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agent_of_change

37 M Oakland, CA

I’m looking for

  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 25–42
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Online now!
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 6″ (1.98m)
Body Type
Diet
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Other
Sign
Capricorn, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from Ph.D program
Job
Medicine
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Slovak (Okay), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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I usually find the "self-summary" highly misleading once I start getting to know the person. We are way too complicated and interesting to be summarized. I like to see other people as great mysteries that are constantly unfolding in new and fascinating ways. I'll be happy to take your "summary" with a grain of salt.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Solving problems. Trying to lighten up. Wavering between being and doing. Getting too busy and then doing nothing. Trying to find more balance. Finding balance and then losing it. Laughing really hard at life or taking life too seriously.

I'm a licensed psychologist and I recently left my work in community mental health working with severely mentally ill people. Im totally stoked about my fancy new job at Kaiser. I worked there for a year before I got my license and I loved it. I'm mostly working on their chemical dependency team, but I get to see all kinds of patients. People tend to find my work either fascinating, or weird and unappealing. I can totally understand either reaction, but my healing work is one of my biggest passions in life, so I'm obviously looking for someone who can appreciate what therapists do.

I should say that I recently temporarily moved to Castro valley to be a little closer to my new job. I say temporarily because I already miss Oakland and I am thinking I might move back before the end of the year.

My spirituality is an important part of my life. I like to study all manner of traditions and philosophies that seem interesting, even if I don't actually believe in them. Every tradition I encounter speaks something of the human soul. I like to explore ideas and practices that seem like they will bring more fullness into my being. I enjoy connecting with people from all backgrounds, as long as they are open and accepting. I have no tolerance for religious intolerance, so if you think you know what the "truth" is, don't waste your time with me. I tend to connect particularly well with people whose spiritual paths have lead them to a deep care for themselves, other people and social justice.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Making you laugh! Just kidding - I don't know you!

I'm good at inspiring people to feel hopeful and optimistic - not in a sappy, sentimental way, but in a real way.

Asking questions and listening REALLY hard to what people say (at least when I'm interested).

I'm pretty sweet on my guitar these days.

I'm also good at enjoying things even though I'm not very good at them... a few recent examples have been playing drums, dancing and surfing.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I've been told I have an intense gaze and that people feel calm around me. Seems to fit.

People also notice that I'm really tall, but I like to pretend I don't know what they are talking about. Its fun.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I read a lot of books about depth psychology and whatever other healing practices I find interesting. I like various poets and philosophers. Someone asked me a few years ago why i don't read for fun, because I'm constantly reading something related to my work. Well, when you're a psychologist, every book that in some way relays to humans relates to work. I read pretty constantly, and it's always fun. While being a grad student for a long time, I sort of stopped reading fiction. One of these days I will start reading novels again.

Movies: Garden State, Dead Man, Pink Floyd The Wall, The Myth of Fingerprints, Amelie, I Heart Huckabees, The Believer, Priest, The Mission, Waking Life, Napoleon Dynamite. The Big Lebowski, Most Cohen Brothers. Star Wars.

Television: Northern Exposure. The Daily Show. Seinfeld. Family Guy. The Simpsons. South Park Home Movies. Robot Chicken, Loony Tunes. In Treatment. Sopranos. I sort of hate TV. I recently moved into a place that has basic cable and I would like it to go away.

Music: To name a few in no coherent order - Poi Dog Pondering, Donna the Buffalo, Rusted Root, Bob Dylan, Paul Simon, Van Morrison, Ani DiFranco, Bob Marley, Tom Waits Phish, CSNY, Dar Williams, Vic Chesnutt, Tool, Primus,Dave Matthews Band, Krishna Das, Jai Uttal, Carlos Santana.A Perfect Circle, Miles Davis, Joni Mitchell, Pearl Jam, Adiemus, John McLaughlin, Beatles, Talking Heads, CCR, Ben Harper, Tori Amos, Joan Baez,Loreena McKennitt,Woody Guthrie, Allison Kraus, Bjork, Smashing Pumpkins, Blind Melon, The Cure, Deep Forest, Ottmar Liebert, Radiohead, Snatam Kaur.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Music, Creativity, Inspiration, Breathing, Meditation, Water.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How I can better serve the people I work with. How I can create a wonderful future for myself. How I can be a better friend. Anything and everything that makes me laugh.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I have been going out and having a lot of fun on Friday nights since I moved to Oakland last winter. More recently I have been enjoying quiet nights with a few friends or by myself.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm a little neurotic - just a little! I'm really fun and easy-going too, so it somehow all balances out.