Looking for positive, open-minded individuals who have respect for
themselves (and for others) for genuine friendship and
Fair warning, I am only on okcupid once in a blue moon.
What I’m doing with my life
Nerding out big time (professionally, and in my "free time").
If you want to get together and drink too much caffeine while
talking about urban planning, restorative justice, food systems,
stories as data, CPTED, placemaking vs. gentrification, urban form,
the economics of happiness -- we will be best friends.
I’m really good at
Kissing, taking my vitamins regularly, shaking my money maker, and
embarrassing you in public.
The first things people usually notice about me
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Some fiction: Middlesex, White Noise, Autobiography of Red, Written
on the Body, Beyond the Pale, Xenogenisis.
Some non-fiction: The End of Gay: and the death of heterosexuality,
Sex at Dawn, Zami: A New Spelling Of My Name, A Continent for
I am currently reading Family Properties: How the struggle over
race and real estate transformed Chicago and urban America. It may
be the best book I have ever read.
The six things I could never do without
I spend a lot of time thinking about
I spend a lot of time thinking on those ill-structured concepts
which define our "human" existence: sex, gender, race, nationality,
class, creed; and about community, our cultures and our
counter-cultures; on churches, governments, the rule of law and
methods of establishing order. I think about how people categorize,
how they define, how they institute their zany ideas, and how they
very seldom seem to accomplish much more than self-deception. I
think about how people are just scared, creative, confused,
intelligent, emotional, self-absorbed, beautiful animals.
O. And shoes. I spend a considerable amount of time thinking about
You should message me if
a. You're smart.
b. You are a Feminist.
c. You can hold your ground.
d. You're silly/odd/goofy/obscene/witty/gnarly and sarcastic.
e. You are Body Positive.
f. You're a nerd and you'll hunker down, smoke a bowl, and watch
STNG or DS9 or BSG or Firefly with me.
Really, Don't bother if:
a. You identify as socially or politically conservative.
b. You're a Straight identified couple looking for a play toy for
c. You're pessimistic/not a people person/not an animal lover or
some other form of a socially regressed downer.