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  • Ages 39–48
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Last online
Yesterday – 10:06am
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Buddhism, and laughing about it
Taurus, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), French (Okay), Indonesian (Poorly)
My self-summary
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"When you begin to touch your heart or let your heart be touched, you begin to discover that it's bottomless, that it doesn't have any resolution, that this heart is huge, vast, and limitless. You begin to discover how much warmth and gentleness is there, as well as how much space."
~ Pema Chodron


some great articles.....

New Orleans, Athens Ga, Breckenridge/ Durango Co, Austin Tx, Maui, SF, Kauai, India, Bali, SF/Oakland. (And a few other places in the mix...)

the pronunciation of my online name is akasha sky.

~The newest update: I have chosen to release my relationship to all substances-even the subtle smoking agent......all of it. Two months ago-supporting the next chapter of life-and being my full on awesome self without crutches, filters or blinders. Its a real exploration going out now.........Im extremely happy. No I dont judge anyone-and we wont be doing it together. So I hope you like yourself enough to share with me sans the fillers. its the adventure of a lifetime. What it truly means is being willing to face everything, feel everything, and know what it means to be enough. My sense is that life has been spent with so much posturing around the real feelings, and there is no more time to hold back, wait, or fidget from the true experience.
#Clear#connected#pure #unadulterated#unapologetic#justme.
Yes there are adjustments and it aint easy in some respects-however I know as I clarify, the right people will be waiting and ready. Its just the way of the universe. When we speak clearly, we are heard and received-responded to appropriately.

~I am beginning a course in Cranial Sacral Therapy-making the long transition out of the intense deep massage work I have been doing for so many years- and it is every bit as subtle and me. So here's to greeting the mystery and inviting its depth to take us in-and swallow us up. Im ready!

I just finally learned how to name my spiritual perspective. Surviving catholicism as a child and reaching a place where the universe is truly as vast and awake as I would truly enjoy it to be has been an honor-and a privilege. It is called Diesm. Its the opposite of Athiesm. It agrees in some kind of order-it allows for magic, for synchronicity. It allows for meaning and purpose and superior awareness without blind superstitions.

"My religion consists of a humble admiration of the illimitable superior spirit who reveals himself in the slight details we are able to perceive with our frail and feeble minds. That deeply emotional conviction of the presence of a superior reasoning power, which is revealed in the incomprehensible universe, forms my idea of God. " Albert Einstein.

Almost 5.5 years since returning to the bay and this august will be my 8 year reunion-i began adventuring to sf in 1990 -its been home in the greatest sense i can imagine tho i do get the wandering fever- that being i am. In the Oakland hills where I can breathe more easily and feel the calm presence of the trees all around me.

i can say i value love and connection above most all else-feeling it, sharing and offering it....sharing intimacy in many forms-touching with art, music, and anything that brings us closer to a sense of wonder and enjoyment of being alive...i am highly discerning at this point with my attention- i am sensitive as well as curious and not without healthy bits of sass ......moxy.....mojo....)-im naturally highly sensual and i am not afraid of swimming in deep waters. I am very observant, have a way of remembering important conversations ver batem and i certainly have my share of wit and humor. I know how to have fun. Intelligence + emotional maturity/availability and sense of humor is for me SUPER HOT.

I am highly creative-an original crafty vixen with good style. I have taught myself how to make patterns and sew. When I get inspired I can get into a project and go at it tirelessly.....fueled from within. I love dressing up and being taken out. A classic taurean woman i suppose who loves earthly pleasures, with I would say a very healthy sensual/sexual appetite-with my man. I am when in my element very affectionate. To know me is to feel the light of my love. This being said, I have a great love of exploring what is not seen and evoking Spirit in its most rarified manners. I am an adventurer. My hands are given my career choice some of my greatest tools. I love waking up in a tent taking in the sounds of nature, im not afraid to get dirty and dancing is my express train to everything holy....I use meditation as a means of slowing down and getting quiet enough with myself to let the truth of things rise to the surface. I am active in my life-and interested in sharing such activities. I excel at yoga while I lack the focus to do it consistently-I have more luck getting myself to hit the trails and run.
I have learned that i build trust over time-i am more of a show me what you got and then ill offer entrance to the temple than the other way around. I love my friends and family fiercely and I dont tend to put up with much bs. (And the loving light I offer is soft and gentle and if you receive have been granted entrance to the inner sanctum...and once there I give everything i have-from the autonomous, clear wholeness of just being me.....goofiness and smiles galore.)
What I’m doing with my life
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Getting better with age....17 years as a CMT with other generous time commitments in the realms of NLP and Family Constellations and other interesting things-I work primarily in the eastbay these days and I have a beautiful office full of plants and nice smells. I love creating beauty. And residing in it as much as possible.

