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37 F Lowell, MA

My Details

Last Online
Mar 23
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Atheism, and very serious about it
Virgo, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), French (Poorly)

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My self-summary
I am a librarian who is just looking for someone I can have a good time with! I am not looking to get married or have kids- those things don't even fit into my life plan. I am looking for something between just sex and long term relationships. I am not entirely sure what that is, but I would like to find out. I have spent years focusing on me and my goals. Relationships have always been in the back burner. I am ready to get to know other people and have fun.
I grew up in Miami, but was born in MA. I came back for graduate school and to be closer to the family living up here. I go back to Miami at least once a year to see remaining friends and my parents. I love living up here because seasons. I love Fall! I love knowing that winter and snow will end as will summer. I stayed up here to work and have no plans on leaving for a long time. I have had to make a life for myself up here as a results and my close friends are my real family. I love to travel both in the US and internationally (I have a trip to the UK in the works for this winter). I love being a local tourist and exploring New England in road trips. I am not a great cook, but there are a few things I do really well. I always have goals for myself. My big one is to retire to Paris.
What I’m doing with my life
I work as an academic librarian teaching research skills to students. I love learning and am always looking for new things to learn. I have spent a lot of the past few years working on a second masters degree and my communication skills. I am already thinking about a PhD program. I am an avid and pretty talented knitter. The women in my family have been knitter for generations. I only learned about 10 years ago while broke and bored one winter. Now I am a bit of a yarn snob and always have a project. My pride is a Trogdor scarf I designed for myself. I even went as far as having Trogdor fabric printed for the back of it. Traveling is often focused on procuring yarn for my stash. My friends and family live all over the country so I get to do a lot of traveling to see them. I like to play tourist both locally and when I travel. Having not grown up in New England I find a have a special level of appreciation for tourist attractions out here.
I am trying my hand at writing. Every year I do National Novel Writing Month and I complete it almost every year. Most of what I write is mindless dribble not fit for others to read, but I consider that practice. Once I find my voice I know I won't let the writing process stop me. I have joined a writing group locally to help me with it. I just want to publish a short story in my lifetime.
I’m really good at
I am not really sure what to say here because I do a lot of things, but I am not really good at most of them... I think of myself more as a jack of all trades, master of none...
I am very good at setting and achieving goals. I am a very good knitter. I will always have a project I am working on. I am a descent sewer... well, I can use my sewing machine, but I struggle with a straight line sometimes. I am a very nice swimmer. I am not very fast, but I have beautiful strokes. I always figured, when I swam competitively as a teenager, if I can't be the fastest, at least I can be the prettiest swimmer. I am a voracious reader. I typically have 6-7 books being read at once and I can easily keep track of each of them. I have audio books, ebooks, print books and I choose based on my location at the moment.
The first things people usually notice about me
I don't really know... some people say my eyes, but nobody say any one thing. Feel free to tell me yourself.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I am a crazy media consumer. I read between 50- 75 books a year between audio and print/ebooks. My kindle pretty much comes everywhere so I can pick a book based on my mood. I go through fiction, non fiction, quality and crap. There is still tons I haven't read. My favorite books are those that change my life in some way. I love Jane Austen, especially Pride & Prejudice and Persuasion. I also love Tolkein, Herbert, Atwood, King (the Dark Tower series more than anything else he wrote), and Martin. Fight Club and Confederacy of Dunces are two of my all time favorite books. Yet, right now I am reading A Casual Vacancy, a Jack Reacher mystery, A Feast for Crows, and a Rainbow Rowell book. It all just depends on my mood and I am willing to read anything someone suggests.

My TV consumption isn't as eclectic. My daily consumption is typically focused on The Daily Show and Colbert Report. They are my news and I am not ashamed of it. My favorite shows- the ones I will even binge on- include: Doctor Who, Buffy, Angel, Sailor Moon, Muppets, Game of Thrones, True Blood, anything with Gordon Ramsay, Fringe, Lost, and probably a lot of others that I haven't thought about all summer. I tend to be drawn to fantasy shows more than science fiction. I also enjoy some legal dramas, but the more formulaic they get, the less I like them. The USA dramas: Burn Notice, Covert Affairs, Suits, White Collar, and Psych tend to be where I go to now over other legal procedural shows. I often binge on Netflix, Hulu and other sources of season long runs. I have my guilty pleasures, but just a few... Dance Moms and hoarding shows are high on my guilty pleasure lists. This TV season has left me feeling sad though. My sole pleasures are American Horror Story and Sleepy Hollow.

