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alendrel

39 Seattle, WA Man

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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 18–59
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Today – 8:48pm
Orientation
Questioning
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 4″ (1.63m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Never
Religion
Other, and laughing about it
Sign
Aquarius, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from two-year college
Income
$20,000–$30,000
Status
Open relationship
Type
Strictly non-monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t want kids
Pets
Has cats
Speaks
English
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Social Justice Warlock

I find normativity to be...problematic, even as I recognize the ways in which I am and present as such. One of the great beauties of being human is our amazing variety - and one of the great tragedies of our society is the lengths it goes to crush that, even while claiming otherwise.

What I am looking for here is affection - that twilight layer between friendship and relationship, without the pressing need for it to be more, romantically or sexually, though with no need to avoid such developments either. The mainstream narrative of the relationship versus friendship leaves for a lot of unexplored territory in between, around, and beyond. I believe that can use some investigating.

I am poly, and best describe my approach as relationship anarchy: each connection with another person is its own unique, organic thing, and each person is equally deserving of full respect.

I identify as male out of one part inertia (it's what I was assigned and socialized as, and I don't have much of a need to really contest that), and part recognizing I have the privilege of such assigned to me wether I like it or not so I figure I can claim it to be able to speak against it from within. My orientation is questioning as I don't really have any attraction to men/masculine-presenting, but my attractions do include non-binary as well. So I'm not straight in that sense, but given that I present as pretty norm, I don't really feel comfortable with claiming queer (honored as I am when my queer friends count me as one).

As the rest of the profile will show, I am super nerdy (even as I recognize just how much toxic junk there is in nerd culture). I was a physics major once upon a time, still have that general interest while mashing up my Wicca and Discordia.

Starhawk's Truth or Dare is a defining work for me.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Spiting the universe by being better than it.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
While I would like to say my wit, based on what people ask me when meeting me, it's my "accent". I have a certain quality to my voice that people can't place. I grew up in North Carolina, so people usually think it's a trace of that...but in NC I had people thinking I sounded like everything from a Midwest accent to Australian. Who knows?

Or, that I am not a velociraptor.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
What about games?? They are just as important a form of media/content/consumption as any of this stuff! I am a huge fan of all forms of hobby and adventure gaming, from RPGs to hex and counter wargames to video games to miniatures games, and more.

So here goes: Star Fleet Battles (more Truth than game) and the other Star Fleet Universe games. Dungeons and Dragons (4E, but grew up playing pretty much every version). World of Warcraft (in casual mode now). Warmachine and Hordes. Warhammer 40,000. Exalted. Anything either World of Darkness, but especially Wraith: the Oblivion, either Mage, and Vampire: the Requiem. Ogre/GEV. Malifaux. Munchkin of many flavors. Fantasy Flight boardgames in all their luscious insanity. Final Fantasy (not 8!). Earthdawn. Tiny Wings. X-Wing Alliance. Half-Life. And many more.

For more passive media, I continue the sci-fi/fantasy/horror trend. Favorite authors include H.P. Lovecraft, Charles Stross, Iain M. Banks, Robert Heinlein, Douglas Adams, Robert E. Howard, Robert Jordan, Thomas Ligotti, Neil Gaiman, and so forth.

My list of movies that I can always watch again: Ghostbusters, Big Trouble
In Little China, The Fifth Element, Dark City, The Matrix, Inception, Iron Man, the original Star Wars trilogy.

Favorite TV Series: Doctor Who (new and old), Torchwood, Star Trek (TOS, TNG, and DS9), Millenium, Firefly, Mythbusters, Invader Zim, Chopped, Ren and Stimpy, Sifl and Olly.

When it comes to food, I am very broad. I adore sushi. I am a confirmed omnivore. Thai, Japanese, Chinese, Italian, a good juicy burger. Pizza please! Gyros and feta and olives and yum! Bacon is meat candy. Speaking of candy and such, I have a sweet tooth that frequently needs reinned in. I am diabetic, which has caused a shift in my eating and relationship with food, but I still love it. Cheese.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Good friends of all strips
Fun games of all kinds
The Internets...
...and the iPhone that allows me to always be connected to it
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All the stars that shine in the night sky
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Games. Sex. Friends. Stuff I make up. Bears.

Not in that order, and often in assorted combinations.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Friday nights are my date night with a most wonderful Daddy. We are usually doing some combination of dinner, gaming, and sex - not all at the same time.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I have a huge thing for incest play.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
...you have found a fellow geek.
...you like new friends.
...you are intrigued, and think you can intrigue me.
...you are just so moved.