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Hello, I'm an unusually well-preserved, analytical, intellectual, hedonistic, Jewish Atheist that is living a simultaneously conventional and unconventional life. Put another way, I'm a rebel with limits. Moreover, I'm quite interesting, kind, respectful, considerate, funny, great company and thrive on putting people at ease. I am drama-free (but not comedy-free). You could also say (and get no argument from me) I'm down to earth, adventurous, hyper-educated, passionate, respectful/well-mannered/polite, well-preserved, friendly, funny, quirky, fun-loving, thoughtful, caring, honest, non-conformist, curious, intuitive, and sensual. If you wanted to add that I'm an unusually good-looking fellow, I might even buy you a drink.

Physically, you can judge for yourself by the recent pictures posted on the site. I keep fit by working out regularly and eating well (in case you were curious). My good to bad cholesterol is off the charts good if that happens to turn you on.

Likes: Intelligence, honesty, originality, thoughtfulness, rationality, openess, beauty, independence, internal locus of control, sense of humor, vivacity, kindness, optimism.

Dislikes: prejudice, & racism, stupidity, dishonesty, rudeness, cruelty, flakiness, religious fundamentalism, closed/narrow-mindedness

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My unconventional life...I also happen to be a happily married man who has been so for fourteen years. We have a solid and open relationship which my wife would be happy to confirm. She too has the same freedoms that I enjoy so there is no double standard. We happen to believe that traditional monogamous relationships are less than ideal. I do hold the commitment of marriage in high esteem and think it's preferred to have a partner for the long haul, but I just don't believe monogamy is natural or leads to happiness. A spouse isn't expected to be the sole provider of other kinds of stimulation (intellectual, friendship, love, etc.), so it is irrational for sex to be singled out. Plus, I greatly dislike artificial and illogical limitations. I want the largest, most fulfilling life I can have. Don't you?

I would argue the best kinds of marital (or any) relationships are built on trust and respect. Basically, an ideal marriage is like having a best friend/partner with benefits. The truth is, after more than fourteen years of being married (in my case), the friendship/partnership remains strong but those benefits are much less important/interesting/frequent/passionate than they were in the beginning. That's natural and I think anybody that expects to have a lifetime of passion with one person is naive and likely in for significant disappointment.

Note: When factoring the years before marriage, my wife and I practiced monogamy for our first ten year together (and in that time neither of us ever made an exception as we played by the agreed upon rules). Our non-monogamous era has been the last seven or so years. The reason I mention this is I have extensive experience with both monogamy and non-monogamy and thus have a uniquely credible vantage point.

And then there's my conventional life...I am a professional and a parent to a wonderful 3 year-old and live in the "burbs." I enjoy playing tennis and softball (not concurrently), watching movies (with an emphasis on classics and independent films but also enjoy mindless National Lampoon type movies), going to the theater, concerts and traveling.

I don't want to put too many parameters on what I am looking for on this site (because you never know), but my goal is to meet only nice, down-to earth, disease-free, and subjectively attractive women for friendship, socializing and the opportunity for new erotic experiences. I DO NOT want to interact with FLAKES. My free time (like yours no doubt) is too precious for last minute cancellations or plans that are more likely to change than to remain.

I also don't like long cyber communication. If I like your profile, then I am happy to throw caution to the wind and meet in person. I would rather have an awkward dinner where I am fixated on how I can leave as soon as possible (but still learn a little more about the human species) than a pleasant three month pen-pal relationship.

I love sex (and sensuality) but have limits on my level of adventure. I'm not particularly kinky outside of my comfort with multiple partners (concurrent or simultaneous). I'm not into anal sex, S&M (a little bondage doesn't scare me, however), or anything that is about pain or degradation (I can get enough of that at work). I really enjoy sensuality, flirting, kissing, oral sex, and prefer slower, more sensuous sexual experiences versus anonymous, super-aggressive porno style sex. That noted, I am rather versatile and get the most excitement out of pleasing my partner, so if it works for you, there's a good chance I will enjoy it. Good kissing is central to escalation.

I like to meet for drinks or dinner. I like to chat and get to know someone new beyond a superficial level. If chemistry and trust are established, then I am open to the evening continuing. I'm a no-pressure person. If at any point, either of us feels like calling it a night, that's fine. All in all, I like to try to let things come naturally.

My ideal is to make real friends with exceptional benefits for ongoing intellectual and physical good times. But making good friends without benefits is nice and enjoying benefits without becoming friends is also nothing to shake a stick at. As long as safety is factored, I don't shy away from pleasure.

Trying to live life to its fullest and make the world a better place at the same time.

kissing, work, sports, humor, putting people at ease, verbosity, a lot more, and of course, modesty.

I also would argue that I'm exceptionally funny (even though I realize that argumentation is rarely humorous). I suggest viewing an example of my humor on the Rikki Lake show circa 1995 -- http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k41Jj_kiBX4. Sure it's a long time ago and my glasses and jacket were huge, but it was my TV high point and if you don't think I was funny, I'm sure that we won't get along.

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This is Spinal Tap, The Godfather, The Graduate, Annie Hall, Fast Times at Ridgemont High are five that come to mind off the top of my head. Relatively recently, I really enjoyed Revolutionary Road, Juno, No Country for Old Men, Sweeney Todd and There will be Blood. I think Benjamin Buttons is way overrated and Slumdog Millionairre is somewhat ovverated.

Portnoy's Complaint, The God Delusion, Atlas Shrugged, Autobiography of Malcom X

The Daily Show, Sopranos, Entourage, Flight of the Concords, the Office (British and US versions), Arrested Development Sons and Daughters, Freaks and Geeks.

The Beatles, Billy Joel, Elvis Costello, They Might be Giants, Queen, the Who, the Kinks, Elton John, Paul Simon, Harry Nillson, Steely Dan, Prince, AC DC, Elton John, Neil Diamond, Weezer and a lot of other stuff including show tunes.

There are many things (or people) that I would never want to do without including, my family, friends, earned savings, avocados, the NFL, GPS, the internet, music, art, comedy, sex but ultimately I would adapt to losing anything. I'm resilient.

Sex, politics, sports, work, whether free will exists, the meaning of life, religion, my family. I have also spent a lot of time recently thinking about my good fortune.

Either having a an evening filled with debauchery or sleeping by 11:00 (ideally both).

I think revealing my open relationship is plenty. But here's one more...My masturbation to sex with another ratio is much too high. That reminds me of the Woody Allen quotation,"Don't knock masturbation; it's sex with someone I love."

1) You are sane

2) you find me attractive, are looking for a really great guy that is unusually honest and ethical, and you would like to share some immense intellectual and sensual stimulation. For those of you that are ultimately looking for a long-term, traditional relationship, I posit that seeing me is not at odds with that goal. I would do no nothing to impede and would be totally supportive. I believe that one is much more likely to find an ideal relationship when content without one. I could be of help in interim contentment.

3) You read my entire profile. If you have that type of stamina, I'd love to reward you with real life interaction. Don't worry, I'm not nearly as verbose in real life.

4) You are kind of intrigued and have some questions. I am very courteous and will politely reply to all messages.

5)If I take the time to write you first. I greatly appreciate the courtesy of a response. I am not a fan of ambiguity and take rejection very well. I will remain fond of myself independent of your interest in me. Trust me, if I was looking for validation, I'd have a very different lifestyle.