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38 M Oakland, CA

My Details

Last Online
Jun 5, 2011
Native American, Hispanic / Latin, White, Other
Body Type
Other, and laughing about it
Scorpio, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Fluently), Other (Poorly), Sign Language (Poorly)

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My self-summary
I don't stand still. What good is that? I need to keep things in motion, and mix that up with a desire for stability. I'm in it for the journey. What else is there? Who needs absolutes?

I'll go through phases of getting shit done and executing and being outwardly focused, phases of laziness and sloth, phases of deep analysis and planning and inward focus, times of focusing on and enjoying my friends. Some times those things blend together nicely, and sometimes they clash. It keeps things interesting.

I am non-cautious, inspired, and loyal
What I’m doing with my life
I started a very fun job in the city a few months ago. I look forward to going to work every day. Many people wouldn't consider it fun, but I can't help it.

These days, I try to keep my good, loyal friends as happy as I can, but really I am focusing a lot on work. I get up in the morning, often sleeping an hour or so through my alarms, hurry to get ready, walk a mile to bart, jump on bart. If I'm lucky I will be able to IM some friends on the 20 minute bart ride, while my blackberry's internet connectivity is not blocked by the trans-bay tube or a tunnel. Then I'll walk to work from the bart station, picking up a coffee along the way, possibly continuing to IM, and get to work half awake, nursing the extra large 4-shot coffee beverage I cling to with my life. At work, there will be something needing to be resolved, I will jump in to meetings, meeting after meeting, trying to push through and keep the projects moving. It is its own world. At the end of the day, a walk back to bart, my mind spinning with all the little minutiae of the day, the things that might go wrong, what has to be discussed with who, who is thinking what, what are their real intentions? Who do they think they are? While more IMing from my phone, this time standing in the middle of the train as it is packed with commuters and I couldn't find a seat. In the tunnels I'll relax and listen to music, maybe turning up the volume a few notches. My blackberry's battery runs out, so I swap in the replacement. Then the walk home, a late night snack, insomnia, a sleeping pill, setting those alarms, switching up the times a little and tweaking the sounds to make it harder for me to possibly sleep through yet again for a whole entire hour!, some sleep, at last, and then the alarms.

Oh, and on the weekends I might go sailing.

And my work at the above referenced job is a place that helps get money to non profits and political groups.

That's what I'm doing with my life.
I’m really good at
I have fun making convincing arguments about things I don't really believe, and similar ridiculousness, when I'm with someone I've known awhile. I can be pretty intellectual. Sometimes I'll get mired down in thought and analysis, about the world, about the state of the nation states and the inequities and the history, about interpersonal relationships and motives and hidden personality traits. Other times, I'll grab some drinks with friends and discuss our immaculate plans for the Beer Pipeline.

And walking. No matter how lazy and slothful I might become, and believe me I know how to push that limit, I can always walk, and I enjoy it. And I don't mean little strolls in the park. I could walk 100 miles in 2 days, any time. It's an absolute certainty. I would walk everywhere if I could afford the time. Or rather if I could keep things in balance. Walking has everything. Time to think. Time for company if someone will come along. Scenery. Seeing new places. New people. Exercise. Fresh air.

And getting shit done. When it comes down to it, I can put aside the over analysis and pensive crap and jump in. Some people will sit around forever thinking about things and never actually do anything. That pisses me off. I want results. I indulge in day dreaming all the time, but I really believe we have to combine that with action. It's all about balance in the end. That's another feature of walking. Not only do you get to plan and think, but you also get somewhere in the end.
The first things people usually notice about me
My long hair and my eyes. You are not going to be able to shape me up from my eyes. They are going to be a little deceiving.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
The art of war, the book, not the lame movie. And not because it's about how to kill people or contend for resources. Cuz it's about effectiveness and balance -- balancing conventional and unconventional, planning and execution, etc. One of my best friends introduced this to me, and it resonated a lot. I have bought the book many times, and each time, I end up giving it away to someone I care about. I gave one to my mother. They don't all understand. You have to look past the gory superficial bits and killing and power-lust to get to the good stuff. Not everyone can do that.

For whatever reason, things involving rebels, gangsters, the relation between the powerful and the oppressed, the colonized becoming the colonizer -- resonates -- animal farm/1984, godfather, scarface (yes, scarface...), some edward abbey books, music: tupac, sade, otis, ray, leonard.

On food : Pasta. Beans. Cheese. Sourdough bread.

The six things I could never do without
1. Coffee 2. Music 3. Water -- as in large flowing bodies of it 4. Earth 5. Bread. Delicious bread. 6. Motion
I spend a lot of time thinking about
One thing I don't spend a lot of time thinking about is the meaning of life. Why does life have to have meaning? Searching for the meaning of life presumes that there is some meaning to be found. I don't know why there would be any meaning beyond what we make it. We make our own meaning. I think more about what I want my life to mean than trying to find or deduce some meaning from it.

And the hotties walking around SF. God the hotties. They are everywhere. It's ridiculous.
On a typical Friday night I am
Catching the last bart home.

Or meeting up with my roommate at some dive bar he's discovered in soma, grabbing some beers before heading home.

Or drinking red wine with my awesome coworkers in celebration of some huge milestone we've just pulled off.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I am really deep down a romantic. I try to hide it.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 24–41
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
You're adventurous. Like really adventurous. I don't mean like you go for a drive to LA for the weekend on a whim. I mean you sail to hawaii. Or you jump on a bus to mexico for a few months. Those are just examples. You know what I mean.

Your core values include helping other people, and other animals, and little plants and rocks and such. And you care about justice one way or another. If you are just out there for self gratification, go away!

You can have fun. You can be happy sitting back and ejoying life. You can be engaging.

You have an identity. You know where you came from and you are proud of it.

You are in resonance with my desire to have a best friend, a partner in crime, a complimentary soul.

You don't take yourself too seriously.

You can see through my BS.

You have read all this craziness and you still want to message me!

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You are one of said hotties from "I spend a lot of time thinking about" section.