The thing about dating is that while we are trying to find "that one" (or "those ones"), it's also a great opportunity to learn about oneself. So yeah, you gotta keep swinging and take it all for what it is.
I'm trying to define what love and romance and partnership mean for me, but there are some things I know for sure: I will never be a wife (I am devoted to a life of eternal bachelorette-hood), and I will never be exclusive (I practice non-hierarchical polyamory and there's a woman I'm seeing whom I love love love). I prioritize taking care of myself because when I am at my best I have a lot more to give. However, that means I'm pretty protective of my space and my time -- I usually don't like sharing a bed and I usually don't want to stick around to get brunch the next day.
I'm looking to build a romantic rapport with someone local. We can define what that means together while respecting each other's boundaries.
The basics about me: "Queer" better describes my orientation, "Feminist-a-sexual" describes it best. It's not about the anatomy so much as it's about the mind. I'm exploring a femme side of myself I never knew existed and practice what I like to call "benign narcissism."
I moved to San Francisco from Los Angeles about a year ago to finally begin my career and make cycling my primary form of transportation. I've succeeded at both. I love my job and my work. The way some people feel about their dogs is how I feel about my bicycle.
I'm pretty evenly introverted and extroverted -- I like to eat out alone at crowded restaurants to dig on everyone else's energy while enjoying time to myself. It's not as contradictory as it seems. I am most productive in the early morning (like 5am early morning) and while I do love a night out that ends with watching the sun rise, if there's nothing to do, I am perfectly content to go to bed before 10pm (and do on most nights).
I just got a new passport and I am determined to fill it with as many stamps as possible within the next ten years. I am interested in finding a travel partner.
I'm an active communicator. I find strength in vulnerability and understand that solutions come easier when the ego is relinquished.
I really love being in the company of women (identified people). When a group of women get together they create a vibrant energy that sparkles and vibrates. I bask in that energy and feel I have a lot to contribute to women-centric spaces. If you're a woman (identified person) and I sound even the least bit intriguing to you, please please please message me. Let's be friends or lovers or collaborators.