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39 • Melbourne, Australia • Woman
I’m looking for
- Ages 35–46
- Near me
- Who are single
- For new friends, long-term dating
- Last online
- Yesterday – 2:35pm
- Bisexual, Sapiosexual
- 5′ 6″ (1.68m)
- Body type
- Mostly anything
- Atheism, and very serious about it
- Aries, but it doesn’t matter
- Graduated from university
- Art / Music / Writing
- Open relationship
- Strictly non-monogamous
- Doesn’t have kids
- Likes dogs and has cats
- English (Fluently)
When I joined this site in late 2012 I was reticent to write about my profession, although I am certain that a great many people guessed. I am a life model. This means that I spend most of my working life holding still in the nude, for various time fractions. It also means that I have a lot of body confidence, no illusions about the shape of my arse, and a totally chaotic timetable. It does not mean that I am any more sexually available than any other human. I am damned good at standing up for myself.
I have a great preference for finding joy in life, although politics, climate change deniers, and people who throw lit cigarette butts out of cars cause me great despair. Actually, any non-biodegradeable disposed of in such a way makes me angry.
At present I find much joy in my partners. I have finally and at long last become willing, nay, thrilled to identify as polyamorous after years of wanting and having multiple partners but eschewing the poly term. After a tumultuous 2013, in which I began a number of significant relationships, I feel that I have settled in to the life I have always wanted, but had not known how to begin.
I make an effort to live rationally, to consider all the information before making decisions, and to take care of myself, in order that I may be available to take care of others. I am not closed to the notion of new relationships, although I am not actively seeking them. I have a lot of partners and limited time, and every now and then actually set aside time for a 'me' date. I cannot fathom how I would fit in anyone else, because I love and adore my partners and don't want to jeopardise existing joy.
Further to my embracing poly last year, I discovered that my general sex positivity, curiosity and self knowledge have given me the impetus and confidence to enjoy my kinky side, previously rejected by me as unnecessary and dangerous.
I was talking with a group of people about coming out as poly, and like better the notion of inviting people in, as proposed by one of the other speakers. I don't need other people to change their lives to interact with me, but I want to be honest about my situation, not to have to edit my conversations and pretend that I'm conforming, and be able to speak with pleasure about my loved ones as others might expect to speak about their loved one. I had an epiphany while this was going on - I am more reticent to come out as an atheist than I am to come out as poly.
I am a volunteer advocate for members of my profession & take it very seriously.
Putting my foot in my mouth. Keep chewing & eventually swallow. I do try very hard to own my mistakes. Personal responsibility!
Following complicated plots in foreign film & television. (not that I have much time to devote to this particular talent)
Saying 'No' to myself when tempted by inessentials.
Listening to friends & helping them to work through trouble in a rational fashion.
I look plush and soft at a glance, but am very strong, flexible and reasonably fit.
Alternative music makes up most of my collection - Amanda Palmer, Fleet Foxes, First Aid Kit, The Decemberists, The Dresden Dolls & more. Came very late to Dead Can Dance. Classical, secret pop, soundtracks - often science fiction - which I adore as film & television. SBS, ABC, Family Guy. Peep Show, Black Books et al. Irreverance delights me.
If I can turn my volunteer work into a paying job and would it be of any real use to anyone but myself.
How I might be able to increase the bio-mass in the back yard without the land-lord noticing. (No understanding that plants need nutrients to grow, he shall not suffer a leaf to decompose.)
How to help One Term Tony become a reality.
No two weeks are the same.
Until recently I maintained the 'cupboard of shame' (to the amusement of friends and partners) to conceal books I was not proud to display. All the books on sex were on my shelves, so what was in it?
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