I'm the product of deep, black southern roots steeped in Ukrainian tradition. Therefore, the European decorum and Southern manners with which I was raised have left me with a few tendencies: I'm a gracious and generous host, don't put my elbows on the table, chew with my mouth closed, and have been known to say "y'all" and ignore an ending consonant or two. I was the well-read class clown who grew up to be a walking contradiction, a progressive throwback, a warrior-poet, an opinionated introvert, a fountain of Seinfeldian references, yadda yadda yadda.
Guys like me do things like quote obscure movie lines in full character until you laugh, convince you to ride an hour outside the city for a jar of rhubarb preserves, write a haiku on your leg, and let you keep the sunglasses after you borrow them. My heart is sometimes careful, sometimes reckless, but I know that heartbreak is sometimes necessary for me to earn what I am worth. I love art, sports, cartoons, music, the sun, and life in general, including my job and all things academic; I'm addicted to learning and am always taking some sort of class whether in pursuit of another degree or some random hobby.
I value spiritual strength, formal education, emotional intelligence, and physical fitness. Please know that these are absolutely non-negotiable. We don't have to agree on their foundations, but they have to exist for both of us. Every precious moment on this earth is a gift, so I fill each one with things I've always wanted to do: I affect change through the youth, coach and compete in athletics, travel abroad as frequently as possible (Nicaragua most recently), and generally do the things I need to do to be the man I want to be. When I go, I go hard, and while I'm ok with the fact that my busy schedule has left me with a little less spare time than usual, I'm willing to rearrange a few things for the right person.
That's where you come in.
*fade out Raphael Saadiq, fade in The Rolling Stones: "Thru and Thru"
You're spontaneous but not reckless, right? An intellectual with humility? Are you kind almost to a fault?
Will you throw your heels in the corner and dance until you sweat if your favorite song comes on? I swear I would if I wore heels. You have favorite things and know how to share without regret. You love competition, but are not a sore loser. You're neat but not obsessed, beautiful sans meticulousness, tolerant, wear your hair naturally, and are a free-thinker. I used to be such a sucker for smart girls; now it's a requirement, so our conversations will keep the check on the table for quite some time, even though its been paid. You'd be down with starting our own "vinyl and red wine night" or something. You know how to be still, can comfortably share a silence when appropriate. You can disagree without being angry. You have a history with some bumps and bruises, but they have all healed. You are formally educated and still a lifelong learner. You question, respect, and rebel against authority when necessary. You're thinking about messaging me. I've been looking for you, too.
Fade out Thru and Thru, fade in "Call Waiting" by Zap Mama