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alfadoc

41 M San Francisco, CA

My Details

Last Online
Online now!
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Sometimes
Religion
Agnosticism, and laughing about it
Sign
Scorpio, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Working on university
Job
Student
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Has a kid
Pets
Has dogs and has cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), German (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Oh no, I know a dirty word: Hello, hello, hello...
I hate repetition. I'll say it again; I hate hate hate repetition.
Bay Area native, born in Burlingame, grew up in a small town in cow country; my grandparents lived in Millbrae, so we came down here often. I admire the people who packed up everything and drove to SF from Maine sight unseen; for me it was an hour's drive.
I like to read, as the book section attests. I like to build things, and have a hobby that involves making things out of paper. I like origami. I like to watch, and on occasion perform karaoke. I live in a part of San Francisco you've probably never heard of.
When I was younger, I was flying to Frankfurt and got diverted to Munich; I don't sleep on planes, so I was so exhausted, I fell asleep in a train station pay toilet propped up against my backpack.
At this point in my life, I'm not sure what kind of relationship I am capable of. Do I want to find something that could last a lifetime? Yes, but is it likely? I don't know. I'm open to most anything at this point. Consider the New Friends and Activity Partners tabs real challenges. I have three dear best friends, two are women. My situation is unusual; fitting someone new into the mix would be challenging and need someone very understanding. I can understand that I am not a fit for many people, but it only takes one; could it be you? (Or not, let's have coffee or a drink and figure it out.) NOTICE: I now completely ignore Quickmatch and Star Ratings, they are pointless and lead nowhere 99% of the time.
My ideal gift is a shrubbery; I promise not to say "nee!".
I hate repetition. I'll say it again; I hate hate hate repetition. Wait...
What I’m doing with my life
NOT living it! Really; I've completely stopped doing anything, arrested entropy. Now I am eternal!
Taking care of my daughter, since I am on disability. I have a huge "to read" stack that keeps me busy, and a strange hobby that I won't try to explain here.
I've also just started an interesting volunteer position as a mechanic/teacher at the San Francisco Bike Kitchen. Nice all-volunteer non-profit. I've been a mechanic in the past, and using my knowledge to help people learn to fix their bike is rewarding.
Update: I am now an ahn-tra-pin-noor, I guess. A friend has brought me on to a project to open a new bike shop-café, and part of my compensation is part ownership, and managing the bike shop part. Guess I'm legit again...
All this has really reawakened my love of bikes as artworks, and I feel I would be happy making a living at this, so I enrolled at CCSF to retake a welding class to brush up, and started looking into what framebuilders are in the area. After learning for a while, I see this leading to my own business.
I'd also like to do something with motorcycles; they make me happy.
And my startup dream is to develop the first industry standard html < /S > tag.
I also make videos on how to meet people:
http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=ziH9St7ajuw
I’m really good at
Being very modest; I won a contest once.
The first things people usually notice about me
That I be smart and spell reel gud. Sorry. Its just so hard not to give smart-ass answers to some of these questions. Here, I'll try again: My freakish third nipple. Doh!
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Procrastination, Why You Do It, What to Do About It. Jane
B. Burke PhD and Lenora M. Yuen PhD. Well, actually, I haven't
read it yet. Been meaning to. I'll start it tomorrow,
I promise.
Star Maker, Olaf Stapledon; If you have ever looked up at a starry sky and wondered what it is all for, please, please, please, read this book. Bundled with it in the Dover edition is his Last And First Men, a future history of the human race, from the First Men(Us), to the Seventeenth Men, living on Neptune with both they and the planet adapted, billions of years in the future, and facing the certain destruction of mankind. Told as if a member of the 17th Men was reaching back through time to tell one of us the story.
Wicked, Gregory Maguire; The Wizard
of Oz from the Wicked Witch's perspective; if you believe
that history is written by the victors in their favor, this
is for you.
Immortality, Milan Kundera; amazing.
Snow Crash, Neal Stephenson; great Swiftian extrapolation.
Anything by Tim O'Brian
Idoru, William Gibson
Fear and Loathing In Las Vegas, Hunter S. Ok, Ok, Must stop, must stop. I like to read, can you tell? I get the shakes every time I walk in a book store. But one last quote before I quit(last great book YOU read: this ad): "I look in the paper for a good comic strip to bring Ruth. All of them today would only hurt her feelings. Try this sometime: read the comics as though time were awfully short. You will be hard pressed to find anything funny. You will understand irony. You will put down the paper and look at the way the sun happens to be lighting the sky, and you will be thinking one word: please." Elizabeth Berg , Talk Before Sleep(About a woman whose friend is dying of cancer). Currently reading: Black Elk Speaks, Jungian-Senoi Dreamwork Manual,Strephon Kaplan Williams.Speaker for the DeadOrson Scott Card
First edit in a LONG time: When my daughter was born, my dad sent me a copy of The Hobbit, the 50th Anniversary edition, hardbound faux gold leaf with the slip cover, inscribed "For Stella, when she is old enough, Grampa Ron". Well after years of playing with that neat gold book, she was recently old enough. It became our bedtime story, a bit of a chapter each night. She was sad when it ended, so can you imagine her excitement when I told her there were THREE more books? We just started The Two Towers, and she is giddy because it is now apparent that Gollum will be joining the story again. Her thing right now is to jump down from trees and other things onto all fours, and say in her best Smeagol voice (which is actually pretty good IMHO) "What has it got, in it's nasty little pocketses?" :) I'm so happy to be reading again, and in these circumstances...

