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61 F Lagos, Portugal

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My self-summary
My relationship purpose is for a special sacred life partnership. Telling you this straight away to save you time.I politely answer EVERY message-and warmly if you actually read my profile as well as my face!!!
Dealmakers; Communication,trust,lightness,intimacy of body and soul ,depth,laughter,forgiveness, delight, connection, joy, letting in the delicious other, spark, integrity and caring for this finite planet;Dealbreakers cruelty, dominance, defeat,consumerism.I had a 34 year long relationship. The last 8 years I have been single.Spend 10,000 hours on anything you will become an expert at it(a current theory). I decided to apply this to my own understanding of myself -and concomitantly to study eclectically about Men Women and relationships. I have applied myself diligently and joyfully to my self-appointed task of becoming better educated about relating.
I feel really ready to have a brilliant relationship. I do like to see a man's face especially his mouth
I love to laugh,with (not at) delighted recognition,could be birdsong or a mad intense idea -kind intelligent(sometimes hard to be both) I read I walk I swim I write poetry I carve out my own philosophy constantly. I love cats and birdsong and one dog.. Nature with all her many moods lifts me enchants me saves me from the pit sometimes.I love beauty in all its forms skyscapes,music that moves me,,some science, truth sometimes .I am often untidy but my herbs and spices are well organised I am more interested in being than doing though I am addicted to swimming in the atlantic ocean.
What I’m doing with my life
WARNING: Any institutions or individuals using any portion of this information: You DO NOT have permission to use any of my profile or pictures or other info in any form or forum both current and future. If you have, or do, it will be considered a violation of my privacy and will be subject to legal action. It is recommended that other members post a similar notice. If a class action is filed, I intend to join with other members in pursuing it.*****

Swimming,reading walkingtrying to be a human being as opposed to a human doing,writing Running my ecohouse ( just on solar energy and rainwater) and land without being a slave to it.,I occasionally DJ a mixture of World, fusion and House I like everything to be "warm" it can be fast to banging ,weird. slow as long as the emotional feel of it is warm ( some people say I never play a bad tune just because it might mix well). Writing and developing myself so that what I write has authenticity ..Below some extracts from poems I wrote;
1. "Yes to everything-I want it-beauty,tenderness, trust, care ,the fresh start
the guiltless gaze of grace: smiling deep and delicate into the eyes
of the unbetrayed-old enough to recognize
the rare faith prize
of brave beginning.
I want the love without the falling;surrender upright tender-eyed
love you as a human being -not be blinded by the god rays."

2. "No holding hoops with whips in hand
for us to clear:
wanting proof that we are worthy
,playing the credentials game
that what we hate or know
are grounds to cherish or disdain.
No trapping labels from the past
cause us to condemn or care
only our essential; selves
when we gently find us there
resting in the trust place
it is planted
it is watered"

3."she wants to see him be safe for him
not drown in his beauty
nor wound him with her want
nor blame him for her unmet dreams"

I put these extracts of my poetry here because they express my feelings-my love purpose as I refine and explore . They are hard and soft won hopes understandings.

