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afoodie

46 M Berkeley, CA

I’m looking for

  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 30–40
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Mar 21
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 3″ (1.91m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Religion
Agnosticism, and laughing about it
Sign
Aries, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from law school
Job
Law
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
So, I have decided that it is time for a new header here.

I am looking to meet more people, make more friends and get out more. I am also looking to meet someone for a very LTR. I want to have children. My own biological child(ren). This is not to say that I can't deal with pre-existing children, just that I admit that I have the ego that I do want to sire at least one child of my own. Further, I have been in open and polyamorous relationships before, and I would say that I am monogamish. I am not *seeking* a poly relationship, but neither am I adverse to one. I am seeking a relationship that can (sensibly) lead to parenthood.

The *want kids* factor is also what drives my advertised age range. I feel like I am not likely to have much in common with someone under 30; and, unfortunately, with how nature treats the fertility/age factor, over 40 is a heck of a lot harder to have kids. Now, if you're over 40, really want kids and think that this somewhat awkward and geeky guy might be your cup of tea, then please, drop me a line.

Now back to our previously written introduction:
I am a geeky intellectual. I am also loyal, protective, silly, and consider the word "weird" to be a compliment.

What you see is what you get with me. There is very little difference between who I am in public and who I am in private, except that I almost never get naked in public.

I will try almost anything once, twice if I'm not quite sure whether or not I liked it the first time.
I am often willing to do most anything, but do sometimes need a bit of help to get there.

I don't seem like it to many, but I'm actually kind of shy until I get comfortable with someone.

I am somewhat introverted, and do need some time to myself. However, I also really like to be around people who draw me out of my shell.

I talk. A lot. About many subjects. Lots of different things are interesting to me, and I have a memory for trivial information about most anything.

I am a polymath, but pretty much a monoglot. I know a little Spanish, but otherwise I only know food vocabulary in other languages, and only a little of that,

I am looking for someone who is more outgoing than I am, has a keen mind and a sharp wit. A touch of attitude is good. I love an independent and individual spirit.

People tend to fall into one of two camps (often best seen in their parenting styles) nurturing or authoritarian. I am in the nurturing camp and am looking for someone else who is as well.

Humor is how I deal with the world. I look to be amused as much of the time as possible. While I can certainly be serious, I try to put a little lightheartedness and levity into everything I do.

Make me laugh. Please.

I waver between being on a bunch, and not being on at all.

I am looking to find interesting people to spend time with. While I am a very sexual person, I am not looking for "booty calls," rather i am looking to establish relationships that may or may not become sexual.

I am definitely a bay area person. I was born here back when Walnut Creek still had walnut trees. I have lived in other places, including Chicago, Austin, DC, Vancouver and Santa Cruz. I have found that I'm only happy when living on the west coast.

I consider being called weird a complement.
I like spicy food of many kinds, and enjoy making it nearly as much as consuming it.
I enjoy kinky, but don't require it.
I believe that communication is the key to keeping relationships working. Honesty is also key - being poly is hard enough in this world.

In the "my details" section, I would like to be able to add "roasted" or "fried" to the "likes children" - yes that's the way my sense of humor goes.
What I’m doing with my life
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I rode my recumbent trike from Canada to the Mexican border and am going to be exploring many of the trails and bike paths in the bay area.

I am also working on improving myself and improving the world.

At the moment, that means that I am keeping a new exercise regimen. I have finally figured out a way to make my juggling productive - juggling heavy balls is toning up my upper body better than I could have imagined! I am also amazed at how much better I already feel, and how much my body is changing as a result.

I am also looking at transitioning careers so that my work will more strongly mirror my morals and beliefs (I used to think that having work be morally neutral - to me at least - was sufficient, now I'm actively working towards finding a job that is furthering what I believe to be right). Some of this is already happening, but I still have to figure out some way to make it pay.

Finally, I am realizing that if I want to have kids, I should probably start pretty soon. Since I do want to have kid(s), I guess that one thing that I am looking for is someone to have kids with.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Translating between lay, scientific and legal english.
Explaining complicated ideas.
Putting together food that tastes good. At least most of the time.
Making a mess in the kitchen (see above entry).
Inadvertently being hilarious, often by sticking my foot in my mouth.
Trivia and arcana - I probably know too many little things about too many strange topics. This does, however, make it easier for me to find something to talk about with most anyone (note, I did say talk - I seem to do this better in person than through the keyboard). Also, if someone is put off by the way I know something about almost anything, it's a good bet that we wouldn't get along anyway.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I'm tall and people can't tell how old I am by looking at me, as my face looks younger than my grey hair implies. Neither is correct. If you average the two, you tend to get closer to the truth.

