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41 M Washington, DC

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 9:16am
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Buddhism, and somewhat serious about it
Aquarius, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay), Portuguese (Poorly), Ukrainian (Poorly)

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My self-summary
*cue Raphael Saadiq singing "Good Man"

I'm the product of deep, black southern roots steeped in Ukrainian tradition. Therefore, the European decorum and Southern manners with which I was raised have left me with a few tendencies: I don't put my elbows on the table, chew with my mouth closed, have been known to say "y'all", have great posture, and am a gracious and generous host. I was the soccer / bookworm / record store nerd in school who grew up to be a walking contradiction, a progressive throwback, a warrior-poet, an opinionated introvert, a fountain of Seinfeldian references, yadda yadda yadda.

Guys like me do things like quote obscure movie lines in full character until you laugh, convince you to ride an hour outside the city for a jar of rhubarb preserves, write a haiku on your leg, and let you keep my sunglasses after you borrow them. I love art, sports, cartoons, music, the sun, and life in general, including my job and all things academic; I'm addicted to learning and am always taking some sort of class whether in pursuit of another degree or some random hobby.

I value spiritual strength, emotional intelligence, and physical fitness. Please know that these are absolutely non-negotiable. We don't have to agree on their foundations, but they have to exist for both of us.

Every precious moment on this earth is a gift, so I fill each one with things I've always wanted to do: I affect change through the youth, coach and compete in athletics, have finally started my own business, and let grad school devour the rest of my time. When I go, I go hard, and while I'm ok with the fact that my busy schedule has left me with a little less spare time than usual, I'm willing to rearrange a few things for the right person.

That's where you come in.

*fade out Raphael Saadiq, fade in The Rolling Stones: "Thru and Thru"

You're spontaneous but not reckless, right? An intellectual with humility? Are you kind almost to a fault?

Will you throw your heels in the corner and dance until you sweat if your favorite song comes on? I swear I would if I wore heels.
You have favorite things and know how to share without regret. You love competition, but are not a sore loser. You're neat but not obsessed, beautiful sans meticulousness, tolerant, wear your hair naturally, and are a free-thinker. I'm a sucker for the really smart girls (I'll chase you if you're ivy league or if you have more degrees than I), and our conversations will keep the check on the table for quite some time, even though its been paid. You'd be down with starting our own "vinyl and red wine night" or something. You can disagree without being angry. You have a history with some bumps and bruises, but they have all healed. You are formally educated but a lifelong learner. You question, respect, and rebel against authority when necessary. You're thinking about messaging me. I've been looking for you, too.

*Fade out Thru and Thru, fade in "Call Waiting" by Zap Mama
What I’m doing with my life
Teaching pays the bills and keeps me fulfilled, but I'm sort of layered. I also coach (and play) soccer, am a full time grad school student, and have started my own Strategic Communications firm. I put my all into everything I do and have many hobbies and projects.
I’m really good at
Supporting those close to me, mentoring teenagers, hitting baseballs, playing goalie, writing stuff that people want to read, peeling back layers of Shakespeare plays and Sopranos episodes, making CD's for my friends, running really fast, dancing without being self-conscious, decorating things, stopping to smell the proverbial (and literal) flowers, and eating breakfast....I LOVE breakfast!
The first things people usually notice about me
I take my values very, very seriously and work extremely hard at being a good person. I've been told that I'm very easy to trust. Oh, and my students always tell me that I have that "laid back vibe". That always makes me smile.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
"Caucasia" by Danzy Senna, "Shambhala: The Sacred Path of the Warrior", "Awakening the Buddha Within", "Life of Pi", "Ishmael", "The Prophet", "Twenty Love Poems and a Song of Dispair", "Africa United: Soccer, Passion, Politics, and the first World Cup in Africa", "The Harvard Guide to Careers", "The Art of Manliness", "13 Ways of Looking at a Black Man", "Love in a Dead Language", "The Master and Margarita"
I don't watch a lot of television...mostly just sports (soccer, football, baseball), documentaries, BBC...but I'll do Scandal, Game of Thrones, Vice, or Mad Men once in a while. I'll admit I do love "guy" movies, looney toons, and movies where the set plays a character like "Slumdog Millionaire", "City of God", or "Fire in Babylon"
I guess I love indie flicks, especially the obscure ones that make you think. Film festivals are one of my most favorite parts of life, along with Indian food, Ethiopian food, and of course BREAKFAST!
The six things I could never do without
Food (the good kind), art, air, the sun, water, my family, a good pair of athletic shoes, and two extra spots on this list.
I spend a lot of time thinking about I can focus more on "now".
On a typical Friday night I am
writing a paper and wishing I was at some art show with a DJ. Friday is when the week catches up to me, but I'd be willing to rearrange a few things for the right person. Wait...I said that already, right? Did I also mention that I graduated from the Redundancy School of Redundance?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I would go out on a date with a woman I met online.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 30–38
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating
You should message me if
What I want to say:
If you want my body and you think I'm sexy
Come on, sugar, let me know...

What I'm going to say:
If you have something more to offer than a response to some shallow Rod Stewart lyric.