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38 M San Francisco, CA

My Details

Last Online
Aug 21
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Strictly anything
When drinking
Other, and laughing about it
Leo, and it’s fun to think about
Working on space camp
Entertainment / Media
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs
English (Fluently), Tagalog (Okay)

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My self-summary
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Lately I'm not sure what to do with these sorts of things. I've grown impatient with the double-standard when it comes to honesty; that certain things told here on a profile are "too much," but if said a month from now suddenly become endearing. I've been told that I'm better off with a stripped down profile, but how is that any different from the lovely two-word "what's up?" messages that you wistfully long for in your inbox? Hey, I'm verbose and tend to like whole tangles of yarn. Hopefully some of you kittens find it enjoyable to play in too.

Spontaneous, open-minded, adventurous, passionate, intense, and on occasion, contradictory. Maybe more than on occasion. A lot of extremes that at times seem incongruent. One thing I'm not tho is laid back--no confusion about that.

I'm creatively ambitious, dream big, and constantly strive towards excellence in technique and execution. I'm extremely unrelenting and unapologetic about it. I collaborate best with those who have the same hunger for self-improvement and growth. I'm passionate about my creativity and fit well with those who are passionate about what they do also.

Visual art, design, and storytelling have always been a driving force in my life and have always been encompassed in most everything I do: in the past, graphic design and oil painting; currently, photography, filmmaking, and tv commerial/music video production. I'm slowly discovering a synergy of all these plus a few others.

Recently, I've been coming to terms with the idea that I have a calling and it's equal parts surreal, frightening, and exciting. Fan-f*ckin-weird-tasic. It's led to quite a few life decisions which are hard to explain and harder to justify. Can't tell if it's bravery or a lot of crazy. Seriously.

I tend to dispense with small talk and would rather cozy up with glasses of whiskey, get to the nitty-gritty, and discuss personal philosophies, lessons learned from the past, human relations, and thoughts on love and sex—the psychology, lifestyles, beauty, and general mayhem of it all. I enjoy heated debate, but appreciate those who know when to back down, cool off, and possibly make out.

Although I enjoy my fair share of the usual twilife activities, I'm always more enthused for the random and odd. I'm always looking for the more deviant of accomplices.

I once thought I would never give up on Saturday morning cartoons, but that fell by the wayside ages ago. But I doubt the same will ever occur with dancing to house.

I have a pretty diverse set of interests that tends to grow if I don't keep it in check.

Kink is an important part of my life, but not a lifestyle per se. I'm open about it, but most would never guess. I get along better with partners like this.

OkCupid dropped the three-word-mad-lib from the profiles--those of you who are OG know what I'm talking about. I pay homage to its memory by proudly stating: I am a storyteller, a lecher, and asleep.
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm a filmmaker/photographer/visual artist seeking a happy medium between being true to ones artistic convictions, as well as getting mad paid so that one doesn't subsist on Cup o' Noodle alone. Starting to have a knack for the production and management side of art-related projects. Someone asked me recently what's my goal as a filmmaker. "To pay for film school through pornography, of course."

Making my dreams a reality—literally. The constant story ideas that flow out of my head can be a bit fantastical and overwhelming for some, but I doubt I'll ever run dry.

I'm currently writing, producing, and directing a 20 min short film that looks like it will take til the end of the year to finish. It's about dating and BDSM.

Finding a way to merge my love of fashion with my love of visual narrative.

Getting back into climbing and skiing.

Otherwise trying not to take life too seriously, tho I have a tendency to do just that.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Visualization. Working with my hands. Staying up late. Fixing things. Road-tripping. Scaling rock faces. Drunken flirtation. Making out. Training dogs. Oral cherry stem tying. Solving puzzles. Playing board games. Taking shots. Visiting airports at 3am. Making baked desserts. Being good, giving, and game. Writing erotic stories. Roleplay. Improving my aim. Helping people move. Picking out high heels. Tearing down and rebuilding living spaces. Personal organization (tho my room becomes a mess at times). Parallel parking a manual pickup into really small spaces on hills. Starting a fire. Trying to get really good at things I'm not really good at.
The first things people usually notice about me
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That I remind them of someone else they know--friend's friend, neighbor's cousin/nephew, old classmate. It's like I have an army of doppelgangers out there crawling around the world.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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This will most likely be outdated.

Artists: David LaChappelle, Ellen von Unwerth, Erwin Olaf, Gregory Crewdson, Marilyn Minter, Caravaggio, Jeff Koons, Matthew Barney, Mark Rothko, Odd Nerdrum, Masamune Shirow

Books: Most any by Dave Eggers, Haruki Murakami, David Sedaris, Chuck Palahniuk, Hunter S. Thompson, Christopher Moore, Neil Gaiman, Kurt Vonnegut, J G Ballard, Nicholson Baker, Roald Dahl (child and adult works). Was a big sci-fi reader with the big three: Asimov, Clarke, Heinlein. William Gibson, Orson Scott Card. Jeff Noon is the psychedelic frosting on the literary cake with Vurt. Favorite title is probably The Unbearable Lightness of Being. Plenty of non-fiction, usually dealing with psychology, sociology, sexuality, economics, and mental health. I recently read The Road, and it just killed me--someone got the bleak loneliness of the apocalypse right.

Movies: Too many. Let's try directors: David Fincher, Terry Gilliam, Christopher Nolan, Spike Jonze, Michel Gondry, the Coens, Zach Snyder, Ang Lee, Wong Kar-wai, Akira Kurosawa, Miyazaki, Satoshi Kon. I've missed a lot.

I will watch movies purely for the explosions.

On the mini-screen: Six Feet Under, Dexter, Battlestar, and The Venture Bros are about it. I probably should get into True Blood, Lost, and Fringe. I like sci-fi alot. Quite a bit of good anime too, tho I've fallen out of touch with it. Anyone up for a catchup binge/marathon?

Musicwise: Foo Fighter's "Everlong" is my favorite song. The video kills me every time I see it. Rock is always high in the list (modern, classic, punk, whatever)--especially with guitar or drums I can play to. Female-fronted rock bands tend to be more favored. House, electronica, east coast rap (circa Native Tongues era), violins and strings. Darker stuff at the right times and spaces. Hell, I listen to practically anything. But I don't follow music much, so I rely a lot on the musically-minded friends to keep my taste from being as terrible. Oh, and no top 40 rap/r&b please; I grew up on the stuff for eighteen years and I'm quite over it--except in clubs with white folks, because it's only fun then.

Foods: Anything. And bacon.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1) Stories
2) Manual transmission
3) Fountain pen ink
4) Maker's Mark
5) An amazingly intense, creative, and deviant playmate
6) Another six things
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
A lot of stories and images from dreams I have. And I have some really vivid, epic, strange ones. Random ideas, thoughts, problems, solutions. People, why we are the way we are, how we relate to others, relationships, sexuality. Why SF fashion isn't more hot. Design. Economics. Science. Survival skills. My mind is always on and running.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
not making the best decisions.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I size up women based on their ratio of high-heels to flats. The former is more heavily weighted.

I love San Francisco, but often wish it was more like LA.

I don't keep many secrets. One can always ask and it'll come tumbling out.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 25–40
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
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you're a geek with a fixation for Louboutin.

you've done your work.

you're serious about starting a deep friendship/relationship with someone who understands what it takes to keep it going.