I was watching a show on one of the science-type channels (either Nat'l Geographic or the Discovery channel) about the science of love and attraction. What stuck with me was an experiment they did with ten men and ten women. In the first experiment, each person had a number on their forehead that they couldn't see but others could. They were instructed to hook up with the highest number possible. From that experiment, you see that it is the number of offers that tells you how high your number is - and how high you can aim. The more offers you get, the higher your number is; conversely, the more rejections you get, the lower your number is. It worked the same way when they told them to hook up with the most attractive member of the opposite sex. Most wound up with someone considered to be in the same range of attractiveness, however that's measured. I have a point here. I see so many men whining about not being able to get women to notice them. My question to you is, who are you trying to attract? I knew a guy who was not terribly attractive and didn't have a lot of money, but he slept with an enormous amount of women. Why? Because he knew the secret - he aimed low. Older women and lonely women tend to be more open than younger, prettier women. (He was also great in bed.) You know all those sweet young things that appear on your login screen? They get lots of offers. They don't have the time or the inclination to answer every email they get. So consider for a moment, how high are you aiming? And how great a catch are you?

For those of you who post in your journal merely to get a more complete profile, I have sad news for you. I have 16 journals posts, I have left 22 comments, I have answered 1680 questions, I have 7 photos and a complete self-summary. And I am only at %70 completion! So, good luck with that.

I'm not one of those women who get so many messages in her mailbox that she doesn't have the time or motivation to answer them all. Quite the opposite. However, I have a problem with people who don't write in proper English. Yes, I will write back and I will be polite, but a dearth or plethora of capital letters, an inability to form complete sentences, or any kind of text speak will make me crazy. (Does it show that I teach SAT Prep? I like big words, sorry.) I'm not so much of a grammar nazi that I will correct someone else's writing (that would be impolite), but I do think it shows something of a person's character.

So sure, write to me and I'll write back. But use capital letters at the start of your sentences!

Is it me, or is it really rude to write to someone just to say you are annoyed by their profile? I had someone do that very thing. What did he expect me to do? Thank him? Or does he thrive on being told to f**k off? I didn't respond, but I guess writing this post says something.

So what's the deal with men not wanting to hear about a woman's ex-whatevers? Do they really need the illusion that they are the only man in a woman's life? At my age, there are lots of ex-boyfriends or ex-husbands, and they determine the person we are today, and what kind of person we will be in a relationship. Personally, I want to know all about a guy's exes for that very reason. And it seems to me that he would want to know as well. I mean, I could be a psycho-bitch, but you wouldn't know it if you didn't know how I ended my past relationships, would you?

Last Tuesday we celebrated the death of John Wesley Hardin at the Concordia cemetery here in El Paso. Since it happened in 1895, I had to have a new dress. I mean, I couldn't go in a dress from 1884, now could I? Besides, I've always loved those leg-o-mutton sleeves. Now I have some. And I will probably create another bodice for the skirt, and make it an 1880's dress, too. After all, you can't have too many outfits you know. And yes, I have uploaded it to OKC.

Ok, so I used to have a rather self-righteous attitude about pictures on OKC. You know, "Oh, looks don't matter," etc. Well, after having seen a few pictures that just made me shudder, and dealing with and/or meeting said people, I realize that pictures DO matter. If the picture creeps me out, it sends up alarms. That being said, I have to say that I don't believe a "cute" picture tells you anything, either. Just because a guy strikes me as hot or intelligent or just plain fun doesn't mean he will be. Of course, I haven't yet tested that out. I haven't met any of the men whose picture just stunned me. (sigh) Oh, and just_this_guy, your picture is one of those, ye of the stunning blue eyes.

As for my own pictures, if they creep you out, then you just aren't the one for me.

So I guess I'll have to learn how to live alone. But I'll need cats. I can't live alone without being one of those crazy cat ladies. (After all, I do have a library degree.) I'm well on my way. Just got my second cat last week, and he is such an obnoxious little kitten that it's like having a tiny toddler in the house. But he's cute as hell, so I put up with it.

Your Love Life is Like Pretty Woman
"I want the fairy tale"

You believe that love is truly blind, unpredictable, and surprising. Two very different people can easily find true love.
At least, that is how it will happen when you marry a gorgeous billionaire someday ;-)

Your love style: Sensual and flirty

Your Hollywood Ending Will Be: Surprisingly happyWhat Movie Is Your Love Life Like?

When I started here, I thought I should only be checking out guys with really high scores - you know, sweeten the odds. But there are very few men with scores above 65%. And, at one point, I was reading a profile for someone with something like 80% match, and I realized that this guy was so similar to me, he was me, just male. That's when it occurred to me that variety really is the spice of life. High match scores don't mean much. There have to be differences and disagreements, otherwise there's nothing to learn about each other, nothing to keep you interested. There are only a few things that we really need to agree on and they're different for everyone but those special few. Otherwise, vive la difference!