I am a work in progress-human and fallible like most with some pretty decent learning under my belt and fantastic perspective towards a greater future. My choice of orienting to life is that the best is yet to come. All within the complex world we live in.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
most things that i enjoy-i am good at. cooking, massaging, sports, games (love playing games), focused attention oriented activities, mind reading, making art and fun and dancing.....cuddling, kissing (it is an art form), perceiving what is beneath the surface, having engaging conversations about life and the world around us, exploring, contemplating.....
The first things people usually notice about me
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my eyes....they usually comment on them as well as my height and stature-people find me graceful and elegant, and my voice is nice enough for a radio station.........
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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all time book fav's: Rumi, Herman Hesse, Isabelle Allende, Gabriel Garcia Marquez, Pablo Neruda, certain Romantic poets (Blake, Shelley, Coleridge etc), I Ching, Pema Chodrin, Milan Kundera, Haruki Murakami, Kurt Vonnegut, Tom Robbins, John Lilly, Phillop K Dick (certain books), Rohinton Mistry, The Little Prince..Clarissa Pinkola Estes, "The Time Traveler's Wife", Rainer Maria Rilke. Shantaram is most likely the best epic adventure ive taken in the last few years-the list goes on-being an English major in college I have read too many books to count...and stories tell me so much about this bring human thing. ...
Movies: Blade Runner, Wings of Desire, Donny Darko, Everything by Pedro Almodavar, most all of David Lynch, Stand By Me, Renegade, Matrix trilogy, Baraka, Natural Born Killers, Inception, Spirited Away, Howls Moving Castle, Manchurian Candidate (original), Rear Window,To Kill A Mockingbird, Amelie, Seven Pounds, (this list needs to be updated....)
Six Feet Under, Twin Peaks, Battlestar Galactica, Lost until the end of the series, Luther- Stephen Colbert and
John Stewart, Outlander, Marco Polo and the Masters of Sex.
Music is my heaven on mid tempo, bassy breaks and then a myriad of lyrical beats...dancing is my religion. My latest loves: Chet Faker, Sbtrkt, Flume, Maribou State, Cardo, FKA Twigs....I go to the Fox theater fairly often for music and go out to dance when up for it-Dancing has in the past been what kept me centered-Im finding I am less into enduring club scenes-but I will go when it is great stuff..I would love to have a partner for dance classes etc....i pick things up easily and enjoy moving with someone. Ecstatic dance Oakland is a part time lover as its sober and everyone is mostly focused on dancing....:)
Food:I love Organic Sustainably Farmed Food. Thai, Southwestern, Macrobiotic, Salads (i make the best ever), Cajun, Indonesian, Mediterranean, Exotic fruits and Super Foods....I make macrobiotic regularly....can eat kale and yams all the time, dark chocolate is a good friend along with maple syrup. This list can go on and on.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Dancing (so lets include music there)
Beautiful Friends and Loved Ones/Family
Nature close enough to touch and experience every day
Meaningful Work
Chemistry, Attraction and Passion
The I Ching
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Interdependence, tantra, love in its myriad of forms, bonding vs attachment, being just me in such a big world...doing my best to stay focused with how i can make a difference every day in my own life....everyday quantum physics and the maintenance of the most important details of loving kindness and compassion in the grittiest of moments. learning to be more in love, more available, more connected to myself, to life, to you.
The tough subjects- the ones that hurt deeply and confuse with their strife. .. The state of affairs of the collective global experience. ....I relate and feel it deeply. I am keenly aware of the injustices happening all around me and I strive to breathe into doing my best amidst struggling with what I can do. My life is blessed and I have beautiful friends and I give thanks for my life as much as possible while staying connected to the world.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
there is nothing typical....i might be dancing or hanging with a small group of friends, possibly being introverted or exploring life in the realm of a party, art experience, food delight, being in nature. Its officially winter now, so allowing for more space and quiet lately..........
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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you'll just have to wait for that.
You should message me if
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you feel the calling without too much agenda and a willingness to check the waters and see what shows up in a relaxed and earnest manner.....
You are focused from your heart atleast as much as from your mind-interested in sharing most of yourself wholeheartedly and ready to explore and dive deeper into the rabbit hole of self discovery with an empowered, intelligent and at times totally hilarious learn what relationship has to offer-(which you cannot receive by being alone.)
You seek the rapport that comes with being a companion to another imperfect human who is committed to loving playing and growing as deep and wide as the moment calls for with enough humor not to sweat the small stuff, and the communication skills to traverse the more difficult moments that life serves up. ;)