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34 Oakland, CA Woman


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I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 35-40
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 10:05am
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
5' 4" (1.63m)
Body Type
Post grad
Doesn’t have kids but wants them
English (Fluently), Turkish (Fluently), German (Fluently), Spanish (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Originally from Istanbul, I spent some years on the East Coast and then moved to Berkeley for grad school. I am an engineer by training but took a turn in career direction into public health some years ago and am now working on water and health research. I absolutely love what I do and my work takes me abroad often. I love that through my job I get to travel, learn languages and try to find my footing in unfamiliar settings, all of which are among my favorite things to do in life.

I absolutely love the outdoors. Hiking, camping, running Lake Merritt, swimming and most other things done outdoors put me in a great mood (the exceptions are snow-related activities and sports that require hand-eye coordination - I am spectacularly bad at them).

I love dancing and know and/or can fake enough steps to any dance to have a good time, without being particularly good at any of them. I also like playing the guitar and singing, and am often humming a song.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I am a post-doctoral researcher and focus a lot of time and energy on my research. I travel a lot, both for work and for fun.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Adapting. Being positive. Learning languages. Coming through for friends.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
They notice the accent but can't place it. Also, that I speak fast and laugh often.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I enjoy non-fiction and have a soft spot for history and sciency things.

I am biased in favor of foreign movies (The Lives of Others, All About My Mother, Head On to list a few). I am pretty illiterate about TV shows but I do watch (and love) Game of Thrones and the occasional Turkish soap opera.

I loved the Beatles as a teenager (and still have a special place in my heart for them). I am not up to speed on contemporary music and like the older stuff (60s-80s). I like dancing to Latin and swing beats. I love old school jazz, and Balkan/Rebetiko tunes melt my heart.

My cooking is Mediterranean-ish and I can probably happily live for a *very* long time on feta, tomatoes and olive oil. I have vegetarian tendencies but generally appreciate food in all forms and shapes.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I have found that I can give up a lot of things and not really mind. The absolute must is companionship from friends and family. Good food is pretty hard to give up and so is a good night's sleep and a nice cup of tea in the morning. If I had to name a few more tangible things, I'd say my passport, my laptop and the ocean/sea.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Work, Istanbul, the future.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Having friends over for dinner or going out but I enjoy taking it easy at home with a movie or book as well. And occasionally I find myself doing work - it happens.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Umm, private thing I am willing to admit to anonymous strangers??
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
We are probably more likely to get along if you like the outdoors and have a thing for traveling and a bit of adventure in you but if conversation and chemistry clicks, that's a good start.

Ultimately though, what matters most is whether you are kind and compassionate, appreciate the value of mutual respect, understand the give/take ratio in relationships, are willing/able to communicate through conflict and are emotionally mature.

Also, I am a data scientist - I believe in the power of algorithms and big datasets so I do take this match percentage thing somewhat seriously (though I am intrigued by how okc asked me questions about how often I brush my teeth and whether I like cologne in men and then concluded that I am more ambitious and experienced than the average woman my age) but at any rate, I have a preference for those who appear to be a reasonably good match by okc voodoo.

I don't like super long back and forths over e-mail and instant messaging - I would just much rather chat over a cup of tea. Also, please no contentless one-liners like "hey, how r u?" - I truly don't know how to respond to those.