Right now I am mainly looking for relationships that might be easiest to understand as friends with benefits: lots of fun, lots of friendship, some shared meals. I'm not trying to develop anything really intense! I'll do me, you do you, and maybe we shoot each other some moral support to do the things we want to get done. If I really fall for you, you can have my Thursday night for as long as you want it, but no co-parenting or cohabitation is on the menu here.
If this sounds weird to you, this is kinda where I'm at: http://polysingleish.com/2015/04/28/navigating-non-escalator-relationships/
I'm white if that matters to you, but I removed ethnicity in my profile because okcupid was recommending an avalanche of white folks in my searches, which is not what I would expect given my geography. Magically my search results and visitors got more diverse when I did that. Not cool, okc.
for searchability, let's toss in... BBW
This is a work in progress, one bit at a time, as I have time...
Being present one on one
Collaborating on small pleasures
Sucking the marrow out of life
Keeping my drama (which is minimal anyway) out of yours
Laughing instead of crying
How to meet my (and maybe your) needs for basic survival as well as joy (bread AND roses)
You like an ongoing friends with benefits model (over a one night stand or super romantic relationship ideals). See this article for why I don't believe "no strings attached" sex is really possible: http://feministing.com/2015/06/03/all-tied-up-lets-do-away-with-no-strings-attached-sex/
You want to meet in person, I'm very much a physical person and I'm not interested in online flirting, picture exchanges, camming, etc.
Note that I get a lot of messages and if you are a <70% match, bring your message game or it will get literally get lost with the other not-high-match messages because they go to a filtered place I clean out about once a week. You need to say something interesting to catch my eye when I'm doing that cleanout, but I've definitely met and enjoyed knowing folks whose first message ended up there.