My longest relationship was with a woman 14 years older than I that began while I was still in graduate school, thus while, I believe, the movie The Graduate was still in first run, and its story closely parallels ours. Society then frowned upon such relationships, so I was too slow to voice my love for her and as a result, lost her when, realizing she would soon die of Lou Gehrig's Disease, as her mother had, she pushed me away from her, HARD, rather than have my memory of her colored by seeing her die a slow and painful death!
In another relationship where I truly expected to marry the woman, I was quick to tell her I loved her, but given both how quickly and often she complained to me about all men having treated her like a piece of meat, I made a point NOT to make a "move" on her, even in the face of such "invitations" as being told that she would show me whether I was correct if I would guess the size of her breasts. Of course, I recognized from the start that she was testing me, but expected it would subside with time, especially after she not only admitted the same to me, but said "You've passed every test"!
It did not, however, as she clearly enjoyed playing "the game" a little too much, but when I had finally had enough of the same and told her "good-bye", my reward was being told I was "too sexually inhibited to have ever stood a chance with her"!
To the contrary, in my presence my ex-fiancee told more than one woman she barely knew that I was: a)a better lover than her late husband; b)the best lover she had ever had; and c)she was tempted to "hire" me out because I was "that good". To be with her, I even moved to Virginia Beach, where we shared an apartment for 6 months, though with the expectation that if we did not return to Richmond together, we would at least move a lot closer to Richmond than Virginia Beach since her family is concentrated in Gloucester. Therefore, I have shown I am NOT afraid of making a commitment to the woman I love.
However, my commitment is predicated upon a relationship that is a "two-way street". I have shown myself to be someone who recognizes that a woman may need to "play games" to make certain the man she is dating is not just serious in his feelings about her, but also has presented himself to her accurately, but my patience with such games has a limit. It was my fiancee who chose to end our engagement, but for a variety of reasons, I chose not to make any effort to get her to reconsider as it had become clear to me that I would only be delaying, not stopping, an end to the engagement.
My patience has also been "exhausted" for any kind of "commuting" relationship. Thus, if the lady lives anywhere outside of Henrico or Hanover Counties east of I95 or the city of Richmond NORTH OF THE JAMES the interest I am likely to show will wane as the distance waxes.