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46 • Brooklyn, NY • Man
I’m looking for
- Ages 35–45
- Near me
- Who are single
- For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
- Last online
- Yesterday – 5:16pm
- 6′ 0″ (1.83m)
- Body type
- Mostly anything
- Agnosticism, and laughing about it
- Gemini, but it doesn’t matter
- Working on masters program
- Entertainment / Media
- Doesn’t have kids
- Likes dogs and dislikes cats
Reads: too much pixelated information, too few books. trying to invert that.
Listens: lots of radio. WNYC, BBC & podcasts at all hours.
Does: yoga-ing, biking, cooking, improvisational carpentry.
Where: Pittsburgh-native, academic family. Ivy League undergrad, degree of dubious utility.
How: mixture of focused and wandering, confident and insecure, externally calm and internally anxious, warmly curious and judgmentally observational, very smart and sometimes flakey.
I bike practically everywhere, as much as I can.
Joke: user_name. And on a relate note, I apologize, on behalf of the Cro-Magnon contingent of my gender for the apparent ickiness of guy-behavior in the world of online dating. I didn't know: Man poses as woman on OKC.
Work: Taught in Indonesia then worked, wrote, travelled in/to/from Hong Kong for a decade, before returning to NYC for family, friends, & big magazine job.
Now: Embarking on a big change. Lately returned to the Land of Big Media as an editor/manager of a group of digital whiz kids. Exciting and a little scary. Once and future freelance writer, journalist writing about green things -- energy, environment, carbon, climate, sustainability, though I assure you this was never me. No, not one bit: freelancer de-evolution. This, however, rings true (silently, of course): the solitude of freelancing.
Body & mind: run, bike, yoga, cook, hands-on classes (RIP 3rd Ward), keeping up with friends. Keeping a beehive or two with some friends. I've been stung twice.
Yep: Park Slope Co-op. Perhaps I have cashiered you?
Style: Minimalist, low-/no-brand. Less is more.
Radio unlike: irritated by Leonard Lopate - is he ever paying attention?; and Prairie Home, but for some reason can't stop listening, so end up mumbling foul thoughts at Garrison Keillor many weekend afternoons.
Food: Not a foodie, more of a chowhound. Favorites include Spicy Thai, Hunan & Szechuan (soup dumplings, mmm) and Mediterranean. Greek diners. Have been teaching myself to cook in the past couple of years, h/t to CooksIllustrated.com.
Written wurds: These days I read almost only non-fiction, mostly magazines and web media about cities, energy systems, environment, climate, consumerism, and the like. But I do squeeze in the odd bit of fiction now and then. My favorite-est ever? Coetzee, Disgrace... Nabokov, Lolita... Garcia-Marquez, Love in the Time of Cholera... Delillo, White Noise... Malcolm X, Biography... Nicholson Baker. There's a never-diminishing pile of magazines that drifts around my apartment: permanent fixtures include The Economist, The New Yorker, and New York; others come and go depending on pique, such as, Bicycling, Wired, Discover, PopSci, PopMech, and Nautilus.
Small screen: TV wise, nothing has come close to The Wire. Lots of excellent also-rans, too: True Detective... Game of Thrones... Breaking Bad... House of Cards... Fargo... Justified... Louie. Funny wise, we're in a rich, rich period: Portlandia... High Maintenance... Man Seeking Woman... Broad City.
There have been a slew of fantastic, dark UK series of late, too:
Utopia and Black Mirror. Why is it nobody does dystopic quite so well as the British?
I killed my Time Warner a while back, so my viewing is mostly guerrilla style now. This has left me vulnerable to the hypnotic power of cable, when i run into it. So if you have cable, I can come and visit and pester you to let me slump on your sofa, mouth-breathing while ogling reruns of This Old House. Hot, no?
Comedians: Louis CK. Maria Bamford. Tig Notaro. Chris Rock. Dave Chappelle. Key & Peele.
Visual artists: Wendy MacNaughton and The Oatmeal.
Music. eclectic: receptive to wise guidance... jazz and old stax-kinda r&b... dubstep... new music (as in post classical) whatever it's called now... things that make me happy when they pop up on the ipod: radiohead, portishead, police, postal service, Velvet Underground, Lou Reed, Bowie. I eschew autotune.
Bigger screen: Jodorowsky's Dune... Bladerunner... The Usual Suspects... Dr Strangelove... Donnie Darko... On The Bowery... Had a Peter Greenaway obsession for a stretch -- what happened to that guy? I'm a little movie under-educated, and welcome sage guidance.
making things, putting things away, writing better words faster, aging loved ones, cooking, what next where, why i always seem to miss voicemails, books I want to read, how to laugh more.
in practice, under the right circumstances, i'm willing to admit pretty much anything. honesty begets honesty, and laughter, usually.
If you have a dog, and like to bike around — and if you have a dog *on* your bike, even better. And if your dog can ride a bike, quit your job, call an agent and email me so i can come check it
Alas, full feline disclosure: I'm super allergic to cats, so much so that it's near-to-impossible for me to spend time in homes where they live.
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