I’m really good at
communicating and listening and being an intelligent humorous empowering friend.reading faces (works with the over 45's by then how you use yourself as a person starts to be written on your face)
The first things people usually notice about me
my voice(usually people love it I am a singer),my clarity, intelligence and my eyebrows,
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
does it matter-if I don't demand that you like what I like or inflict it on you ? Some people say it does: actually I did find it useful in a negative way that some writers are so inimical to my spirit that if valued in someone's profile help me/us not to waste time with each other-
Major issue I only like media when it is CHOSEN so if you love to have television on all the time it won't work, similarly if you are addicted to your touch phone can't leave it alone for long stretches of time(except of course during important work/important family/friend events or crises) we will not get to flow together Poetry; Yeats , Mary Oliver TS Eliot to mention a few
:Some books I loved The Little Prince by St Exupery,Molecules of Emotion Candace Pert, The Stuff of thought Stephen Pinker; Guns Germs and Steel Jared Diamond,Wolf Hall Hilary Mantel, The Ascent of Man by Bronowsky Most of P G Wodehouse, Gormenghast by Mervyn Peake The Poisonwood Bible by Barbara Kingsolver, Art and Lies By Jeanette WintersonLighthousekeeping(also JW), The Dispossessed & The Left Hand of Darkness by Ursula Le Guin,Lots of Terry Pratchett, Journal of a Solitude by May Sarton, The Time Travellers Wife,Slowness by Milan Kundera, Eastern Body Western Mind Anodea Judith, The Pregnant Virgin(and other archetypal psychology ) by Marion Woodman We by Robert A Johnson Midnight's Children by Salman Rushdie Surrender The Pink by Carrie Fisher A suitable Boy by Vikram Seth in other words a huge eclectic mix as I am myself. Comedy, Blackadder and Father Ted , Clare in the Community Green Wing some Seinfeld come to mind
I lived a lot off grid in the middle of nowhere so not seen a lot of films Night on Earth dir Jim Jarmusch and many others of his,most of Mira Nair's films ie Monsoon wedding , Delicatessen & the City of lost children by Jeunet and Caro anything by Robert Altman(Mash Nashville ,Pret-a Porter)Quills dir Philip Kaufman Smoke dir Wayne Wang,Cold Dog Soup dir Alan Mettier I suppose I like any intelligent comedy Sideways etc and also Merchant Ivory and historicalI did also love the Indiana Jones movies I also like french films. Food is affected by the above middle of nowhere living Indian ,Thai ,Fish, Middle Eastern I love italian but has to be gluten-free
Music too much too many genres where to start?. Indian Ragas and Jugalbandi,World music, Dreadzone, Ska, Vivaldi,Satie,Ravel,Big Bud,EBTG,Massive Attack Ben Watt Gotan Project ,Theivery Corporation Der Dritte Raum,Traffic, Incredible String Band Fairport Convention Richie Havens Zoe and Idris Rahman. Salif Keita Baaba Maal and many many morel Different music for different functions to sing , to dance or to listen or do housework or study to all have different often conflicting modes,Silence can be wonderful too and birdsong is the best( I dislike heavy metal and anything with misogynist lyrics)
The six things I could never do without
the ocean, laughter,music beauty truth connection(connection is big includes tenderness sex, sensuality -willingness....)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
what it might mean/involve to start a real relationship at our age when the potential lover is very likely toalready have a life? so if neither of us wants a cipher there may be some adjusting to conceive of/do-we might have to start long distance(after meeting because the presence is EVERYTHING) because maybe neither of us wants to drop our lives-which is a good thing-how can we enrich each other if we have nothing? So that we would enjoy dipping into/sharing( part-time to start with) each others lives seems crucial.We don't need to be clones but I believe we do need to be open to the kind of lives we have -enjoy be interested in their differences.
Other stuff I think about.
How can we"make it better not bitter"; live joyfully and simply using as little of the earth's resources as possible-.
How to really be embodied in truthful laughing dazzled delight to this fragrant day that will never come again or: if not then at least to be present with whatever is unfolding
On a more rueful note where are the beautiful 50-60 year old men?
Some thoughts about Spirituality/ God (which seems to come up with some thoughtful men) I believe that when we fall in love with a sunset , when we are filled with tenderness and reverence for our children our lovers our friends-we are having an experience of "the sacred". When we deeply care about the oceans; when we want to be part of the solution not add to the problems of violence and pollution- we are also connecting with "the sacred", the difficulty with religions is that they are often saying" Only in my church with my priest/guru/leader my rules can you experience the sacred-" Some things in the bible are dangerous "Then God blessed them, and God said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply; fill the earth and subdue it; have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of the air, and over every living thing that moves on the earth.”Genesis 28. Where this logically leads to is genetic engineering ,worldwide pollution and a total disregard for nature and bio-diversity-!! So Spirit/Gaia/Goddess/God as love yes but the bible (or Koran or other etc) word for word no.
On a typical Friday night I am
I might be dancing to house music I might be reading I might be on a beach singing there is no typical!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I love being happy enough to do nothing -to just walk hang out-I don't always achieve that state .Sometimes when I do I feel guilty about how great I can feel just being alive .
I’m looking for
  • Guys who like girls
  • Ages 48–60
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
I want to connect gloriously tenderly truly with a single heterosexual man of integrity in Europe and talk on phone or skype straight away-we can all write wonderful emails but live talk reveals so much more so quickly-then if the talking is joyful,connecting- shows potential; let us make a plan to meet as soon as possible. I have a rich full life so men in Europe or regularly visiting Europe only please, so at least we have a good chance of meeting soon(unless there was some amazing mutual attraction that opened every parameter) I want to delight in/with a compassionate & intelligent man who still feels joy sometimes. Ideally you are able to be gentle to yourself & others but also you can hold to your own important truths with bravery & self respect. Warm able to laugh & not too bitter, you value your health enough to be able to go walking dancing,maybe even swimming with me; I don't know what you look like.
If you'd put some thought into what relating requires of a person & started to construct some framework in your own quality of relating to yourself as a springboard to being able to create something real with another-that would be great or even if that idea resonates with/is attractive/inspiring/appealing to you!.We all fall & fail the point is we keep on trying,we keep constructing ourselves.
If you only have 2 lines about yourself then( unless you have answered a lot of questions/send me a detailed message) the subtext(I do believe there is much intelligent life on this site) is that just because you are an available man I should want you(do you really want such a desperate woman!)-or that you don't care enough/aren't really ready to go for something real and special-or that you won't/can't communicate-none of those appeal to me-.I am ready for glory-truly.. I already have glory alone and I believe a good enough relationship would enhance each of us and that we could create more glory and joy as well as challenges and growth together. So if you love countyrside birdsong ocean cats (actually as long as you would tolerate my cats that would work) truth,intelligence ,ideas,delight; and connecting as opposed to competing yes please If,you read (or workshopped or listened to audios by ) David Deida (or someone better- educate me!) and were inspired and wished you could find someone to explore that territory he maps so excitingly with(google him!), then yes yes yes ,if you liked reading this then yes yes yes too .Last word please- real age and unphotoshopped photos only (which mine is/ are)
WARNING: Any institutions or individuals using any portion of this information: You DO NOT have permission to use any of my profile or pictures or other info in any form or forum both current and future. If you have, or do, it will be considered a violation of my privacy and will be subject to legal action. It is recommended that other members post a similar notice. If a class action is filed, I intend to join with other members in pursuing it.