Mostly I see the glass as half-full. You too?
I live on that smallish isle west of Seattle, where I appreciate the quiet and the quirkiness. I work virtually so can call many places "my office" -- the car, a cafe in Fremont, a city park. After a career in the non-profit I'm now an entrepreneur; I help women leaders do what they do with integrity. Most definitely my dream job.
I need the urban buzz as much as I need my rural calm so I mix up my time between the two. I was really torn about whether to answer weekend in Paris or weekend camping. Both, please.
INFJ. 4 on the Enneagram (for those who know and/or care). Politically left, but not rabid about it.
For me soul medicine comes in the form of dance or a great yoga class or a good long hike. Sweat is sacred.
My kids (9 and 13) are at the center of my life, and I'm at the center of theirs. This isn't meant to scare anyone away, but I guess it needs to be said. They spend every other weekend with their dad in Seattle.
I'm two years out of a long and challenging marriage, and have done the requisite rebounding. Now I'm ready to be in a (happy and healthy) relationship.
Here's what I'm looking for in you:
Empathy. Not to be confused with sympathy. You're genuinely interested in understanding who I am and how I feel. This is reflected in your conversational style -- you share AND you ask. You're mindful of stepping onto a soapbox (yawn).
Curiosity. You're intellectually hungry and it shows. Especially attractive to me are the ones who admit they don't know when they really don't know, and who then take it upon themselves to find out.
Sass. I like me a little edge. Not too much, but dry humor is what enables me to stay up here in the PNW. Love it when I find it.
Self-awareness. You've done some work and you're honest about the parts you still struggle with.
Kindness. Most important. Most essential.