Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I've lived out here for 20 years, so my East Coast edge isn't so
sharp anymore. I'm committed to truth-telling, nurturing
relationships of many types, and learning by doing.
Mostly I see the glass as half-full. You too?
I live on that smallish isle west of Seattle, where I appreciate
the quiet and the quirkiness. I work virtually so can call many
places "my office" -- the car, a cafe in Fremont, a city park.
After a career in the non-profit I'm now an entrepreneur; I help
women leaders do what they do with integrity. Most definitely my
I need the urban buzz as much as I need my rural calm so I mix up
my time between the two. I was really torn about whether to answer
weekend in Paris or weekend camping. Both, please.
INFJ. 4 on the Enneagram (for those who know and/or care).
Politically left, but not rabid about it.
For me soul medicine comes in the form of dance or a great yoga
class or a good long hike. Sweat is sacred.
My kids (10 and 13) are at the center of my life, and I'm at the
center of theirs. This isn't meant to scare anyone away, but I
guess it needs to be said. They spend every other weekend with
their dad in Seattle.
I'm two years out of a long and challenging marriage, and have done
the requisite rebounding. Now I'm ready to be in a (happy and
Here's what I'm looking for in you:
Empathy. Not to be confused with sympathy. You're genuinely
interested in understanding who I am and how I feel. This is
reflected in your conversational style -- you share AND you ask.
You're mindful of stepping onto a soapbox (yawn).
Curiosity. You're intellectually hungry and it shows. Especially
attractive to me are the ones who admit they don't know when they
really don't know, and who then take it upon themselves to find
Sass. I like me a little edge. Not too much, but dry humor is what
enables me to stay up here in the PNW. Love it when I find
Self-awareness. You've done some work and you're honest about the
parts you still struggle with.
Kindness. Most important. Most essential.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Living simply, working smart, loving my kids, cultivating joy.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Listening. Connecting. Flirting. Being real. Grilling salmon. Doing
headstands. Knowing when to say Uncle.
The first things people usually notice about me
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That I'm easy to talk to.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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On my night table right now: Eve Ensler's memoir, poems by Mary
Oliver, The Sun magazine, five books on leadership. My kindle is
full of unread novels I'm going to get to soon!
Don't watch TV (NPR junkie) but I have been known to binge-watch on
Netflix when my kids aren't around. Especially addictive for me
were Orange is the New Black, Mad Men and Downton.
I dig music from far-flung places. I lived in Africa so have a
special fondness for soukous; also appreciate a latin beat. Oh, and
I have a dozen female vocalist stations on Pandora.
I'm not a super foodie but I've cultivated a great appreciation for
fresh and local. Lucky for me the PNW is doing this so well right
now. I was a vegetarian for many years and am glad to say I have
seen the light, or come over to the dark side, depending on how you
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
the big picture : how grateful I am. how amazing life is.
the small one : what to make for dinner, where to go on our next
vacation, my complicated calendar, what's my next right step work
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Laughing with friends. Folding laundry. Making something delicious
in the kitchen. Out and about, drinking cocktails and listening to
music. Engaged in a Boggle marathon with my kids. Watching a film.
Enjoying some solitude.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'll tell you on our second date.
You should message me if
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You should message me if my outlook resonates with yours. Also if
you're really done with your last relationship, you're playful with
words, and you love to flirt.
Who are you looking for?
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