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My self-summary
Just moved to San Antonio! Some things you should know: I'm poly (ask whatever you need to know); I'm hsv-2 positive (; I love the Rock (I know...that's a tough one).

My boyfriend and I are looking for interesting and kind men and women in San Antonio.

I've been told this summary doesn't properly reveal this alleged edge that I have. I will contemplate how to rectify.
What I’m doing with my life
I love my work (former college English teacher turned lawyer), I love my friends and how we play (movies, dinners, drinks, dancing, shows, opera, ballet, country dive bars, pool, any games really, late night confusion, early morning coffee), I love my ink (sucker for tattoos).
I’m really good at
Hosting parties, cocktailing, turning nouns into verbs, putting myself in uncomfortable situations, laughing (I find most everything funny, but in fine Southern Gothic tradition, my humor runs towards the macabre).
The first things people usually notice about me
My accent. I'm originally from Alabama. Even though I've lived a lot of places, the accent remains. You can make assumptions about me based on how I sound, but that would probably be a mistake.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I love movies. Bad movies, good movies, I don't care. If it is epic (think trilogies), or has things blowing up or dripping blood (think the Rock and Tarantino), or generally appeals to 12 year-old boys (particularly comic book movies), or are period pieces with elaborate costuming, or unsophisticated comedies (Will Ferrell), or trashy European indie movies - I'm in. Two words: Bond and Batman.

A lot more discriminating when it comes to books than movies: Howards End, The Sailor Who Fell from Grace with the Sea, Poisonwood Bible, Cloud Atlas, Jane Eyre, Northanger Abbey, Bleak House, Wuthering Heights, Dulce et Decorum Est, T.S., Harry Potter, Much Ado About Nothing, Emily Dickinson, Faulkner, Catch-22, Calvin and Hobbes, The Great Gatsby, Hamlet, Hardy, Yeats.

Neil Gaiman. Anytime. Anywhere.
Her smile during the chorus is painfully charming.

A gift to you - read it and tell me what you think - I don't normally like sci fi, but this was emotionally complicated and interesting.
(Extreme acts of violence and sex - if those are triggers, avoid)
The six things I could never do without
1. My friends - they are awesome and amazing. They are brilliant, ultra liberal, dedicated, kind, queer or queer friendly, cruel, insightful, and hilarious. It would be pretty cool if you were too.

2. Dining - good food, good alcohol, good coffee.

3. My phone - can't judge me on this one. I may believe deep down inside that I'm more intelligent and attractive because of my phone. This may or may not be reasonable.

4. Beauty - be it someone amazing on the dance floor, that perfect song, that moment in that movie, a show, the opera, the print/painting/photograph that speaks to you in that gallery, that poem, the curve of that building (or her or his hips), that one line you have to re-read in that book. I need that. Often.

5. Challenge - when running, when working, when going out.

6. Numbering lists for no apparent reason.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How awesome things are (interstate system, my phone, toothpicks, spell check), the fluidity of sexual attraction and sexual identity (deep fascination with the following models: Linder/Lengler/Pejic), why we don't live in a meritocracy, that thing Dan Savage said, how I wish more people were sex positive ...

Seneca Falls, Selma, and Stonewall.

Whether you are on fetlife. And, related, why my job doesn't have a safe word.
On a typical Friday night I am
running with the bulls.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
When I'm down, I read The Love Song of J. Alfred Prufrock.
You should message me if
You are also non-standard awesome.

You like group play. You are a couple. Or you aren't.

Disclaimer: although I'm not looking for monogamy, please do not message me if you are looking to cheat on your significant other.