Akien MacIain, Secret Agent Of Happiness...

Let's start with I'm Polyamorous. I have taught classes on polyamory and related concepts. I've been on TV, including Montel, to talk about poly. This is just who I am.

I'd eventually like to live once again in a triad or a quad. Wouldn't matter if it was an MFM or an FMF, if it's the right person. For now, while we're looking, I'm happily involved in a primary relationship with the lovely klrmn. We're both poly through and through. We both also date individually.

Still reading? Good. If you aren't, then we're better off not connecting anyway. *grin*

For me, touch is an art form. Touching someone emotionally, physically, whatever. Reaching into the emotional resonance, the energy of the connection, that is where I find delight. Massage, sensation play, energy play or healing, you name it.

Cooking is very similar. It's an expressive art. When I use recipes, which isn't most of the time, they're starting places. Trying to create an emotional reaction with the food, of surprise or delight, that is why I cook.

Photography is an ongoing expressive exploration too. I want to be able to show my sweeties how *I* see them. So often we don't see ourselves as others see us. I see myself as a picture hunter, not a studio photographer. I have to stalk the image. *grin*

When I write, it's either to communicate emotional models, like feelings about something, or information that may make something work better. Making other people wrong does not appeal to me.

Dancing is a meditation in motion, skydiving and freefall flying in the wind tunnel in union city too... I also love time with my kids, calligraphy, writing poetry, teaching and practicing swordfighting, Faire, SciFi, Reading...

But my favorite things are exploring touch, and exploring ideas. Thinking. Things I like to think about include intimacy, love, sex, relationships, psychology, cognition, neurology, neurochemistry, computer science, software architecture, personal growth, and how all these things are related.

I very much jump into new things in order to learn them. Challenges at work, new relationships, a new hobby, whatever. I am completely self educated, and love learning. I am an alpha male. I am dominant without being domineering. I value playfulness highly. I am strong and resilient, emotionally and physically. My Meyers-Briggs type is ENFP.

To pay the bills, I am designing test automation software architecture for Delta Dental.

I also have high standards. I will make touching you an art, I will share deeply, I will even share my very hot sweetie with you, I will write you poetry, I will cook amazing things... *IF*... If *you* are smart. Strong. Independent. Playful. Not stuck in your comfort zone. Willing to be challenged, to be supported in the challenge, and to do the same for me/us. If you are seeking new and shared experiences. Wanting to connect with emotional depth. Have a large appetite for pleasure of many kinds. If you are a blend of feminine and masculine. Willing to say and hear no gracefully. I am all these things. You need to be too.

Right now I'm looking for connections I can include in my life, willing to spend time with me, klrmn and my daughters. If you spend time on IM, even better. I like being able to reach out and touch briefly throughout the day.

I love exploring myself and the world... And maybe you. Let me tempt you... Explore with me, or with us, if you're up for it...

For boys: As I said I'm very selective. I prefer slender, gentle, slightly subby men, who are good at energy play, are emotionally open, and can support themselves financially and so on. Androgyny is good. *grin* I historically warm to men slowly. Mostly right now, I'm not interested in just a boyfriend, but rather to create a triad with klrmn. Just because we want a hot bi babe doesn't mean they have to be female. *grin*

Ideal first date
We go get tea or drinks, maybe lunch... Something casual, playful. See if we are good material for friends. If we click, and you're lucky, I cook for you. We talk more over dinner, then go for a walk in the twilight.

For a long time, I had ADD. You know what that means, right? No, it means I got bored and distractable because of a lack of adequate challenges. Adventure Deficit Disorder. Now I'm curing that.

I have been doing skydiving in the vertical wind tunnel in Union City www.iflysfbay.com, and jumped out of an airplane for the first time in Aug09 at www.skydanceskydiving.net in Davis.

I've also been dancing just about weekly at http://ecstaticdance.org/

You can find some of my favorite culinary creations (with recipes) at:
http://akienm.livejournal.com/tag/cooking

I also am learning photography, you can see some here:
http://www.flickr.com/photos/akienm/sets/72157600003973888/

You can also find me at:
http://akienm.livejournal.com
http://www.facebook.com/akienm#/akienm?v=info
http://profiles.friendster.com/50345
http://www.linkedin.com/pub/akien-maciain/1/1bb/ab3
http://www.mandalaenterprises.com

You can also contact me directly at
email: akienm@gmail.com
AIM:akienm
YIM:akienm
MSN:akienm@weirdness.org
Gtalk:akienm@gmaill.com
Jabber:akienm@gmail.com or akienm@livejournal.com

And if you're lazy: here's the Google search for me

As mentioned above, I also speak and teach on relationship skills and Polyamory.

Me speaking at Montel on Polyamory:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jcZh5lVN5kg
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=osb71yDgnlo

More stuff about poly I'm mentioned in:
http://practicalpolyamory.blogspot.com/2008/07/loving-more-west-in-redwoods.html
http://www.highbeam.com/doc/1P2-7030101.html
http://findarticles.com/p/articles/mi_qn4176/is_20051211/ai_n15920486/
http://polyinthemedia.blogspot.com/2008/04/poly-pro-and-con.html
http://www.lovemore.com/conferences/polyliving/plw09presenters.html
http://www.freerepublic.com/focus/news/2247423/posts
http://schooloftantra.net/worldpolyamoryassociation/Faculty/faculty_MNOP.html

Yes. And that too.

The attention I can bring to something, or someone, interesting.

1) Love
2) Romance
3) Intensity
4) Kissing
5) Energetic Emotional Resonance
6) Sex

My partners, Love, Cognition, Joy, Romance, Fun, Solving impossible problems, Psychology, and Lunch.

Ask me anything... I don't do secrets.

If you're intrigued rather than scared off by the above...

If you send me a word, I'll send you back a poem.