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48 Vashon, WA Woman


I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 40–55
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 2:33pm
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Other, but not too serious about it
Leo, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from masters program
Rather not say
Strictly monogamous
Has kids, but doesn’t want more
Has dogs
English, French (Okay), Italian (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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I've lived out here for 20 years, so my East Coast edge isn't so sharp anymore. I'm committed to truth-telling, nurturing relationships of many types, and learning by doing.

Mostly I see the glass as half-full. You too?

I live on that smallish isle west of Seattle, where I appreciate the quiet and the quirkiness. I work virtually so can call many places "my office" -- the car, a cafe in Fremont, a city park. After a career in the non-profit I'm now an entrepreneur; I help women leaders do what they do with integrity. Most definitely my dream job.

I need the urban buzz as much as I need my rural calm so I mix up my time between the two. I was really torn about whether to answer weekend in Paris or weekend camping. Both, please.

INFJ. 4 on the Enneagram (for those who know and/or care). Politically left, but not rabid about it.

For me soul medicine comes in the form of dance or a great yoga class or a good long hike. Sweat is sacred.

My kids (10 and 13) are at the center of my life, and I'm at the center of theirs. This isn't meant to scare anyone away, but I guess it needs to be said. They spend every other weekend with their dad in Seattle.

I'm two years out of a long and challenging marriage, and have done the requisite rebounding. Now I'm ready to be in a (happy and healthy) relationship.

Here's what I'm looking for in you:
Empathy. Not to be confused with sympathy. You're genuinely interested in understanding who I am and how I feel. This is reflected in your conversational style -- you share AND you ask. You're mindful of stepping onto a soapbox (yawn).

Curiosity. You're intellectually hungry and it shows. Especially attractive to me are the ones who admit they don't know when they really don't know, and who then take it upon themselves to find out.

Sass. I like me a little edge. Not too much, but dry humor is what enables me to stay up here in the PNW. Love it when I find it.

Self-awareness. You've done some work and you're honest about the parts you still struggle with.

Kindness. Most important. Most essential.
What I’m doing with my life
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Living simply, working smart, loving my kids, cultivating joy.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Listening. Connecting. Flirting. Being real. Grilling salmon. Doing headstands. Knowing when to say Uncle.
The first things people usually notice about me
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That I'm easy to talk to.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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On my night table right now: Eve Ensler's memoir, poems by Mary Oliver, The Sun magazine, five books on leadership. My kindle is full of unread novels I'm going to get to soon!

Don't watch TV (NPR junkie) but I have been known to binge-watch on Netflix when my kids aren't around. Especially addictive for me were Orange is the New Black, Mad Men and Downton.

I dig music from far-flung places. I lived in Africa so have a special fondness for soukous; also appreciate a latin beat. Oh, and I have a dozen female vocalist stations on Pandora.

I'm not a super foodie but I've cultivated a great appreciation for fresh and local. Lucky for me the PNW is doing this so well right now. I was a vegetarian for many years and am glad to say I have seen the light, or come over to the dark side, depending on how you frame it.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Belly laughs.
The ocean.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
the big picture : how grateful I am. how amazing life is.

the small one : what to make for dinner, where to go on our next vacation, my complicated calendar, what's my next right step work wise.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Laughing with friends. Folding laundry. Making something delicious in the kitchen. Out and about, drinking cocktails and listening to music. Engaged in a Boggle marathon with my kids. Watching a film. Enjoying some solitude.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'll tell you on our second date.
You should message me if
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You should message me if my outlook resonates with yours. Also if you're really done with your last relationship, you're playful with words, and you love to flirt.