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JoyfulN0ise

27 San Jose, CA Woman

Woman

I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 23–55
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My Details

Last Online
Dec 23
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 2″ (1.57m)
Body Type
Full figured
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Agnosticism, and laughing about it
Sign
Scorpio, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Art / Music / Writing
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
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Hello there! My name is Joy.

I've lived all over the country, but here is where I intend to stay. I'm polyamorous and kinky. If neither of those work for you, move along. I am in a serious, long-term relationship with a really great guy and I'm here looking for casual dating and possibly/hopefully another serious romantic relationship... but I prefer to let those things develop organically.

If you care about that sort of thing, I am an ENFP. I'm not the settling down type, so I prefer those who want to run free with me instead. I enjoy dating both single-type people as well as those with existing partners.

I'm not just looking for sex (although sex is fucking awesome) or boring dates where we struggle to come up with something to say to each other. I want romance. I want to go to the beach at sunset and marvel at the exquisite beauty of nature with you. I want to seek out foodgasms at hole-in-the-wall restaurants with you. I want to laugh until one/both of us snorts with you. I want to attend a concert at a small, intimate venue and feel the music reverberate through my soul with you. I want to bar hop until 3am with you. I want to stay in on a Tuesday evening and play Scrabble or watch too many episodes of some hilarious TV show with you. I want to cook with you. I want to discuss books and childhood memories and weird history with you. I want to learn from you. If any or all of that sounds good, send me a message. I want to hear from you.
What I’m doing with my life
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I write, professionally and for fun. I've got two books in progress and am working on a series of short horror stories that I'd like to publish together eventually. You can find some of my horror writing on readyforspooks.tumblr.com.

I'm also active in the South Bay kink community, attending lots of events, workshops and discussion group. I am the moderator of a monthly polyamory discussion group in San Jose.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Reading people, brightening people's days, making awkward jokes, singing in the shower, failing miserably at videogames but insisting on playing them anyway, baking, cooking, getting glitter everywhere, being too busy for even my planner to keep up, communication, kissing, gigglefits, making people laugh.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I'm pretty energetic and usually have a giant smile on my face. If I'm not laughing, I'm probably having a bad day. I tend to end up being the life of the party and am the first person to try and make anyone who looks uncomfortable feel welcome and relaxed. If you were to spot me alone in public, chances are I'd be reading a paperback or scribbling into a notebook.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I love:
Neil Gaiman
Song of Ice and Fire series
Harry Potter
history, sociology & anthropology
Ever After
28 Days Later
comedies
documentaries
terrible SyFy/Lifetime movies
Welcome to Night Vale
Friends
Doctor Who
The Walking Dead
Community
Parks & Rec
Boy Meets World
anything Joss Whedon has ever produced
Bright Eyes
Andrew McMahon's many projects
Mumford & Sons
The Killers
jazz and blues
dance/pop/hip hop with a killer beat
Brian Wilson
pretty much all music, honestly
Thai
Indian
vegetarian/vegan
coffee
peanut butter

If you want to know more, well, that's the whole point of a conversation :P
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. books
2. makeup (it's fun to play with and my face makes an excellent canvas)
3. music
4. the ocean
5. cuddling
6. peanut butter
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
* Body politics and fat acceptance
* Sex positivity and the issues surrounding sex work, pornography and BDSM/kink culture as they intersect with race, sexism, gender and privilege
* The two novels I am writing
* Whatever TV show I am currently obsessed with (at present that'd be The West Wing)
* Whatever book(s) I'm reading (Les Miserables, Fall of the House of Dixie, and a super trashy paranormal romance to balance it out)
* Costume/outfit ideas for the next party I'm attending
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Going out to an event/party in SF or hosting a game night with friends. Sometimes I stay in and watch movies with my roommates or catch up on my reading.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I am on the right side of the slash in a Dominant/submissive relationship, with the aforementioned serious partner. No, not like 50 Shades of Grey. If you'd like to know more, message me.

Also, I don't own a car at present. But I'm a big fan of walking and pretty good at public transpo.
You should message me if
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- You are capable of sending a message that is more than just a couple sentences words long. "Hi" and "Hey sexy" do nothing to make me want to respond to you.
- You are polyamorous and/or curious and would like to know more about poly/polyamory and open relationships.
- You're kinky or at least kink-friendly. I'm pretty goddamn kinky and very involved in BDSM, so it's important that anyone I potentially date is aware and understanding of that. And yes, I *do* have a profile on Fetlife.
- You love board games (especially Munchkin or Scrabble).
- You think you have a shot at beating me in Mario Kart.

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