Looking for a partner to slow dance with, to music that only the two of us can hear.
Some people complain about the mundane. Yet how can we appreciate the fantastic, if we never experience the ordinary? I marvel at the thrill-seekers going from high-to-high. What do they do on their nights off? It's so absolutely simple to sit still and watch the world. Yet, so few do that. Are they afraid of missing something that makes them look the other way? Buddha said that if you sit in one place long enough, the entire world will pass in front of you. I don't advocate sitting still, movement is a blessing, yet, sometimes, absolute stillness works magic too.
Planned obsolescence. How come we don't wonder if things (or sometimes people) are made with an expiration and then not? Is that too quirky a thought to have? Or, are we looking out for the next new pleasure instead?
Why don't people use the word "whimsy" any more? We should bring it back. Not just the concept. Actually, Can't remember the last time anyone mentioned whimsy as being an important aspect of our lives. Why is that? Words like wit, whimsy (ahem), wonder, happiness, worth. Celebratory and yet, benign with so much caught up in experience. Whirlygig, why don't we use that word in conversation any more? It rolls and dances and whelps up a whoop but sadly, all I seem to hear in conversation is an overuse of "like". If everything is "like" something else, then what is it really? Perhaps the sentence without "like" and something is EXACTLY what it is.
Was on the subway this morning. Mondays being as brilliant as any other day you make them to be. All of a sudden, the doors opened and in whoosed screaming, overloud, glorious, swearing, cussing, happy, incredible teenagers. The train hunkered down in preparation of their onslaught. They made me feel amazed and happy in this sea of unbridled joy. How wonderful it was, this ocean of incredible boisterousness. Just unafraid and unabashed of itself and its right to exist. Who were these amazing people that not so nearly formed gave the sense of complete purpose. West 4th Street came too soon and left them all behind. Wasn't long enough to be buffeted along in that awesome exuberance.
Planned obsolescence. How come we don't think about that more often? Are things (and people in some cases) made for only a certain amount of time and no more? Is it something anyone thinks about? Or, are we too busy wondering what the next pleasure is going to be?
Was walking home over the Brooklyn Bridge from work. There was this older couple walking up ahead. They were walking hand-in-hand. No hurry, their own pace. The woman let go of the man's hand for a moment and walked ahead of him. They had reached the midpoint (if you've ever walked over the Brooklyn Bridge you know the part, where the view is better than the other parts of the walk, although all of them are pretty spectacular). The man caught up with her a few seconds later, passing them, I overheard their conversation:
Man: Why did you let go of my hand? (catching up to her as she stood at the railing looking at the view with the wind blustering, making her eyes tear).
Woman: Because I wanted to know what it felt like to have you want to come hold it again.
How lucky can two people be?
Sapiosexual. Intelligence is the most attractive quality a person can possess (to me, any way). My mother used to say, "What's the point of sleeping with someone, if you can't roll over and talk to them afterward?" Engage the brain and you encourage the heart, and for those old Shakespearean types, the spleen.
Potentiality, what an absolutely powerful and beautiful word. Everything explodes in its depth.
Best thing I've heard, so far
"I never told you I loved you, you never taught me how."
Truest thing heard so far
"I think poverty is man made, it is not given by god."
Living in today
Don't understand people who can't let go of the past so much so that it robs them of their future. Met so many people who shudder to meet someone in real life. They hide behind false emails and spurious phone numbers and hope that they are completely sure before making a commitment. There is a Buddhist expression that goes, "Every time I open my eyes in the morning, I have accomplished half my day." Commit to something and have some faith in the future, regardless of what the past has shown you.
Smiling at strangers on the subway
Why don't we smile at each other more? When did it become standard practice to stare off into the middle distance on the subway? Why is eye contact akin to stalking and grounds for macing someone or a dirty stare? Raised that a stranger is just a friend you haven't met yet. Tell my daughter this all the time and she is astounded how easy it is to talk to practically anyone.
Volunteering teaching ESL to absolutely awesome adults who would put anyone to shame with their incredibly tenacious belief that everything is possible. Completely beaming any time after one of those classes knowing I get more from them than I could ever give.
Are we all a little too paranoid about things?
Would rather read about a woman because she can tell me about herself in words than one or two sentences that leave me wondering who she is. Should be the same way for a man. The complaint being that men can't talk, what about one who can? Brevity may be the soul of wit, I just wonder if wit had anything interesting to say?
My child has a mom. Not here looking for a mom (this isn't that kind of a site, and eww for even thinking it). Here to meet someone for me. Should things work out, we'll see what that means for dynamics. Very open to the idea of having more. There is a joke that Charlie Chaplin had children until he was 92, he just couldn't hold them. Everything is negotiable. Because it's in a profile, doesn't mean it was transcribed from a somnambulating fiery shrub.
Nerds and Jocks
Knowing this is true:
Jocks may have ruled high school. Geeks have ruled everything else since. Exercising my inner jock and comfortable with my ulterior nerd.
Being courted by bots
I hear that women get all sorts of one-line emails, this is the one I received today, and honestly, it's pretty indicative of what I get, not sure if other men do, but this is mine:
hello dear nice to meet you here i will be happy to know you more if you dont mind we could chat on skype or whatsup
Believe it or not, that is a real email I received. Women think it's tough with the one-line "nice insert body part here emails, how do you react to something like this?
Women and men
* gender equality and that equal work, means equal pay (boo Republicans)
* opening doors
* putting notes in your lunch (perhaps even delivering it sometimes)
* standing aside to let you go first
* walking on the outside part of the sidewalk closest to the street (look it up, it used to be important)
* offering to pay for meals
* bringing flowers for no apparent reason
* old-fashioned, gentleman-like behavior
* romance, and doing things for the other person for no other reason than you want to and that you can actually help when it's not always required.
* having that "look" from across a room and knowing exactly what it means because you know each other well enough to have shared secrets.
* anticipating getting you alone, because that's the best part of my day
* shared interests
* sandwich night
* you can make things better because you should
* being intellectually curious (ABC=Always Be Curious)
* love at second sight. Have you heard of this concept?
* that chivalry doesn't mean that only men give up their seats on the subway? What happened to equality?
* the efficacy of honesty
What do you believe?
Conversation and current events
* Please be able to have a conversation and know what's going on in the world. It's important. We all live here.
* Does anyone else get through the weekly issue of the Economist? Never finish the current one before the next one shows up. It can't just be me. Is it written for speed-readers or people who can grasp socio-econo-political nuances through osmosis? Do they sleep with it under their pillow?
Why does height matter in a relationship? Who made that a "thing"? Some of the most powerful men in history have been with women taller than themselves. Have we progressed no further in evolution than to believe outdated stereotypes? Don't we all eventually want to look IN to each other's eyes, not strain our necks looking at the bottom of the other's chin? It's like the age criteria. If that is an issue, perhaps the priorities are more superficial than they need to be.
Well, can any of your neighbors tell, Kate, I'll ask them?
Why do many men feel this way trying to tell women how they feel?