Yes, I have face pics, but I'm selective about sending them.
I am non-monogamous and do have relationships of various types and intensities already in my life. Monogamy is 95% off the table for me; if it's a 100% necessary for you, then we're not compatible for dating. Compromise is possible, but if we have to start in a place where I have to do all the compromising, that creates a whole other set of issues. Feel free to message me for potential friendship.
I am looking for new people in my life, but it's not my life's focus. I have a great deal of love, commitment and affection in my chosen family; I'm not filling a void, and I'm not in a hurry. I don't do the online chat thing much if at all, so if I'm interested, I'm much more likely to try to find a time to meet you for coffee or a drink.
OkCupid keeps matching me with people I already know, so I do feel like it's system must work.
Note: I am interested in casual sex, but I took it off my list of "looking for" because too many people are clearly just writing to everyone who has that listed.
Just because I am interested in casual sex does not mean I am indiscriminate. I still want to know something about you. Being interested in casual sex is not enough of a common interest to get me interested in you. I have to actually like you enough to have sex with you, so say something interesting.
Being interested in casual sex also does not mean I am *not* interested in anything else.