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alterna-phil

41 Philadelphia, PA Man

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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 35–45
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 9:13am
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body type
Thin
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Judaism, but not too serious about it
Sign
Aries, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Science / Engineering
Income
Status
Single
Type
Offspring
Has a kid
Pets
Has dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm a divorced single dad... I have a 50/50 custody agreement in place with the ex. It's a pretty flexible arrangement, with no drama. So with that out of the way...

I'm not too fond of discussing myself, so without hopefully sounding like a) a raging egomaniac or b) ridiculously awkward, here is the basic gist (besides the whole "being a dad" thing):
While passionate about a great many things, there are two that standout: mathematics and music (I have a formal education in both). I have a rather serious career that has been going on for almost 20 years as a working computer scientist/applied mathematician (in what academics snidely refer to as "industry"). I consider myself to be extremely lucky to have the job/career that I do, because it's flexible enough and has given me the time to also be a working musician. I've been playing and involved in music for about 25 years now. Outside of work and fatherhood, I spend most of my spare time gigging, practicing, rehearsing, or recording. (Although I'll drop almost anything to either go on a good hike or the beach.) Lately though, I've been cutting back a little bit on the music - in the pursuit of another kind of artistic endeavor...

(I just re-read the above paragraph, and it sounds a little too serious, so at this point I'll mention that I'm actually really, really laid back and incredibly easy going. )

Other than that, I'm housebroken, I know a few basic commands, and I don't bark at strangers or chase mail men...
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Depending on the time of day and place I've been known to be one of the following:
musician
father
computer scientist/mathematician
clown
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
In no particular order:
1. Tripping all over the toys my kid leaves all over the floor...
2. Facial hair
3. Playing the shit out of any piece of music imaginable
4. Sarcasm
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
It's a tie between my brain and eyes (and the facial hair)...
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Film
My tastes generally run toward foreign, independent, and classic films. There are way, way, too many great films that have been a part of my life, so I'll just provide a small well-rounded list:
- Amorros Perros
- The Big Lebowski
- Glengarry Glen Ross
- North by Northwest
- Spinal Tap (or any Christoper Guest for that matter)
- Aguirre the Wrath of God (or any Herzog)
In addition to the above genres/films, I also love sci-fi and fantasy stuff (Alien, Blade Runner, Star Wars, Lord of the Rings, etc...)

TV
I don't watch TV. Of course, having stated that, I will now go on to tell you several shows that I did/do watch religiously:
- Arrested Development
- Curb Your Enthusiasm
- Breaking Bad

Books
Aside from many mathematics and computer science texts (which I still read/consult/refer to on a daily basis), I read a ton of historical, philosophical, political, and scientific works. (The list of books that fall into the above categories is far too long to list here.)
In the fiction department, some of my favorite authors are:
Pynchon, Gaddis, Coetzee, Greene, Wolfe, Dellilo, Amis, Murakami and others of a similar ilk.
In addition, I read an incredible amount of sci-fi and fantasy too. (I repeat... an incredible amount :) For what it's worth, I also own the entire collection of Mr. Men books.
Basically, I'll read just about anything that looks interesting. I will draw the line at Dan Brown though. (A guy's gotta have some standards...)

Music
I don't even know where to start, so here is a total stream of conscious listing of some of my favorites:
John Zorn, Miles Davis, The Mars Volta, John Coltrane, Bill Frisell, Tom Waits, Beastie Boys, Ornette Coleman, John Cage, Bartok, Stravinsky, Webern, Soundgarden, Schoenberg, Ives, Boulez, Debussy, Eddie Palmieri, Willie Colon, Curtis Mayfield, King Crimson, Dave Brubeck, Dave Holland, Keith Jarrett, Grant Green, Herbie Hancock, any of the Buena Vista stuff (Ibrahim Ferrer, Ruben Gonzalez, Manual Galban, Manuel Mirabal, etc...), Spanish Harlem Orchestra, Stereolab, just about anything on Fania or ECM records, Martin Denny, Les Baxter, Haydn, Mozart, Bach, Yes, Zappa, and Zeppelin.

According to my computer, there are 3000+ albums by 2100+ artists, so I'm sure there are a few things missing from the above list. If you're looking for new music, I can probably help you...

Food
I have a predilection for various ethnic cousines...I love Thai, Indian, Mexican, Japanese, etc...
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
my kid
music
books
we'll get to the other three things later
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
1. Making sure I'm the best father I can be...
2. The relationship between math, music, art, and spatial reasoning (it just wouldn't be a true bona fide okc profile if I didn't put something pretentious here)
3. Not having enough time to read all the books I would like to read
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Either home with the boy, which means that no matter what we do, it always ends up with him putting the dog in a timeout (which is interesting to watch being that the boy weighs around 45 lbs and the dog is about 85 lbs)
Or boyless, which usually means gigging/playing somewhere.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Too many to list here, but they cover everything from the absolute ridiculous to the most sublime...
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
a) you're bored
b) you think I might be bored
c) left as exercise for the reader
d) anything written above sounds even mildly interesting...
e) looking for something a little different