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38 Melbourne, Australia Woman


I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 35–46
  • Near me
  • For new friends

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 5:01pm
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Full figured
Mostly anything
Atheism, and very serious about it
Aries, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Art / Music / Writing
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
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When I joined this site in late 2012 I was reticent to write about my profession, although I am certain that a great many people guessed. I am a life model. This means that I spend most of my working life holding still in the nude, for various time fractions. It also means that I have a lot of body confidence, no illusions about the shape of my arse, and a totally chaotic timetable. It does not mean that I am any more sexually available than any other human, and that I am damned good at standing up for myself.
I have a great preference for finding joy in life, although politics, climate change deniers, and people who throw lit cigarette butts out of cars cause me great despair.
At present I find much joy in my partners. I have finally and at long last become willing, nay, thrilled to identify as polyamorous after years of wanting and having multiple partners but eschewing the poly term. After a tumultuous 2013, in which I began a number of significant relationships, I feel that I have settled in to the life I have always wanted, but had not known how to begin. After a year of thinking about little other than sex, dates and sex, I am still thinking about sex, dates and sex, but also focusing better on creativity, ambition, and sex.
I make an effort to live rationally, to consider all the information before making decisions, and to take care of myself, in order that I may be available to take care of others. I am not closed to the notion of new relationships, although I am not actively seeking them. I have a lot of partners and limited time, and every now and then actually set aside time for a 'me' date. I cannot fathom how I would fit in anyone else, because I love and adore my partners and don't want to jeopardise existing joy.
Further to my embracing poly last year, I discovered that my general sex positivity, curiosity and self knowledge have given me the impetus and confidence to enjoy my kinky side, previously rejected by me as unnecessary and dangerous.
I was talking to a group of people about coming out as poly, and like better the notion of inviting people in, as proposed by one of the other speakers. I don't need other people to change their lives to interact with me, but I want to be honest about my situation, not to have to edit my conversations and pretend that I'm conforming, and be able to speak with pleasure about my loved ones as others might expect to speak about their loved one. I had an epiphany while this was going on - I am more reticent to come out as an atheist than I am to come out as poly.
What I’m doing with my life
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I am working in a niche job with artists. I also am an artist (drawing, painting, printmaking) although I have not made sufficent time to progress.
I am a volunteer advocate for members of my profession & take it very seriously.
I’m really good at
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Cooking. There are miscalculations & flops, but I am pretty good. I can hear the physics & chemistry of it singing to me.
Putting my foot in my mouth. Keep chewing & eventually swallow. I do try very hard to own my mistakes. Personal responsibility!
Following complicated plots in foreign film & television. (not that I have much time to devote to this particular talent)
Saying 'No' to myself when tempted by inessentials.
Listening to friends & helping them to work through trouble in a rational fashion.

The first things people usually notice about me
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Excellent posture. Spectacles. Lack of interest in fashion. Shake hands with all new acquaintances, big hugs for friends.
I look plush and soft at a glance, but am very strong, flexible and reasonably fit.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Almost anything by Margret Atwood, Iain (M) Banks, Alastair Reynolds, Charles Stross, Dawkins, umm, loads, will fill in more eventually. I read a lot. Recently added audiobooks to my collection, so all the hours I spend driving each week won't be wasted.
Alternative music makes up most of my collection - Fleet Foxes, First Aid Kit, The Decemberists, The Dresden Dolls & more. Came very late to Dead Can Dance. Classical, secret pop, soundtracks - often science fiction - which I adore as film & television. SBS, ABC, Family Guy. Peep Show, Black Books et al. Irreverance delights me.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Swim fins
Cotton sheets
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Kittens. Forget-me-nots, ribbons, wallpaper...
How to eliminate words such as 'fortunate' and 'luck' from my lexicon. I managed with 'destiny' but although I resent the concepts, these are proving to be a cultural reflex, one that I dislike because of the magical thinking required.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Drying my swimming gear. Watching British comedy with lovers. Having a threesome. Comparing diaries with my partners. Freting over the state of drawing teaching. Foisting plates of leafy greens on anyone who sits at my table.

No two weeks are the same.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
There's heaps of stuff I'm dying to share, but I am plagued by self-censoring.
You should message me if
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I am maintaining this profile because I enjoy reading updates on the profiles of paramours and met amours. At the moment I'm so busy I've barely got time to do the thinks I need to do, so I'm really not looking for new relationships of any description.