realize it and thought the people in the pool were not swimming next to me because I was just that fast...that the people yelling my name were cheering me on. I did my flip turn and headed back, stopping only when I reached the middle of the green cloud. Welcome to the most embarrassing moment of my life.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 23–50
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
You made it this far...I am a good man with a well paying job, manners and respect for women and I am pretty decent in bed. Women with cute butts go to the front of the line por favor.