I know huge amounts of trivial information in most areas excepting sport and opera. I do want to learn more about opera, but probably not team sports.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books - I cut my teeth on Science Fiction, and have read too much Phillip K. Dick for my own good. I re-read Heinlein relatively frequently. I loved Lord of the rings, but haven't read it in many years. Mark Twain is a great favorite, and The Princess Bride is both one of my all time favorite books and movies (how rare is that?). Lately most of my novel consumption has actually been via audio books, and I find that I like to listen to many things that I don't particularly like to read. Especially humorous stuff. I've been surprised. For example, Hitchiker's guide is too much for me to want to read it. However, it's great read aloud. I also find that I liked the Discworld series a whole lot more aloud than on paper.

Movies - My movie tastes also go all over the place. One of my all time favorite movies is Lion in the Winter - Katherine Hepburn does such an amazing job. But then, I also loved The Big Lebowski, The Blues Brothers and most of Jackie Chan's Hong Kong productions.
I really like everything that I've ever seen by Kurosawa, and my favorite is probably The Bad Sleep Well which actually forced Japan to change it's extorsion laws!
I also like film noir, enjoy action flicks and am not scared of subtitles.

Music - Actually, I like a whole lot of stuff, but usually not whats in the "top 40" list - although I do get surprised there from time to time. My standbys: guitar driven rock, good lyrics and deep voices. I want Tom Waits, Leo Kottke and Leonard Cohen to get together and write "Ballads to make the whole world blue".
Lately I've been on a Texas blues kick, especially when out walking. The driving guitar just helps keep me going and increasing my distance. I think my favorite this month is Ian Moore's eponymous album. I am a fan of the Black Crowes, the White Stripes, Blues Traveler, Deep Purple (and I run out of color related bands in my ipod).
Some of the most played bands on my ipod include: Dave Matthews, The Dead, Counting Crows, Dire Straits, Elvis Costello, Emmylou Harris, Frank Zappa, Parliament Fuinkadelic, John Prine, Lady Gaga, Melissa Ethridge, Paul Simon, Peter Gabriel, the Pogues, Prince, Warren Zevon and ZZ Top.
Anyone who knows the Surf Coasters gets major bonus points!

Food - I like it spicy. I am profoundly glad that I grew up in Berkeley where I got to have Indian, Mexican, Thai and Ethiopian food while I was still a little tow-headed kid.
I like to experiment with making food, and I need to acquire another kitchen that I can work in, 'cause the vegetarians I live with don't allow animal products in the kitchen.

By the way, I too love cheese, but it just seems a little odd to me that everyone has to put cheese in their favorites list. Is there a cultural reference that I am missing, or is the love for pressed and salted (and treated in various other ways) curd just a universal love? If you have a theory, please let me know. I am going to be keeping track. Some time, I'll post the results.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Food that tickles the tastebuds
Long conversations about nothing in particular
Interesting-looking people
Pretty places to meander
Good things to read
Sex in any or all of its lovely multivariant forms

I've been learning a lot about what I can't do without, as my house burned down a couple of years ago and destroyed most of what I owned. It's still awfully weird to think about most of my possessions in the past tense.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
What barriers I have put up that are now getting in my way, and how to overcome those barriers.

How to build a sustainable floating island - I kinda want to start my own country, and make it work by acquiring resources in less environmentally damaging ways than we do now.

How we can improve the world and how to convince others that it needs improving in the ways that I think it does.

Building things - furniture is my usual medium.
Cooking things. Also, fermenting things. I think that I'm going to start making mead again. I love the stuff and I miss having it around.

How amazing the world is.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Cooking something, surfing the web or the TV, and/or thinking about what I should really be doing. My life has gotten too staid lately, that's part of why I'm here.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Getting my nipples pierced was one of my best rash decisions ever. The rings have proven to be really fun for everyone involved.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You like to cuddle, you are interested in deep conversations, you like to try new food or you think that I'm cute. :-).