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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 30–38
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 2:21am
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Buddhism, and somewhat serious about it
Aquarius, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay), Portuguese (Poorly), Ukrainian (Poorly)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
cue Raphael Saadiq singing "Good Man"

I'm the product of deep, black southern roots steeped in Ukrainian tradition. Therefore, the European decorum and Southern manners with which I was raised have left me with a few tendencies: I'm a gracious and generous host, don't put my elbows on the table, chew with my mouth closed, and have been known to say "y'all" and ignore an ending consonant or two. I was the well-read class clown who grew up to be a walking contradiction, a progressive throwback, a warrior-poet, an opinionated introvert, a fountain of Seinfeldian references, yadda yadda yadda.

Guys like me do things like quote obscure movie lines in full character until you laugh, convince you to ride an hour outside the city for a jar of rhubarb preserves, write a haiku on your leg, and let you keep the sunglasses after you borrow them. My heart is sometimes careful, sometimes reckless, but I know that heartbreak is sometimes necessary for me to earn what I am worth. I love art, sports, cartoons, music, the sun, and life in general, including my job and all things academic; I'm addicted to learning and am always taking some sort of class whether in pursuit of another degree or some random hobby.

I value spiritual strength, formal education, emotional intelligence, and physical fitness. Please know that these are absolutely non-negotiable. We don't have to agree on their foundations, but they have to exist for both of us. Every precious moment on this earth is a gift, so I fill each one with things I've always wanted to do: I affect change through the youth, coach and compete in athletics, travel abroad as frequently as possible (Nicaragua most recently), and generally do the things I need to do to be the man I want to be. When I go, I go hard, and while I'm ok with the fact that my busy schedule has left me with a little less spare time than usual, I'm willing to rearrange a few things for the right person.

That's where you come in.

*fade out Raphael Saadiq, fade in The Rolling Stones: "Thru and Thru"

You're spontaneous but not reckless, right? An intellectual with humility? Are you kind almost to a fault?

Will you throw your heels in the corner and dance until you sweat if your favorite song comes on? I swear I would if I wore heels. You have favorite things and know how to share without regret. You love competition, but are not a sore loser. You're neat but not obsessed, beautiful sans meticulousness, tolerant, wear your hair naturally, and are a free-thinker. I used to be such a sucker for smart girls; now it's a requirement, so our conversations will keep the check on the table for quite some time, even though its been paid. You'd be down with starting our own "vinyl and red wine night" or something. You know how to be still, can comfortably share a silence when appropriate. You can disagree without being angry. You have a history with some bumps and bruises, but they have all healed. You are formally educated and still a lifelong learner. You question, respect, and rebel against authority when necessary. You're thinking about messaging me. I've been looking for you, too.

Fade out Thru and Thru, fade in "Call Waiting" by Zap Mama
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Teaching pays the bills and keeps me fulfilled, but I'm sort of layered. I also coach (and play) soccer, just finished another Master's program, and have started my own Strategic Communications firm. I put my all into everything I do and have many hobbies and projects.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Supporting those close to me, mentoring teenagers, hitting baseballs, playing goalie, writing stuff that people want to read, peeling back layers of Shakespeare plays and Sopranos episodes, waking up early, running down buses, dancing without being self-conscious, decorating things, and eating breakfast....I LOVE breakfast!
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I take my values very, very seriously and work extremely hard at being a good person. I've been told that I'm very easy to trust.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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"The Triple Package: How Three Unlikely Traits Explain the Rise and Fall of Cultural Groups in America", "Shambhala: The Sacred Path of the Warrior", "Awakening the Buddha Within", "Life of Pi", "Ishmael", "The Prophet", "Twenty Love Poems and a Song of Dispair", "Africa United: Soccer, Passion, Politics, and the first World Cup in Africa", "The Art of Manliness", "13 Ways of Looking at a Black Man", "Love in a Dead Language", "The Master and Margarita"
I don't watch a lot of television...mostly just sports (soccer, football, baseball), documentaries, BBC...but I'll do Orange is the New Black, Vice, or Mad Men once in a while. I'll admit I do love "guy" movies, looney toons, and movies where the set plays a character like "Slumdog Millionaire", "City of God", or "Fire in Babylon"
I guess I love indie flicks, especially the obscure ones that make you think. Film festivals are one of my favorite parts of life, along with Indian food, Ethiopian food, and of course BREAKFAST!
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Food (the good kind), art, morning air, the sun, agua de coco, my family, a good pair of athletic shoes, and two extra spots on this list.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game. I can focus more on "now".
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
all dressed up with no place to go.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
If a date grabs my arm because it's cold or to cross the street, I always flex it. There! My secret is out!
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You're past all the bullshit and ready to give what's real...and receive the same in return.