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28 M New York, NY

I’m looking for

  • Women who like men
  • Ages 21–31
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My Details

Last Online
Oct 19
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Graduated from Ph.D program
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids
Likes cats

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My self-summary
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Ergh I should really delete this profile... and yet I don't....

As certain elements of my pictures may betray, I enjoy some more creative activities in the bedroom. Specifically we should talk if you enjoy the idea of bondage, submission, or other bdsm related deviances.

Originally I used to have more submissive fantasies, but I have come to like taking control, and the pleasure I can bring in that role. (However, if you prefer be in charge I can certainly work with that)

I consider myself a feminist and I do not specifically find degrading women arousing. Rather I enjoy the exploration of the power dynamics between two people, and how that exchange of power and trust can access something...
...well something fun!

(I am also English, apparently my accent in an asset over here...)

Oh and I usually tend to 'star' before messaging, as I know this profile can be a little controversial. I recommend star-ing me back if you'd like to see what I have to say for myself!
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Photography, writing, and collecting B-roll for film projects that will probably never happen... Also a post doc that provides a consistent income.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Exercising self control and providing multiple orgasms.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My commanding presence...
Or my perfectly chiselled facial features that you will have to ask me to see... ;)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I have not read 50 shades of grey, and I have no intention of doing so.... just thought I'd get that out there.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Your obedience!
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Unusual sexual scenarios... and other experiments...
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I'll leave that to your imagination.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Well there's the fact I'm into kinky sex, you probably got that already. I'm also into food sex and getting into a mess, so there's some more information for you.

The photo of my toy collection got taken down, I have the same username on fetlife if you want to find more information there....

I am also a normal(ish) human, and have a real life that isn't primarily motivated by sex, I'd describe bdsm as more of a hobby than a compulsion... but where is that going to get you on the internet? Normally I start off pretty mild mannered when meeting strangers, which works for some girls but turns off others. I can play Mr domly dom dom if you like, but let me know if that's what you want otherwise I'll just be myself.

I also have a "normal" profile, so keep an eye out for other innocent looking Englishmen, you never know what secrets they hold...
You should message me if
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You are looking for a safe pair of hands with which to explore those fantasies you have always secretly entertained. I would never force anyone do something they are unhappy with, and I don't expect people to leap straight into sex fantasy mode either. I'm happy to get to know you, and wait until you feel comfortable with me. I can also make small talk like a boss!

Normal dating is fine too, just consider this profile an over the top ice breaker...

I don't mind if someone's nervous, unsure, or their dating situation is complicated, or if after meeting just decides they're not into me. However I do like to know where I stand and be replied to in a timely fashion, so if all you're interested in is teasing someone over the internet, don't bother.