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altarflambe

32 F Homestead, FL

My Details

Last Online
Apr 16
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
Hispanic / Latin
Height
5′ 4″ (1.63m)
Body Type
Curvy
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Agnosticism
Sign
Scorpio, and it matters a lot
Education
Working on university
Job
Art / Music / Writing
Income
Relationship Status
Married
Relationship Type
Offspring
Has kids, but doesn’t want more
Pets
Has cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
I'm pretty happily married to a guy I've been with or been best friends with since we were 12, and the two of us have five kids.

Are you really still reading?

Ok, I read a lot, have speakers set up in every room of the house and auxillary cords in both vehicles, so I can always plug my phone in and turn Pandora on. I spend too much time driving. I stop and notice beauty in small details often. I laugh hysterically at nonsense, don't sleep enough, love the ocean, go to class, take my laptop to Starbucks to write, and am happier when it's raining. I maintain a lot of long distance friendships and a few local ones, but often wish I had more people to hang out with nearby. Hard to fit it all in, though - my schedule gets hectic and then I want to talk in the middle of the night.

I'm from Key West, adore water in all forms, have a mermaid fascination, and inherited a love of rum. My nose is pierced, most of my clothes are black, and I try to keep fresh flowers around as much as possible. I'm kind of a gross, zit-popping, calloused foot sort of girl who talks about her periods. I'm also pretty direct and extremely honest. I tend to talk with a mixture of big vocabulary, poetic phrasing, and curse words, all punctuated by too many "like"s.

I'm drawn to the ritual and lovely ancient qualities of Catholicism, and I adore the idea of worship and Mass - and there are situations that make me instinctively want very much to pray...but the reality is I can't deal with the Church's teachings on sex, or on many other things. I love science and freedom and, thusly, am sometimes burdened by unfulfilled spiritual yearning.

I crave intensity all the time.

I read in someone's profile recently that they identified as a "sustainable hedonist," or tried to indulge in "sustainable hedonism" - I like that. I like it a lot. I'm stealing it. Sorry, whoever that was :)
What I’m doing with my life
Majoring in psychology: AA down, now bachelors and then (gulp) graduate school.

Raising kids, in a pretty involved way that demands all sorts of things on any given day.

Writing disturbing fiction, narrative nonfiction, childrens' and poetry - and dealing with the background logistics therein (negotiating with illustrators, running online contests, arguing with my editor...)

Blogging, on two sites, where I've been for 10 and 2 years, respectively.

Constantly renegotiating and evolving within my marriage -which is not going anywhere, and I invest a lot in. Also yes, he knows I'm here (and has his own profile up).

Navigating the ebbs and flows of a never ending existential crisis.

I have a big, new-ish interest in roller derby - my oldest is on a junior team, the adult bouts are super fun, and I may start skating soon, too.

For 7 or 8 years there, I was a breastfeeding, cloth diapering, sling wearing, cookie baking stay at home mom to babies and toddlers. Now, they're getting older (6-13) and it's pretty cool to branch out into my own life more and more.
I’m really good at
Seeing things from others' perspectives, putting people at ease, being patient, and getting along with a WHOLE lot of different types of folks.

I'm really bad at getting speeding tickets when there's a good song on.
The first things people usually notice about me
My wild curly/wavy long dark hair, and dark eyes.
My direct, honest way of speaking, with eye contact, and my genuine way of listening.
My cleavage.
I've got a hernia that pretty much makes me look pregnant, for now (til I go get it fixed) from certain angles. People basically assume I'm pregnant everywhere I go, because I've still got a waist, no back fat, etc, but the disproportionate belly. I just try to look at it like, ok cool I look like a hot pregnant chick, whatever. That's a whole porn genre! J/k-ish :p
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books - Anne Rice, Kurt Vonnegut, Lauren Slater, VC Andrews, and Stephen King are some of my favorite modern adult authors. Also really love Roald Dahl, C.S. Lewis, JK Rowling and more for "kids" books that rock no matter how old you are. I read a LOT, have a library in my house, and could go on and on with categories of poetry and classics and blah blah blah...

Movies - The Big Lebowski, The Royal Tennebaums, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, anything Kevin Smith has ever done, James and the Giant Peach. Secretary was hot. I have a soft spot for old school dramatic nonsense like Bram Stoker's Dracula with Gary Oldman, Edward Scissorhands, and so on.

Shows - Louie, the FX one. Louis CK is my hero. Orange is the New Black. I liked Arrested Development and will be excited when True Blood starts again....overall I don't do a lot of movies or tv.

Music - Dresden Dolls, Florence and the Machine, Regina Spektor, Rasputina, Mumford and Sons, Frou Frou, Mt Eden's dubstep, various ambient progressive instrumental stuff, classic rock galore, grunge rock in it's entirety, Vivaldi, Tori Amos, Radiohead, Bach, Johnny Cash, that damned Fun song that won't get out of my head...

Food - I eat a lot of stuff that somehow involves mushrooms or olives, love fresh fruit and cooked vegetables, can make an amazing steak, am a sucker for anything Italian, get in Asian moods, can't deny Mexican is pretty good. You know. Food, it's great!

There's no category here for some of the things I love, like Andrew Lloyd Webber musicals, and weird YouTubers, and erotic Harry Potter fanfiction.

Yeah, I really said that.
The six things I could never do without
Good pens, plants, time alone, affection, nighttime hours, and my imagination. Not necessarily in that order.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Psychology - particularly, lately, Robert Maslow's characteristics of self-actualized people.

Sex.

Neuroplasticity.

Educational models and methods, for kids.

France, and French (I'm learning the language and hoping to take a trip with my university).

Mortality, how we ignore it, and what it does and does not mean about how to live my life.
On a typical Friday night I am
Taking a candlelit bubble bath with a glass of wine and a pile of chocolate.

Or, sitting around on AIM and Tumblr.

Or, talking into the wee hours in a kitchen, with people I love.

Or, stumbling around South Beach exploring and lying in the sand, with my husband.

Tonight, it's Friday, and I'm "studying" (filling this out).
I’m looking for
  • Guys who like girls
  • Ages 20–50
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends
You should message me if
You actually include a lot of information about your life, interests, hobbies, plans, etc - or at least some real clues as to who you are and what you're about - in your profile. I don't even know how to explain how old it gets, having dudes with blank or nearly blank pages telling me they're "an open book" and I can "ask away" about whatever I want to know. You're interested in me because you know enough about me to see that I'm interesting; extend the same courtesy! Put your shit out there. I don't mean to sound rude here, but I am not interested in interviewing people daily just to find out whether or not I'd like to attempt getting to know them.

Also - I am turned off by being called things like "Cutie," "Sexii," "Beautiful," etc by people I don't know the first time they ever say hi, and will not even respond if your opening is x rated.

Unless it's really funny, or contains enough nuance to actually get my attention.