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amonkeymonk

45 M San Francisco, CA

I’m looking for

  • Gay guys only
  • Ages 35–45
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Oct 5
Orientation
Gay
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Athletic
Diet
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Other, and somewhat serious about it
Sign
Virgo, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Working on university
Job
Medicine
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm a sun-loving, thrill-seeking, animal hugging, spiritualizing, music junkie, hyperactive hummingbird with a sweet tooth and a weakness for good kissers and movie dates. I meditate, do yoga, hit the gym, take my vocation and studies seriously, follow politics, and feed off the nectar and glowing sparks of my personal relationships and life's adventures. I'm here to learn, play, love, laugh, and be of some use on this big rock.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Working as a professional massage therapist at an amazingly beautiful healing arts center and spa set in the Marin Headlands, studying my way deeper into the health field (mostly aquatic bodywork), and rolling myself down the path to becoming a more joyous, happy, and free individual by digging deep, letting go, and taking life's opportunities.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Bodywork (not the happy ending kind of massage, sorry fellas, we're talkin deep tissue, thai, cranio-sacral, and watsu), singing (wishing I was in a band), kissing, swimming, finding ways to laugh, not taking life too seriously, petting dogs and cats, loving critters in general.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
People are usually shocked I'm 43 (hopefully my looks and not my actions). I get mislabeled as quiet or intimidating, but I'm just shy and take my time with new people. Soon, they see I'm actually quite playful, down-to-earth, warm, and genuine. If this question is really about body parts, then it's eyes and mouth (my eyes are up here guys!).
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
okay brace....i loves what i loves....

MUSIC: Beirut, Fleet Foxes, Broken Bells, Beach House, Empire of the Sun, Jonsi, Cloud Control, Cocteau Twins, Bjork, Jeff Buckley, Dead Can Dance, Elbow, Sigur Ros, Radiohead, Kristen Hersh (and yes Throwing Muses), Kate Bush, Supertramp, Sia, Throwing Muses, Tracy Chapman, Massive Attack, Everything But The Girl, Ray Lamontagne, Nada Surf, Broken Social Scene, Gotye, M83, Feist, This Mortal Coil, Royal City, and on and on and on

MOVIES: Harold and Maude, Triplets of Belleville, Waiting for Guffman, Blade Runner, Science of Sleep, Election, Sunshine, The Beach, The Road, Let Me In, The Princess & The Warrior, Fearless, Oliver! The Musical, Black Swan, The Incredibles, Magnolia, Grand Canyon, The Five Senses, Dancer in the Dark, Bullets Over Broadway, Hedwig & the Angry Inch, Little Shop of Horrors, Donnie Darko, Half Nelson, The Hunger, Clue, the original Hairspray, Run Lola Run, and on and on

T.V.: Six Feet Under, Breaking Bad, Nurse Jackie, So You Think You Can Dance?, Always Sunny in Philadelphia, The Tudors, The Daily Show, Rachel Maddow, etc.

BOOKS: Confession, reading wipes me out (ADHD) but aside from required reading (anatomy, science, bodywork, craniosacral therapy, etc.) I have enjoyed Skinny Legs & All, Music of Chance, New York Trilogy, The Fountainhead (not a political statement to me), The Witching Hour series, and a few others.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Music. Fruit. the Sun. Movies. Laughing. Kissing.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
What I should sing in my car. Real loud. Real real loud. Singing is my art form, as well as bodywork, and I like to take songs and find new ground with them. When I'm giving massage, or putting my spin on songs, I believe it's the truest expression of who I actually am. I feel connected to myself in my art forms. Spiritual even. I need to learn guitar!
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Coming home from a long day of massage around 9:30, so a quiet night in, cuz I work in the morning.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I like peanut M&Ms in popcorn.
Like I'm gonna publicly go deeper than this? I'm an open book, not a blog.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
If you aren't just looking for a hook-up, and aren't just looking for a husband. For me, it's not about paralyzing expectations or joyless surface encounters. If you're an ethical person who wants to make the world a better place than when you found it, and aren't bogged down in puffing yourself up and tearing others down. If you're not so hyper critical of others racing to disqualify them out of your life so you miss the opportunity to glimpse your real connection to the people around you. If you're not just existing in the gay bubble, or the hipster box, or the quicksand of complacency, or addictions. If you love the sun, the oceans, the fresh air, your body, your mind, your heart.