In response to It's better to have an open-relationship...? :

In response to It's better to have an open-relationship...? by bunpoh:

It's better to have an open-relationship because there'll be cheating in monogamous relationships anyways.

• True

• False

These questions. I was hoping for better, somehow. I don't think any kind of relationship is inherently better than another. This goes for open, monogamous, married, living together, polygamous, triads, any combination you can think of that doesn't involve outright exploitation. I know that open relationships are right for me. They are definitely wrong for many, if not most people. And who could rightfully suggest that monogamy will inevitably result in cheating in all circumstances? There must be at least some sexually faithful people out there. I'd be interested in finding out real statistics on monogamy and cheating. I'm totally fascinated by sociobiology, and human sexuality. I could be persuaded that most monogamous relationships involve cheating. But I still think monogamy is probably right for many, if not most people, because of their emotional capabilities and core beliefs, as well as their socialization. Thankfully, my partner and I are not those people, and we have successfully enjoyed an open relationship for over a decade.

please don't think that just because you are in an "open relationship", that it is not possible to "cheat" on your partner. doing anything outside the boundrys of your agreement with your partner would be considered cheating.

alien monkey

In response to How important is it to you that your partner...? :

How important is it to you that your partner smell good?

• Very damn important
• Important-ish
• Less important than you might think
• I just don't care.....at all

I like a man to smell like a man. Clean, yes--I don't like stinky. But there are natural scents that are nice.

my baby gets misty when i come in from the bbq smelling like mesquite smoke. it really gets her going.

bruce

How important is it to you that your partner smell good?

• Very damn important

• Important-ish

• Less important than you might think

• I just don't care.....at all

very important but that doesn't mean wearing lots of perfume either. ;}

How important is it to you that your partner smell good?

• Very damn important

• Important-ish

• Less important than you might think

• I just don't care.....at all

but that doesn't mean wearing lots of perfume either. ;}

Would you date someone who was currently in a relationship, knowing that you would "be a secret?"

• Sure, why not?

• Depends on the person.

• Absolutely NOT.

absolutely not! no secrets! no surprizes! everybody knows about everyone else.

i just stumbled across this test in another persons journal. check it out.

In response to Cats :

Hmmmmm, I noticed that there are a number of pictures in profiles of men with cats . . . I'm trying to decide if I find that appealing or distubing. Interesting.

well i have six cats, and the vets assistants think i am the best dad ever! i am also involved in a loving poly relationship, and my lovers think i am pretty great to.

bruce