Wings of Desire,Fight Club, Brazil, Blade Runner,Shawshank Redemption.Se7en, Usual Suspects

As for television, I did like Six Feet Under, the bits of Battlestar Galactica I've caught have been good, considering the cheesy 70's show it's based on, but if I have the time, I'd rather read, or see a movie.
On the ole iTunes playlist(Ster-e-o? What dat?): 120 Minutes,
Vol. 1&2, ACDC, Aerosmith, Aimee Mann, Aphex Twin,
Apocalyptica, Aretha, Beastie Boys, Beatles, Beck, Big
Boi, Bill Hicks, Billie Holiday, Bing, Bjork, Black Crowes,
Black Eyed Peas, Blondie, Blur, Bob Dylan, Bob Marley(Damn
iTunes; can't it recognize a last name to alphabetize?),
J.Cash, Cat Stevens, Cheap Trick, Christina Aguilera,
The Clash, Debussy, Concrete Blonde, Creedence, Crowded
House, The Cure, Cypress Hill, Danzig, Bowie, David Gray,
Dead Kennedies, Deborah Harry, Depeche Mode, (stay tuned
for more....)
PJ Harvey, Nirvana, and Tom Waits stand out as never doing wrong by me...
The six things I could never do without
Electromagnetic waves refracted by an organic crystalline lens onto my retina. Doh!
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The meaning of life. Peak Oil. The Technological Singularity. Gaia theory. How someone who can bump her chin on my knee can make such a big mess so quickly. Appearances vs. reality. Why Staff Robot keeps matching me with people who live in Sacramento and LA, when I don't have the "long distance penpals" box checked.
How 90% of you think your sex drive is higher than average.
On a typical Friday night I am
With my daughter. I'm not a big fan of crowded venues, so I tend to go out on off nights and times.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I loathe hunters. And not just because they kill animals for no other reason than to stroke their ego. Because really, they're a bunch of wusses. I perused a hunting supply catalog recently, and cripes, you'd think their adversary was the creature from Alien. Infrared-triggered digital night vision cameras to track feeding patterns while in the comfort of your own home. Artificial sex hormones to attract prey. High velocity hollow points for single shot take downs. It's Bambi, for crissake. And that bear would probably only attack you if you were stupid enough to mess with her cub. You want sport? Try this: Sharpen a good sized stick. Strip down naked, go into the forest, and take on something with claws, tusks, or fangs. When the odds are 50/50, THAT'S sport. And if you win, don't just take the head and a few choice cuts. There's a reason the Native Americans hate us.

Also, I just discovered I have a form of Tourette's, triggered by idiots driving too fast in the rain and slamming into my car on the freeway. I'm told no one else curses when that happens.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 32–60
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex
You should message me if
You aren't weirded out by the third nipple thing. Doh!
But really I am looking for an NSA hookup, because I am severely emotionally stunted, and am incapable of sustaining healthy relationships. I promise to completely objectify you, and treat you with all the respect that that implies. So come on girls(and I do mean girls, because no one in my age range would put up with that bullshit) what are you waiting for?
Ok, that may be harsh, but I'm sure true for some. Just recently I had a dialogue here that really helped gel it for me. It essentially went like this:
Me:So you know, I feel in the past I've made the mistake of latching on to one person far too soon, and this go I've decided even though for the most part I am monogamous, I want to make a decision in a more balanced way. I am not a player, just want to be sure when the time comes.
Them:I think I understand. I'm not exactly worried about relationship choices right now.
I know what you are describing though, from both ends. Human connection is desired but difficult in the modern world.
Me:Yes, finding "The One" would be wonderful, but I also know I've thought I found them many times before. Perhaps a little perspective is in order? Human connection is a necessity, but often bundled with much baggage and caveats; it would be wonderful to have a shared experience(or is it to much to ask for a series?) that is not concerned with tomorrow, or ten years hence. I really want to have fun and play, be naughty without being sleazy, get away to a different reality for a short while. Too much to ask, for one of the multitude of competing men here?

PS: I've come to realize that the first IRL is a problem, because of a little cognitive dissonance I bring upon myself: messaging and texting back and forth is fun, usually a good repartee is established, and my sense of humor comes out. But it has a bit of unrealness to it, and upon meeting my ol' introverted sense of caution reasserts itself, and I think I come across as different from who I seemed to be while messaging. I'm working on it, and I can tell you it doesn't last. It's really great when it isn't an issue; it's actually kind of
magical...

PPS: Those who message first are appreciated, reticence and coyness are not attractive to me.