Movies: I don't go to the movies often anymore because its not often that something seems worth the expense. I live for Netflix and will probably watch most movies that way. Again, Sci Fi/Fantasy movies and dramas. I don't do romantic comedies because they piss me off really quickly... I love Horror movies, especially the classics. I appreciate a good remake (emphasis on good) of a horror movie. For example, I liked the new Evil Dead almost as much as I liked the original. I like comedy movies, but I can get surprisingly picky about those. My DVD collection is small because I only keep the movies I truly love: LOTR (the animations and the Jackson run), Star Wars, Broken Lizard, Christopher Guest, Clueless, 80s Brat-pack movies, and Scream are in either the DVD or digital collection.

Music... I know what I don't like more than what I do. I don't care for country music. It is something about steel guitars that just grates me nerves. I don't care for death metal and most heavy metal. I think classic Metallica is as close as I can come to enjoying it. I am not a huge rap fan, but it really depends. My Pandora stations are eclectic. Right now I am listening to an 80's era Freestyle dance mix, but in a few hours I will change to something like Muse (Franz Ferdinand, White Stripes, Black Keys, Weezer) Station. Then there is my Glee station... because I also enjoy show tunes. When I am in the mood I go to my NKOTB station. Every so often I go to an oldies station as my mother refused to let me choose the radio station in the car as a child so I heard a lot of music from the late 50s, 60s, and 70s.

Food: I don't like 90% of sea food. I am pretty willing to try anything these days. Diary is the enemy, especially butter though. I can cook well enough, but I would not make a huge deal of cooking for you. I am very good at breakfast though. I could eat breakfast for every meal if I could manage it.
The six things I could never do without
My knitting
My kindle (all the books on one thing)
My bed (I have spent a lot of time making it perfect)
My laptop
My friends
goals.. I always need goals.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Ok- my friends made a huge deal about me editing this. They had some valid points.
I do spend a lot of time thinking about my ultimate goal: retire to Paris. Most of the things I do in life are ways to get me to that. I am goal oriented so I spend, probably too much, time setting goals, seeing how well I am doing with them, and checking things off to-do lists.
I also think a lot about knitting: what I am currently making, what yarn I need for future projects, how much can I knit at once, etc. I spend quite a bit of time in my head. As a terrible writer, I often have ideas that play out in my head and have to be written down. I am confident one day one of those ideas will translate into something well written. For now, I try to get those ideas on paper and worry about the details later. I think a lot about the cat as she will be demanding my attention if she believes I am not thinking about her enough. Right now, for example, she is meowing and dancing around the chair trying to get me to drop my hand down and scratch her head.
On a typical Friday night I am
I am doing one of two things. First, I primarily go to a Friday night knitting group in Nashua, but that doesn't go terribly late so when that is done I typically come home and crash. I need a recharge- I am an introvert so once that battery is gone then I am done. If I am not there, the second thing I do is spend evenings with two of my best friends eating, drinking and having a good time (knitting, television, movies, and such). Keep in mind, I don't mean we/I cook- I mean we/I eat.

There are occasional Friday when I am just home, alone and enjoying some much needed quiet time with television or books.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
It has been years since I have had more than casual flirtations and I am afraid I am terribly nervous starting again.
I am overweight, but I am working on it. I go to the gym; I am learning to eat better; and I care. I may not go hiking with you, but I also won't make you go knitting with me.
I’m looking for
  • Guys who like girls
  • Ages 30–45
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, short-term dating
You should message me if
I have taken this seriously and I hope you do too. I read profiles and I look at how you answer all those questions and quizzes. I hope you do too. I am trying to give everyone a chance, but I am going to ignore you if you haven't made the effort. No, this is not perfect, but if you are honest then we can discover the details together. Message me if you like what you have read. Make it clear that you think there is a possible connection. That being said, so many men start with a "you're pretty" comment. If you are inclined to do that, just stop now. Think about something I have posted above that may work better for you. I feel like I have given you a lot to work with.
Side note- and if you made it this far, thank you- if you don't have a picture up, I am not even going to bother. Don't offer to email it to me. Show you are actually trying and put it up here.