I find normativity to be...problematic, even as I recognize the ways in which I am and present as such. One of the great beauties of being human is our amazing variety - and one of the great tragedies of our society is the lengths it goes to crush that, even while claiming otherwise.
What I am looking for here is affection - that twilight layer between friendship and relationship, without the pressing need for it to be more, romantically or sexually, though with no need to avoid such developments either. The mainstream narrative of the relationship versus friendship leaves for a lot of unexplored territory in between, around, and beyond. I believe that can use some investigating.
I am poly, and best describe my approach as relationship anarchy: each connection with another person is its own unique, organic thing, and each person is equally deserving of full respect.
I identify as male out of one part inertia (it's what I was assigned and socialized as, and I don't have much of a need to really contest that), and part recognizing I have the privilege of such assigned to me wether I like it or not so I figure I can claim it to be able to speak against it from within. My orientation is questioning as I don't really have any attraction to men/masculine-presenting, but my attractions do include non-binary as well. So I'm not straight in that sense, but given that I present as pretty norm, I don't really feel comfortable with claiming queer (honored as I am when my queer friends count me as one).
As the rest of the profile will show, I am super nerdy (even as I recognize just how much toxic junk there is in nerd culture). I was a physics major once upon a time, still have that general interest while mashing up my Wicca and Discordia.
Starhawk's Truth or Dare is a defining work for me.