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29 Chicago, IL Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 20–35
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Mar 29
Hispanic / Latin, White
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body type
Agnosticism, and somewhat serious about it
Virgo, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Science / Engineering
Rather not say
Open relationship
Has a kid
Likes dogs and likes cats

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My self-summary
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I am a well-educated, egalitarian tech-head with a healthy dose of bon vivant and doddering mad scientist in there to boot. I enjoy getting excited about the world and doing something about it.

ENTP, for those playing along along at home.

I enjoy traveling whenever I get the chance, even though it is not as frequent as I would like. I prefer to see how people in other areas live and create culture, rather than go to a bunch of tourist attractions.

My main forms of entertainment these days are reading and music. My music tastes veer towards ambient/industrial, and and my literature towards science fiction. However, I am always interested in anything that makes me challenge my own beliefs, and strongly believe that is the best way to grow as a person.
What I’m doing with my life
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I have transitioned from the point in my life where I am searching for meaning in my life, to the point where I am expanding to fill the roles that I have carved out for myself.

I am especially happy with my chosen career; as a software engineer I get to solve various engineering and math problems all day and get paid for it. I majored in Mathematics and Computer Science in college at the University of Chicago, so it was pretty probable that I would go down this path.

I am also a very proud father of a little girl. I spend a good deal of time thinking about how to arrange things best for her future, and as much time as I can being a Dad.

I enjoy creating things in whichever way I can, and talking about how to shape the future. I have been involved in community non-profit organization here in Chicago, and my personal interests still revolve around using technology to promote positive social change. I am looking for a good way to do this without getting too cynical.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Shuffling data from one place to another. I have managed to parlay this into my career, and I am quite happy about that!

I am not much of a planner, and this translates into my cooking being a chaotic experience. In conjunction with this, I am pretty good at assessing available resources and pulling off a good three-course meal off the cuff.
The first things people usually notice about me
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That I'm one rapier short of a musketeer.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I have largely outsourced these to other sites.

Authors I am fond of include Gene Wolfe, George R. R. Martin, Richard K. Morgan, Terry Pratchett, Philip K. Dick, Charles Stross, and Vernor Vinge. Much more on my Goodreads profile. Always looking for a good recommendation.

Movies: I don't really watch movies much. Perhaps I should fix that.

TV Shows: Being Human, Archer, Batman Beyond, Twin Peaks, Stargate (SG-1, Atlantis, Infinity). I don't really worry about TV much since I've already read the books for the more popular stuff (Walking Dead, Game of Thrones). I have an occasional soft-spot for anime I am somewhat annoyed that Knights of Sidonia and Attack on Titan are at the core, the same goddamn show.

Music: My tastes revolve around ambient, indie rock, and industrial, including Coil, Throbbing Gristle (Basically anything Peter Christopherson ever touched), Roxy Music, Talking Heads, David Bowie (basically anything Brian Eno ever touched), Controlled Bleeding, Light Asylum, Crystal Castles, Prurient, Cold Cave (anything either Dominick Fernow or Wesley Eisold ever touched) and much more that I can't reckon right now. More at

Food: I love cooking. I'm grateful that my CSA prompts me to get a much larger variety of vegetables into my diet than I might otherwise, and makes me get creative. My diet consists mostly of roast meat over lots of fresh veggies, and it's surprising the amount of variation that still gets you.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My daughter
The hive mind (i.e., internet)
Dynamic programming languages
A book or reading device of some sort
The Social Contract
Barley (hops implied)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How much of my life is determined by the characteristics of this meatsack I call my body.

The increasingly cybernetic way we are living our lives, and just how much of a cyberpunk dystopia we've managed to get ourselves stuck in.

Various ways in which I can automate the more mundane aspects of my life.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Trying to find a cohort what hasn't been exhausted by the week's efforts that can keep up with my manic energy.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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on January 14, 2006, I appeared completely naked on page 5 of the Chicago Tribune.
You should message me if
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You have a good book recommendation to give me. <-- Seriously, please do this.

You would like to go to any of these concerts with me.

You are an educated person who has managed to have some success in life, and are looking for companionship.

You are a (gender?)queer cis female approximately 5 years older than me. Somehow this has been a combination that works well for me, and it's great!

You have a FetLife account and/or understand why that might be problematic.

You aren't thrown into abject terror that I have already procreated. I am not looking for a mother for my daughter; she has one of those already.