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agent_of_change

37 M Oakland, CA

My Details

Last Online
Today – 8:02am
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 6″ (1.98m)
Body Type
Thin
Diet
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Other
Sign
Capricorn, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from Ph.D program
Job
Medicine
Income
$100,000–$150,000
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Slovak (Okay), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
I usually find the "self-summary" highly misleading once I start getting to know the person. I kept trying to come up with one that feels authentic, but no luck yet. I must be way too complicated and interesting to be summarized ). I like to see other people as great mysteries that are constantly unfolding in new and fascinating ways. I'll take your "summary" with a grain of salt as well.
What I’m doing with my life
Solving problems. Trying to lighten up. Wavering between being and doing. Getting too busy and then doing nothing. Trying to find more balance. Finding balance and then losing it. Laughing really hard at life or taking life too seriously.

I'm a licensed psychologist and I recently left my work in community mental health working with severely mentally ill people. Im totally stoked about my fancy new job at Kaiser. I worked there for a year before I got my license and I loved it. I'm mostly working on their chemical dependency team, but I get to see all kinds of patients. People tend to find my work either fascinating, or weird and unappealing. I can totally understand either reaction, but my healing work is one of my biggest passions in life, so I'm obviously looking for someone who can appreciate what therapists do.

I should say that I recently temporarily moved to Castro valley to be a little closer to my new job. I say temporarily because I already hella miss Oakland and I am thinking I might move back before the end of the year.

My spirituality is a really important part of my life. I like to study various philosophies that I find interesting, even if I don't fully believe in them. I like to explore ideas and practices that seem like they will bring more love and joy into my being. I enjoy connecting with people from all backgrounds, as long as they are open and accepting. I tend to connect particularly well with people whose spiritual paths have lead them to a deep care for themselves, other people and social justice.
I’m really good at
Making you laugh! Just kidding - I don't know you!

I'm good at inspiring people to feel hopeful and optimistic - not in a sappy, sentimental way, but in a real way.

Asking questions and listening REALLY hard to what people say (at least when I'm interested).

I'm pretty sweet on my guitar these days.

I'm also good at enjoying things even though I'm not very good at them... a few recent examples have been playing drums, dancing and surfing.
The first things people usually notice about me
I've been told I have an intense gaze and that people feel calm around me. I wonder if that is true.

People also notice that I'm really tall, but I like to pretend I don't know what they are talking about. Its fun.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I read a lot of books about depth psychology, spirituality, whatever healing practices I find interesting. I like various poets and philosophers. After being a student for a long time, I sort of stopped reading fiction. One of these days I will start reading novels again. There you go - a vague summary.

Movies: Garden State, Pink Floyd The Wall, The Myth of Fingerprints, Amelie, I Heart Huckabees, The Believer, Priest, The Mission, Waking Life, Napoleon Dynamite. The Big Lebowski, Most Cohen Brothers. Before Sunrise

Television: Northern Exposure. The Daily Show. Seinfeld. Family Guy. The Simpsons. South Park Home Movies. Robot Chicken, Loony Tunes. In Treatment. Sopranos. I sort of hate TV. I recently moved into a place that has basic cable and I would like it to go away.

Music: To name a few in no coherent order - Poi Dog Pondering, Donna the Buffalo, Rusted Root, Bob Dylan, Paul Simon, Van Morrison, Ani DiFranco, Bob Marley, Tom Waits Phish, CSNY, Dar Williams, Vic Chesnutt, Tool, Primus,Dave Matthews Band, Krishna Das, Jai Uttal, Carlos Santana.A Perfect Circle, Miles Davis, Joni Mitchell, Pearl Jam, Adiemus, John McLaughlin, Beatles, Talking Heads, CCR, Ben Harper, Tori Amos, Joan Baez,Loreena McKennitt,Woody Guthrie, Allison Kraus, Bjork, Smashing Pumpkins, Blind Melon, The Cure, Deep Forest, Ottmar Liebert, Radiohead, Snatam Kaur.
The six things I could never do without
Music, Creativity, Inspiration, Breathing, Meditation, Water.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How I can better serve the people I work with. How I can create a wonderful future for myself. How I can be a better friend. Anything and everything that makes me laugh.
On a typical Friday night I am
I have been going out and having a lot of fun on Friday nights since I moved to Oakland last winter. More recently I have been enjoying quiet nights with a few friends or by myself.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm a little neurotic - just a little! I'm really fun and easy-going too, so it somehow all balances out.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 28–42
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating