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32 M Cambridge, MA

My Details

Last Online
Oct 11, 2013
5′ 4″ (1.63m)
Body Type
Strictly other
Working on Ph.D program
Relationship Status
Seeing Someone
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids
Has cats
English, French, German, Finnish (Okay)

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My self-summary
I'm going to take crack at taking this seriously and, you know, introduce myself in the manner of a more-or-less "normal" human (it's an act. *shhh*). I've recently settled in to my new life back in Cambridge (technically it was Boston last time, ~5 years ago), after stints in Philadelphia and Upstate NY (*shudder*). I've got a Masters in Philosophy (Boston College '06) and I'm about 50 pages away from a doctoral degree in Comp Lit. I'm in transition. I'm no longer living the student-life, for one. I'm taking a break from the classroom entirely, and I'm doing something entirely different (and significantly more lucrative) for work these days. While I plan to go back to teaching, it seemed important to spend at least some part of my life outside of the classroom. Rest assured, no matter what I do it's über-nerdy and sorta-cool-in-a-way.

I'm neither an introvert nor an extrovert, and probably more the latter than I'd previously thought. I take pride in my friendly, open-minded nature; I thrive on human contact, connection and conversation. Small talk, though, is not my cup of tea - it just gets in the way. TL;DR: my conversations don't stay at such a superficial level for very long at all.

I love to learn and to teach. Disciplinary boundaries are irrelevant, they all interrelate. I've got a bit of the collector in me, knowledge, words, books. Otherwise, I'm not too terribly into material possessions beyond what I need/can use.

I see my "purpose" in life as to change the world somehow for the better, to touch the lives of others and to make some difference for the better. Change the world one life at a time.

I grew up without any religious exposure or indoctrination, except for attending a Quaker kindergarten in Philadelphia. While I'm no longer an atheist, I don't believe in a "God." It's not the wrong answer, but the idea of a "God" is the result of asking the wrong questions. Very recently, I've come to accept the fact that without knowing it, my beliefs, such as they are, is closest to Non-Theist Quakerism, and I wouldn't argue if you called me one.

I'm an optimist and confident that, no matter the challenge, I'll meet it. Somehow. I'm a realist, and yet I dream; success in transfiguring reality in the image of a dream happens more frequently than would seem probable, even possible. My life has hardly been what one would call "ordinary." I'll spare your poor ears for the moment, and leave it at this: I've oh so many stories I could tell (I'm also a story-teller and wise-cracker (whether I'm a "wise cracker" is up to you to decide (also, I'm a big fan of nested parentheticals))).

While I hope my attempt at a self-summary made you laugh, don't take that to mean that I'm anything but sincere in being on here. A relationship or a new friend, that's what I hope might come of this.
What I’m doing with my life
I've resigned myself to the reality that there is no simple and succinct way for me to answer this question. Were I pressed to sum it up in a single sentence, I would have to say "I'm proving beyond a shadow of a doubt that philosophers are neither useless nor condemned to menial jobs."
I’m really good at
Learning. I can't help myself.

Remembering the lyrics to songs. I'm working on the singing part. I'm not half bad when I'm not feeling too self-conscious.

I'm very diplomatic. One could say that I'm neutral like Sweden, but that only goes so far... I'm empathetic but rational, and I know the value of tactility, so I'm quite good at giving comfort and care.

Verbal expression (whether written or not), colorful turns of phrase, abstract thought, etc. I can also MacGuyver a bong out of just about anything.
The first things people usually notice about me
While the specifics may vary, I cut a distinctive figure and always have something unusual and interesting to talk about.

I'm pretty enthusiastic. Apathy and indifference don't suit me.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food

Adorno, Agamben, Walter Benjamin, Georges Bataille, Blanchot, Blumenberg, Deleuze, Michel Foucault, Freud, Hegel, Kant, Kierkegaard, Kojeve, Nietzsche, Jacob Rogozinski, Simone Weil

Apollinaire, Aragon, Artaud, Baudelaire, Marcel Bénabou, Wiliam Blake, Paul Celan, Blaise Cendrars, J.L. Borges, Pierre Drieu la Rochelle, Dostoevsky, Eluard, Freud, Edmund Jabès, Alfred Jarry, Imré Kertesz, Kundera, Pierre Klossowski, Michel Leiris, Lautréamont, H.P. Lovecraft, Mallarmé, Michaux, Nerval, Novalis, Perec, Rimbaud, Rilke, Queneau, Georges Rodenbach, Joseph Roth, Jacques Roubaud, Sade, I have a bit of a love-hate relationship with Sartre, Paul Scheerbart (Lésabendio), Boris Vian

Mythology: The Kalavala

Visual Artists: André Masson, Francis Bacon, Magritte, Max Ernst, Miró, Klee

Anathema, Antimatter, Apulanta, British Sea Power, Bruce Soord with Jonas Renkse (The Wisdom of Crowds), Daniel Cavanagh/Joseph Geraci (The Passage), Delays, Haloo Helsinki!, Echo & The Bunnymen,Ghinzu, Chisu, Herra Ylppö & Ihmiset, Hurts, Idlewild, Indochine, Jenni Vartiainen, Katatonia, Kemopetrol, Lapko, Manic Street Preachers, Matthew Good, Mercury Rev, Muse, Placebo, Porcupine Tree, Damien Saez, Sentenced, Soilwork, Stars, Stella, Superbus, The Automatic, The Beautified Project, The Cooper Temple Clause, Thirteen Senses , Vegastar, Viikate, White Lies, Zen Café

Show: Futurama, Six Feet Under and Battlestar Galactica.

Movies: Iron Sky, Goodbye Lenin, Ma Mère, I (heart) Huckabees, The Edukators, Dr. Strangelove, Le Feu Follet, The Big Lebowski & PI.

Food: Indian, Japanese, Belgian, Middle Eastern, etc. Anything but fast food, and no red meat, please. Not that I object to cattlephagy, I just can't digest it!
The six things I could never do without
a place to call home, my cats, books, writing and computing implements (to preserve my livelihood), human interaction and life.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Whether the universe will be destroyed by a vacuum metastability event / false vacuum decay. The Big Rip. Theories of everything. Theories of everything.

In other words: everything and nothing.
On a typical Friday night I am
Who the frack knows nowadays. New surroundings, new patterns, now... will you be new people?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Context is everything: there's little that's categorically "too private" to share, or "too embarrassing" to own up to. Will I volunteer anything significant here and now? What could possibly interest you? How could I know?
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 21–37
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends
You should message me if
* You didn't use generic and meaningless terms to describe yourself, like "laid back", or such terms that inevitably indicate little more in teh offing than small talk.
* You're not a major sportball fan.
* You like cats. Or at very least, aren't allergic.

Why not? Odds are, it'll make me smile. No justifications needed.