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44 Oakland, CA Woman


I’m looking for

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  • Ages 39–48
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 8:16pm
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Taurus, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), French (Okay), Indonesian (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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“Believe in a love that is being stored up for you like an inheritance, and have faith that in this love there is a strength and a blessing so large that you can travel as far as you wish without having to step outside it.”
― Rainer Maria Rilke, Letters to a Young Poet
Me: Tall and fit- well read and interested in understanding what makes people tick. I fall easily for beauty in all forms and I need regular dosages of nature and music to keep my gratitude focused. I am sensitive- empathetic as well as considerate and tuned In/intuitive. I value emotional maturity balanced with a huge healthy dose of humor and capacity to take life in great laughing swallows. I am most interested in cultivating mindfulness-creative thinking mixed with flexibility, a means to breathe into the present and offer a reflection that feels oh so good to be with. No bullshit, yet plenty of vitality and fun!

By Carl Jungs personality test standards I show up as INFJ.... which is quite well expressed and interesting to contemplate.

Also, an article which makes great sense to me about me, and advisable to read:

Ive traveled through Hawaii, Europe and Asia....lived in Bali for 2 1/2 years, and the Bay area has been an ongoing love affair visiting since 1990 and living here off and on for 7 years. I dream of Africa, Mongolia and going back to Nepal. I like wild places and sleeping under the stars. I am a dedicated dancer and lover of great music. I also am pretty awesome with a frisbee-which i find takes me into a deep place of meditative delight.....i also enjoy yoga, hiking and a myriad of other physical activities and would like to revive telemark skiing as well as rock climbing....

I am highly creative-an original crafty vixen with good style.
What I’m doing with my life
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Getting better with age....16 years as a body worker with other generous time commitments in the realms of NLP and Family Constellations and other interesting things-I am looking at sealing the deal next year with getting my Rolfing certificate-use that TM to my full advantage beyond the 10 session SI work I already do. I work in between SF the eastbay and Marin these days.......

and I am a work in progress-human and fallible like most with some pretty decent learning under my belt and fantastic perspective towards a greater future.
I’m really good at
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most things that i enjoy-i am good at. cooking, massaging, sports, games (love playing games), focused attention oriented activities, mind reading (lol), making art and fun and dancing.....cuddling, kissing (it is an art form), perceiving what is beneath the surface, having engaging conversations about life and the world around us, exploring, contemplating.....
The first things people usually notice about me
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my eyes....they usually comment on them as well as my height and stature-people find me graceful and elegant, and my voice is nice enough for a radio station.........
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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all time book fav's: Rumi, Herman Hesse, Isabelle Allende, Gabriel Garcia Marquez, Pablo Neruda, certain Romantic poets (Blake, Shelley, Coleridge etc), I Ching, Pema Chodrin, Milan Kundera, Haruki Murakami (esp The Wind Up Bird Chronicles and Kafka On the Shore), John Lilly, Phillop K Dick (certain books), Rohinton Mistry, The Little Prince..Clarissa Pinkola Estes, Rainer Maria Rilke. Shantaram is most likely the best epic adventure ive taken in the last few years-the list goes on-being an English major in college I have read too many books to count...and for a while i thought I wanted to be the next Campbell or Estes....getting the second language down (I wasnt interested in French being the one for me) seems to be what shifted my attention.
Movies: Blade Runner, Wings of Desire, Donny Darko, Everything by Pedro Almodavar, most all of David Lynch, Stand By Me, Renegade, Matrix trilogy, Baraka, Natural Born Killers, Inception, Spirited Away, Howls Moving Castle, Manchurian Candidate (original), Rear Window,To Kill A Mockingbird, Amelie, Seven Pounds, (this list needs to be updated....)
Six Feet Under, Twin Peaks, Battlestar Galactica, Lost until the end of the series, Luther-
Music is my heaven on mid tempo, bassy breaks and then a myriad of lyrical beats...dancing is my religion. My latest loves: Chet Faker, Sbtrkt, Flume, Maribou State,....I go to the Fox theater fairly often for music and go out to dance when up for it-Dancing has in the past been what kept me centered-Im less into enduring club scenes-but I will go when it is great stuff!~
Food:I love Organic Sustainably Farmed Food.....Thai,Southwestern, Macrobiotic, Salads (i make the best ever), Cajun New Orleans style like I grew up with, BBQ (not pork tho), some Indonesian, Mediterranean, Exotic fruits and Super Foods....I make macrobiotic regularly....can eat kale and yams all the time, dark chocolate is a good friend and maple syrup.....ahhhh..of course this list can go on and on.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Love and Enjoyment of Being Alive
Dancing (so lets include music there)
Beautiful Friends and Loved Ones/Family
Nature close enough to touch and experience every day
Meaningful Work
Chemistry, Attraction and Passion
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Interdependence, tantra, love in its myriad of forms, the way our brains become wired as children to bond and relate to others, being just me in such a big world...doing my best to stay focused with how i can make a difference every day in my own life....everyday quantum physics and the maintenance of the most important details of loving kindness and compassion in the grittiest of moments.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
dancing, hanging with good friends, chilling at home, group meditations on certain nights....I love dinner parties.....and any group experience where I can interact in depth-star gazing from tall buildings, movie watching under the covers, art walks, enjoying life!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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you'll just have to wait for that.
You should message me if
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you feel the calling without too much agenda and willingness to explore and see what shows up in a relaxed and earnest manner.....

no matter how passionate you feel about anything-id say i follow the tenent of honoring differences without being in fix it control mode-im not interested in focusing too intently on negativity or things beyond my control nor do i appreciate being told having some bit of idealism is wrong or that my more concentrated perspective of the art of happiness doesn't matter. If you want to spend date time discussing conspiracy theories- its not going to be with me. I love challenging myself to be more incredible and I do not ever run away from being uncomfortable-but i find those conversations horrible and negative. (thats my rant.)